Terry Fox was born in Winnipeg, Manitoba, but he was raised in Port Coquitlam, British Columbia. When he was a teen, Terry Fox was very much involved in various sports, but at the age of 18, he was diagnosed with bone cancer, and had to have his right leg amputated above the knee. Right before the operation, Terry read about an amputee who had completed the New York Marathon. He was moved by the man’s courage and determination, and this story ended up being one of the main motivations behind Terry’s ambitious Marathon of Hope. In 1980, he began the Marathon of Hope, a cross-country run to raise money for cancer research. Fox hoped to raise one dollar for each of Canada’s 24 million people.
He began with little fanfare from St. John’s, Newfoundland, in April and ran the equivalent of a full marathon every day. Fox had become a national star by the time he reached Ontario; he made numerous public appearances with businessmen, athletes, and politicians in his efforts to raise money. He was forced to end his run outside of Thunder Bay when the cancer spread to his lungs. His hopes of overcoming the disease and completing his marathon ended when he died nine months later.
Terry never finished his run, stopping near Thunder Bay, Ontario after running 5373 kilometers over 143 days worn out and in need of medical attention as his cancer reappeared in his lungs. Terry passed away at the age of 22 on June 28, 1981. Year 1981 witnessed the first Annual Terry Fox Run, it has involved millions of participants in over 60 countries and presently it is the world’s largest one-day fundraiser for cancer research; over C$500 million has been raised in his name.
Fox was the youngest person ever named a Companion of the Order of Canada. He won the 1980 Lou Marsh Award as the nation’s top sportsman and was named Canada’s Newsmaker of the Year in both 1980 and 1981. Considered a national hero, he has had many buildings, roads and parks named in his honor across the country.
“Everybody seems to have given up hope of trying. I haven’t. It isn’t easy and it isn’t supposed to be, but I’m accomplishing something. How many people give up a lot to do something good. I’m sure we would have found a cure for cancer 20 years ago if we had really tried”
-Fox speaking outside of Ottawa.
Today Fox has become immortal, with a number of statues being carved, he is alive in the heart of millions.
Today movies are being made about Terry. Books have been written. Roads are named after him. Schools and Hospitals are named after him. Terry is the burning example that it does not take various lifetimes to leave a mark, but a single life spent doing something extraordinary. Terry was an ordinary human being with an extraordinary heart. Even though he lived for a short period of 22 years, he did something so great to be remembered for the decades to come.
Takacs spent a month in the hospital depressed at both the loss of his hand, and the end to his Olympic dream. At that point most people would have quit. And they would have probably spent the rest of their life feeling sorry for themselves. Most people would have quit but not Takacs. Takacs was a winner. Winners know that they can’t let circumstances keep them down. They understand that life is hard and that they can’t let life beat them down. Winners know in their heart that quitting is not an option.
Takacs did the unthinkable; he picked himself up, dusted himself off, and decided to learn how to shoot with his left hand! His reasoning was simple. He simply asked himself, “Why not?”
For months Takacs practiced by himself. No one knew what he was doing. Maybe he didn’t want to subject himself to people who most certainly would have discouraged him from his rekindled dream.
When a boxer gets knocked down, he has ten seconds to get back up. If he gets up in eleven seconds, he loses the fight. Remember that next time you get knocked down.
Takacs could have let his terrible accident cause him to become permanently discouraged, to take up heavy drinking, to quit on life all together, and maybe even to end his own life. He could have acted like a loser.
But Takacs made the DECISION to dig deep inside and to find a solution. To pick himself up and to learn to shoot all over again. Winners always search for a solution. Losers always search for an escape.
Surround yourself with positive people!
If you are ever going to live a satisfying, meaningful and successful life, the kind of people you surround yourself with plays an important role. It is being said that you are who you surround yourself with. If you hang out with positive people, you’ll be a positive person and if you hang out with negative people, you’ll definitely see life from a negative angle.
Try to answer these questions;
Who is on your team?
Who do you hang out with?
Who are those you spend most of your time with?
Are they people that build you up or the ones that pull you down?
Are they feeding the positive side of you or the ones that feeds the negativity?
Birds of a feather flock together. Many friends don’t have anything good to offer. They are with you to only impact you negatively.
If you keep friends that don’t add to you in any way, I bet they are not worthy to be called your friends. Don’t not worry about what they think of you. There will always be those who want to see you fail simply because they can’t succeed.
Beware of toxic and negative relatives, friends or colleagues. Flee from them as fast as you can because they don’t deserve you. It is impossible for negative people to bring forth anything positive out of you. Negative people possess negative mindset.
They see no reason to pursue their dreams because they already saw it as an impossible task even right before they started it. They might not have ever imagined what you must be willing to achieve. They can never let you succeed in such a situation.
Possibility doesn’t exist in their dictionary. When you tell negative people about your dreams, they tell you only about the challenges in order to make you lose focus. They hardly see the goals. For you to achieve success, you need to first imbibe a positive mindset yourself. You need to see possibilities in your dreams. Then surround yourself with positive people that believe in your dreams. People that build you up mentally, physically and spiritually. People that are ready to influence you positively. People that you learn from always. People that their advices you can’t joke with. People that make you believe success is achievable! Because that is why you are here. You deserve success.
You must pursue the greatness you have, you are born with huge potential and you have no right to limit yourself. You have to and you MUST succeed.
“If you can change your mind, you can change your life.
What you believe creates the actual fact.
The greatest revolution of my generation is to discover that
Individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change
the outer aspects of their lives.”
– William James
Transform self-sabotage into success. By discovering the positive intent behind a negative behavior or attitude,
you can release tremendous energy and positive commitment. In his outstanding book Sleight Of Mouth:
The Magic Of Conversational Belief Change, master trainer and famous NLP developer Robert Dilts says:
“At some level all behavior is (or at one time was) “positively intended.” It is or was perceived as appropriate given the context in which it was established, from the point of view of the person whose behavior it is. It is easier and more productive to respond to the intention rather than the expression of a problematic behavior. “
Here are the steps to Find Positive Intentions in the whatever you do…
Step #1. Define the problem.
Briefly state the problem with enough detail so that it is clear in your mind. Mind must be clear about what
the exact problem is. It may primarily be a situation, personal problem, or a challenge. Define what meaning you
give to an Unproductive Behavior. Be clear about what behavior is productive. State the reason for the meaning you gave,
why any particular behavior is unproductive as per you. You must be clear about it, with no confusions.
Step #2. Reveal the Underlying Motives
Take a few minutes to relax, breathe deeply and lay back. Now, go inside, imagine your mind has special internal messengers.”
These are parts of your personality, which have characteristic tendencies or habitual behaviors.
Find the part that is responsible for generating the unproductive behavior.
Bring this part into awareness as though it were a complete personality.
Remember that a part is an aspect of you.
A part is like a little personality inside of you. In order to be aligned and successful,
you must not work at cross purposes with yourself. This requires negotiating or working with your parts.
Now imagine that you can do a role playing game with this particular part. Ask the part what it
wanted to have, do or become, through the negative behavior or attitude. What value or benefit it
expects to get from this. Ask directly, “What did you wish for me to accomplish by doing this?”
Take as much time as you need to imagine and listen to the part’s responses.
Step #3. Get to the core motives.
Keep asking “why” and “what” questions to clarify the motives. Recycle each answer into a new question.
Practice questioning until you feel that you have gotten to the core motives. You should identify a
core belief along with the core value and core reasons for the behaviors or attitudes that, at first glance,
seem to be unsupportive of you.
Anchoring is how we get into the right state for what we want to do.
You connect a symbol with the desired state, or resource state. It’s called a resource state, because
you are more resourceful when you are in that state. This is the state when you can
make the best use of the resources you have. Of course, the state must be a good resource state
for what you have in mind. It must be congruent to what you wished to accomplish. If you have
intense confidence and desire for opportunity as a resource state, it would be very
good for a job interview, and maybe not so good for being a grief counselor.
Here’s a Short yet Useful Script that will surely help you to practice Anchoring on your own-self.
Decide what state you want to create an anchor for. For example, perhaps you would like
to anchor a good state for meeting and negotiating. Whatever it is chose one … Move into
third position, as if you are watching your life in a movie. Recall all the times that you felt
some aspect of that state.
Every time you feel some aspect of the desired state, amplify it and expand it.
See yourself in the movie experiencing that state, and let yourself as the observer
feel it as well. (That’s a little different from the usual third position experience.)
Keep doing that until you feel the state intensely …
Each time you think of a time in which you felt some aspect of that state, see what
is most visually positive and compelling. Emphasize those visual elements in the
movie. Hear what is most audibly positive and compelling … Hear any words that
others said or that you could say that are most mentally positive and compelling …
Feel what is most palpably positive and compelling … Feel whatever internal
sensations are most positive and compelling, like feeling very up or expansive … See
yourself now, standing in a nice place,fully feeling that state, and see how you look
in that state–your facial expression, your posture, you can even add cosmic energy
of just the right color streaming into your aura.
Now create a sign with your hand such as an OK sign, one that you would not
do very often, or interlace your fingers in the opposite way from normal, and hold
that position while you imagine moving into first position (directly in the feelings)
with your eyes closed (so there are no distractions from the feeling), and savor the
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About a hundred years ago, a man looked at the morning newspaper and to his surprise and horror, read his name in the obituary column. The news papers had reported the death of the wrong person by mistake. His first response was shock. Am I here or there? When he regained his composure, his second thought was to find out what people had said about him.
The obituary read, “Dynamite King Dies.” And also “He was the merchant of death.” This man was the inventor of dynamite and when he read the words “merchant of death,” he asked himself a question, “Is this how I am going to be remembered?” He got in touch with his feelings and decided that this was not the way he wanted to be remembered.
From that day on, he started working toward peace. His name was Alfred Nobel and he is remembered today by the great Nobel Prize. Alfred Nobel 1833-1896 Since 1901, the Nobel Prize has been honoring men and women from all corners of the globe for outstanding achievements in physics, chemistry, medicine, literature, and for work in peace.
The foundations for the prize were laid in 1895 when Alfred Nobel wrote his last will, leaving much of his wealth to the establishment of the Nobel Prize Just as Alfred Nobel got in touch with his feelings and redefined his values, we should step back and do the same.
What is your legacy?
How would you like to be remembered?
Will you be spoken well of?
Will you be remembered with love and respect?
Will you be missed? !!!
#Remember:- Your Life is a your message to the world, make sure its Inspiring.
The Swish is an NLP technique for dealing with unpleasant feelings.
This is a valuable technique for managing negative thoughts and feelings about:
- The past: e.g. feelings from embarrassing or irritating memories
- The present: e.g. feelings provoked by self-undermining thoughts
- The future: e.g. anxiety-provoking thoughts about forthcoming situations.
Credits for the creation of this NLP pattern belong to Richard Bandler and John Grinder. This helps to Break an automatic thought or behavior pattern, and replace it with a resourceful one. Use the Swish pattern for problems such as smoking cessation, anger management, public speaking, nervousness, self-confidence, and self-esteem. The Swish is an NLP technique for dealing with unpleasant feelings. With the help of this amazing technique one can get free from any bad habit, he wants to leave. This Transforms your Negativity into Positivity as you will now be able to replace the Negative thoughts into Positive Ones and All your Limiting Beliefs will now be Destroyed with consistent Practice.
Following Steps will help you to Understand the Working of this Powerful Technique.
Step 1. Recognize the automatic reaction
Recognize the automatic reaction , the thoughts, feelings, or images that occur to you when you think of the challenging situation.
Select a replacement image, something inspiring, such as a really good outcome that helps create a positive state.
Imagine yourself in a dissociated image, the third perceptual position, as if you are watching yourself in a movie.
Enhance the qualities, such as submodalities of the scene until it is as compelling as possible.
*Submodalities refers to the subjective structural subdivisions within a given representational system.
Step 2. Determine the trigger of the negative image
Discover what tells your mind to produce the negative image or behavior.This is the very crucial stage of self analysis and you must be Very Honest to yourself.
Ask yourself, “What occurs just before this negative or unwanted state begins?” This time, you want an associated scene (first position, looking through your own eyes) of what is going on immediately before you engage in the unwanted activity.
Remember to think in terms of sub-modalities to get a detailed sense of the scene. It functions as a trigger for the non-resourceful state.
Step 3. Place the replacement
Put the replacement off in the corner of the negative image. For Example you want to replace the Feeling of Failure with the one of Learning from the event that has happened. Imagine a small, postage-stamp-sized version of your replacement scene in the bottom corner of the negative scene.
Step 4. Swish the two images
You will be making both images change simultaneously and with increasing speed. The bad feeling getting smaller and smaller with an increase in size of the picture of something positive you want to replace it with. When you Swish, have the negative scene become smaller and shoot off into the distance. At the same time, have the positive replacement image zip in closer and larger, rapidly and completely replacing the negative scene.
Imagine it making a strong sound (a sound that you can easily associate with) as it zips into place.
At first, you’ll probably do this slowly, taking a few seconds to complete the Swish.
As you repeat the process, you will be able to do it faster and faster, until you Swish nearly instantaneously.
Step 5. Repeat
Clear your mind after each Swish. This is very important. Do this by thinking of something else, such as your favorite color or what you need to do later. Remember to breathe easily during the Swish and the breaks. Do the Swish five to seven times, repeating steps three to five each time.
You know you have a good outcome when you have some difficulty maintaining the negative image.
Step 6. Test
Now try to use the limiting thought or behavior again. Notice how hard, if not impossible, it is for you to act it out. Notice that you actually have to think about how to do it first; it is not as automatic as it used to be. If you feel that you could relapse, use the Swish again in a day or two, and again after a week.
You Need To Practice on a Regular Basis So that you can have a Grip over It.
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