Many people approach life with the perspective that life is just hard and dreams are for fools. Although there are unavoidable challenges, they don’t have to define your existence. If you embrace these 17 principles, they will actually change your life.
1. Celebrate your victories.
When something positive happens, take some time to celebrate. It could be as simple as dinner with your team or as elaborate as a vacation away with your spouse. Celebration reminds you that effort deserves reward.
2. Embrace change as an agent of growth.
Be the person who looks forward to change. If it’s time for a new career or a move away from home, get excited about the possibilities! Taking advantage of change will put you ahead of the pack. Success comes from being a change initiator.
3. Design the life you want.
What happens this year depends what you plan. Set aside time at the beginning of the year to decide how you want things to look at the end. Look at all major areas: family, career, health, and social relationships. Create small actions to carry out daily, weekly, and monthly to make it happen. Review and adjust regularly as you progress.
4. Live each day with determination.
Setbacks will come. You must determine ahead of time that you will move forward no matter the circumstances. At every point of decision ask yourself, “Will this move me closer to my goals?” If not, then set it aside.
5. Exercise regularly and vigorously.
There is no feeling like the high just after a great workout. In addition, a healthy body makes everything easier. Put together a fitness regimen with physical goals. Maybe you could run your first 5K or join friends in a regular game of basketball. Just get out and move.
6. Make friends with failure.
Success is only reached through failure. Don’t just embrace failure, run toward it. The faster you fail, the faster you succeed! When you get rejected, you learn what doesn’t work and how to adjust your tactics.
7. Have faith that you’re not alone.
Know there is more to this life than you can see. Work to help others have hope.
8. Prioritize your family.
Love your family and be there for them. Give them the best of your time each day. Success is of no value unless it can be shared with those you love. Remember that family can be more than just those related by flesh and blood.
9. Make fear your target.
Fear is often a construct of our own minds and only has the power given by us. Fear feeds on time so move quickly toward your goals and fear will be left behind. Look back on your life. You’ll see every great success came by running through fear.
10. Forgive others and yourself.
Resentment only hurts the person who holds it in their heart. Forgive those who have wronged you and you will be the one to feel freedom. Above all, forgive yourself.
11. Shower the world with grace.
Assume others mean you no harm. Grant them grace when they fail. Follow the Golden Rule and treat them as you would like to be treated.
12. Commit to continual growth.
Most people stop learning when a teacher is no longer making them. Without growth, stagnation is inevitable. Take time every day to feed your mind and soul by reading and listening to positive information. What you accomplish depends on what you’re telling yourself. Growth fuels success by opening your mind to greater possibilities.
13. Choose to be a person of joy.
How much you enjoy life depends on how much you decide to enjoy life. Remove negative influences, whether they’re people or media. Choose to love life. Share your joy with others and your own will increase.
14. Center your life on peace.
Give yourself regular times of peace to rest and reflect. Get enough sleep to renew your mind and body. Allow yourself opportunities to step back from the hard work of building your dream to maintain a healthy balance.
15. Find and live your purpose.
Take time to reflect inward on what gives you the greatest joy. This is likely your purpose. Use it to make the world a better place. Find ways to improve the lives of others and lighten their burdens.
16. Release your past for good.
Let go of anything from your past that is holding you back. Harboring old hurts, abuses, or pain will only slow you down. Don’t let what others say or think slow you down. Release it and know that you can start again and have the success you believe is possible.
17. Take action to change your life.
Nothing else matters if you don’t take action. Determine that 2016 is the year you will do something, every day, that brings you closer to the dream you have for yourself and your family. Take action … and do it now.
What do you need to find and develop within yourself to be successful? The answer comes from looking at those who have created success in a variety of fields. These traits may sound simple, but they lead to remarkable results.
If you really want to bring success into your life, you should cultivate yourself just as you’d cultivate a garden for the best yield.
Here are the traits that the highly successful cultivate. How many do you have?
You have the determination to work harder than most and make sure things get done. You pride yourself on seeing things getting completed and you take charge when necessary. You drive yourself with purpose and align yourself with excellence.
You can shoulder responsibilities and be accountable. You make hard decisions and stand by them. To think for yourself is to know yourself.
You have the strength to see things through–you don’t vacillate or procrastinate. When you want it, you make it happen. The world’s greatest achievers are those who have stayed focused on their goals and been consistent in their efforts.
You are willing to be patient, and you understand that, in everything, there are failures and frustrations. To take them personally would be a detriment.
This should not have to be said, but it’s seriously one of the most important attributes you can cultivate. Honesty is the best policy for everything you do; integrity creates character and defines who you are.
If you want to succeed, if you want to live, it’s not politeness but rather passion that will get you there. Life is 10 percent what you experience and 90 percent how you respond to it.
You can relate to others, which in turns makes everything reach further and deepen in importance.
You know there is much to achieve and much good in this world, and you know what’s worth fighting for. Optimism is a strategy for making a better future–unless you believe that the future can be better, you’re unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.
You trust yourself. It’s as simple as that. And when you have that unshakeable trust in yourself, you’re already one step closer to success.
You work to communicate and pay attention to the communicators around you. Most important, you hear what isn’t being said. When communication is present, trust and respect follow.
No one plans on being mediocre; mediocrity happens when you don’t plan. If you want to succeed, learn the traits that will make you successful and plan on living them out every day.
Be humble and great. Courageous and determined. Faithful and fearless. That is who you are, and who you have always been.
Thomas Edison was an American inventor and businessman, best known for inventing the light bulb, phonograph and motion picture camera which has greatly influenced the whole world.
He is also credited to creating the first industrial research laboratory.
Check out some great quotes by Thomas Edison below:
35 Motivational & Inspirational Thomas Edison Quotes:
1. “If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.” – Thomas Edison
2. “His genius he was quite content in one brief sentence to define; Of inspiration one percent, of perspiration, ninety nine.” – Thomas Edison
3. “Hell, there are no rules here – we’re trying to accomplish something.” – Thomas Edison
4. “The best thinking has been done in solitude. The worst has been done in turmoil.” – Thomas Edison
5. “Nearly every man who develops an idea works it up to the point where it looks impossible, and then he gets discouraged. That’s not the place to become discouraged.” – Thomas Edison
6. “When I have fully decided that a result is worth getting I go ahead of it and make trial after trial until it comes.” – Thomas Edison
7. “The value of an idea lies in the using of it.” – Thomas Edison
8. “To have a great idea, have a lot of them.” – Thomas Edison
9. “To invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.” – Thomas Edison
10. “I know this world is ruled by infinite intelligence. Everything that surrounds us- everything that exists – proves that there are infinite laws behind it. There can be no denying this fact. It is mathematical in its precision.” – Thomas Edison
11. “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison
12. “Just because something doesn’t do what you planned it to do doesn’t mean it’s useless.” – Thomas Edison
13. “The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.” – Thomas Edison
14. “Anything that won’t sell, I don’t want to invent. Its sale is proof of utility, and utility is success.” – Thomas Edison
15. “I start where the last man left off.” – Thomas Edison
16. “Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
17. “The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common sense.” – Thomas Edison
18. “There is far more opportunity than there is ability.” – Thomas Edison
19. “Your worth consists in what you are and not in what you have.” – Thomas Edison
20. “One might think that the money value of an invention constitutes its reward to the man who loves his work. But… I continue to find my greatest pleasure, and so my reward, in the work that precedes what the world calls success.” – Thomas Edison
21. “Be courageous. I have seen many depressions in business. Always America has emerged from these stronger and more prosperous. Be brave as your fathers before you. Have faith! Go forward!” – Thomas Edison
22. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
23. “Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.” – Thomas Edison
24. “Waste is worse than loss. The time is coming when every person who lays claim to ability will keep the question of waste before him constantly. The scope of thrift is limitless.” – Thomas Edison
25. “The chief function of the body is to carry the brain around.”
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” – Thomas Edison
26. “It is astonishing what an effort it seems to be for many people to put their brains definitely and systematically to work.” – Thomas Edison
27. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
28. “Restlessness is discontent and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.” – Thomas Edison
29. “I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.” – Thomas Edison
30. “To my mind the old masters are not art; their value is in their scarcity.” – Thomas Edison
31. “There’s a way to do it better – find it.” – Thomas Edison
32. “There is no substitute for hard work.” – Thomas Edison
33. “I have friends in overalls whose friendship I would not swap for the favor of the kings of the world.” – Thomas Edison
34. “I never did anything by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by work.” – Thomas Edison
35. “Discontent is the first necessity of progress.” – Thomas Edison
What’s your favorite Thomas Edison Quote? Share your favorite quote in the comment section below.
Success needs the support of others. There are things you can do alone and this could take you to where you want to be fast. But there are things you need to do with others, that will take you on the further road to success.
The problem is in your ability to distinguish between those people you really need to help you to further your desires and those who cannot.
Here are 7 types of people who will certainly help you succeed in life:
1. The kindhearted friend
This type of person is willing to offer you anything from kind words, to their network list to even some financial aid for you to go ahead and pursue your dreams. The kindhearted friend is generous and desires to see you progress. If they notice your potential, they feel they owe it to you to give you what you need to be successful.
2. The die-hard optimist
When you are overwhelmed with challenges and obstacles, you need this kind of person to help you see the positive angle from where you are standing. A positive view is one that takes you in the right direction and helps you focus on results rather than your limitations. The die-hard optimist may be a dreamer or a philosopher but they definitely want to know that everything will work out for your own good after all.
3. The mentor
Everyone knows the value of a mentor in becoming successful. The mentor is who has the experience and has sailed through the journey of success. They certainly have made mistakes and have lessons from them which they can impart you with. They are concerned about your growth and are willing to provide advice, guidance and perspective as you go through your journey.
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” – Steven Spielberg
4. The devil’s advocate
As much as you need someone who is willing to dream with you and make such dreams seem effortless, you also need the devil’s advocate. The devil’s advocate is one who looks at a goal logically and critically and identifies any weakness in it. Yes this may not be a pleasurable role for anyone, as they say the truth is always hurting. However you need such person around you since they will help you identify the thorns in the rose.
5. The inspirational figure
What separates this role from that of the mentor is that the inspirational figure could be more of the role model rather than one who simply guides you through the hurdles of success. The inspirational figure can be more distant from you, but they’re solid in deeds and character. Yet they will serve as the ideal model for you to follow.
“I think a role model is a mentor – someone you see on a daily basis, and you learn from them.” – Denzel Washington
6. The loyalist
The loyalist sees you for your strengths and is a full time supporter of your cause. They want you to succeed and to them you can do no wrong on this journey to reach your goals. They have your back at any hour and would go to great lengths to help you succeed. They may not be consistent in your life but when you need them they would always come to the party. The thing about the loyalist is that they are there for you all the way, and they rarely retreat, even in the face of ridicule. They believe in you and your dreams and will always be a loyal companion.
7. The sidekick
This is more like a companion, a buddy, a full time supporter of your cause. They are there for you, not simply because they are loyal, but because they have skills that you can also tap from. They are astute and make opportunities happen. The thing about the sidekick is that they are effective because they know you like no other person does and have always been present in your life.
Do you have these 7 types of people in your inner circle? Please leave you thoughts in the comment section below!
We can try to figure out the hard parts of life, the challenges, to open the closed doors of life on our own—or we can refer to humankind’s wisdom.
1.”If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room. “
I need to challenge myself to inspire yourself: I need to work with those who know their passion if I want to succeed.
2.”There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” ~ Ernest Hemingway
When I’m mean to others in order to make myself feel better, I make myself smaller. “Do you feel victory when your words cause pain?”
3. “An amateur practices until he can play it correctly, a professional practices until he can’t play it incorrectly.” Or, better, since perfection is not the object: “The master has failed more times than the beginner has tried.”
4. “We judge ourselves by our intentions but others by their actions.”
Boom. Perspective. This one has stuck with me. As VP Biden put it today, we can judge other’s actions, but not their motivation.
5. “If it takes less than five minutes, just do it now.”
Don’t procrastinate. The obstacle will fester, and it will take the same amount of time to do then as now but you will have lived with the festering for longer. As Trungpa Rinpoche puts it, approach the challenge directly.
6. “If you don’t have time to do it right, you must have time to do it over.”
Measure twice. Slow down. Breathe. The Lincoln quote about sharpening the axe comes to mind.
7. “When you are torn between 2 choices, always pick the one that will make the best story – grandpa always said this and once I started following it, life became a lot more interesting.”
Approach your cowardice as if stepping forward will make for an adventure. It will.
8. “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.”
So, work hard. Because some talent out there works hard, too. “90% of talent is interest.” Pick your passion—but that’s not enough. Here’s more on Right Livelihood.
9. Criticism, if constructive, is a greater gift and a surer sign of true friendship than complements.
10. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Or, Buddha: holding onto anger is like holding onto a piece of hot coal preparing to throw it at someone. You’re the one who gets burned.
11. It’s okay if it’s not okay. It’s okay for things to not always be okay.
Listen to some Blues. Be okay with not okay. Practice tonglen.
Loneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my medical practice and workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet remaining single for years. Or else they’re in relationships but feel constantly fatigued and overwhelmed. The reason isn’t simply that “there aren’t enough emotionally available people ‘out there,'” nor is their burnout”neurotic.” Personally and professionally, I’ve discovered that something more is going on.[caption id="attachment_1607" align="aligncenter" width="640" class=" "] Image Credit: Lonerwolf.com[/caption]
Emotional empaths are a species unto themselves. Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. Why? We tend to intuit and absorb our partner’s energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don’t have time to decompress in our own space. We’re super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with fifty fingers instead of five.
Energetically sensitive people unknowingly avoid romantic partnership because deep down they’re afraid of getting engulfed. Or else, they feel engulfed when coupled, a nerve-wracking, constrictive way to live. If this isn’t understood, empaths can stay perpetually lonely; we want companionship, but, paradoxically, it doesn’t feel safe.
For emotional empaths to be at ease in a relationship, the traditional paradigm for coupling must be redefined. Most of all, this means asserting your personal space needs–the physical and time limits you set with someone so you don’t feel they’re on top of you. Empaths can’t fully experience emotional freedom with another until they do this. Your space needs can vary with your situation, upbringing, and culture. My ideal distance to keep in public is at least an arm’s length. In doctors’ waiting rooms I’ll pile my purse and folders on the seats beside me to keep others away. With friends it’s about half that. With a mate it’s variable. Sometimes it’s rapture being wrapped in his arms; later I may need to be in a room of my own, shut away. All of us have an invisible energetic border that sets a comfort level. Identifying and communicating yours will prevent you from being bled dry by others. Then intimacy can flourish, even if you’ve felt suffocated before.
If you’re an empath or if the ordinary expectations of coupledom don’t jibe with you practice the following tips.
Tips for empaths to feel at ease in a relationship:
Tip 1. What to say to a potential mate
As you’re getting to know someone, share that you’re a sensitive person, that you periodically need quiet time. The right partner will be understanding; the wrong person will put you down for being “overly sensitive,” won’t respect your need.
Tip 2. Clarify your preferred sleep style
Traditionally, partners sleep in the same bed. However, some empaths never get used to this, no matter how caring a mate. Nothing personal; they just like their own sleep space. Speak up about your preferences. Feeling trapped in bed with someone, not getting a good night’s rest, is torture. Energy fields blend during sleep, which can overstimulate empaths. So, discuss options with your mate. Because non-empaths may feel lonelysleeping alone, make compromises when possible.
Tip 3. Negotiate your square footage needs
You may be thrilled about your beloved until you live together. Experiment with creative living conditions so your home isn’t a prison. Breathing room is mandatory. Ask yourself, “What space arrangements are optimal?” Having an area to retreat to, even if it’s a closet? A room divider? Separate bathrooms? Separate houses? I prefer having my own bedroom/office to retreat to.
Tip 4. Travel wisely
Traveling with someone, you may want to have separate space too. If sharing a room is the only option, hanging a sheet as a room divider will help. “Out of sight” may make the heart grow fonder.
Tip 5. Take regular mini-breaks
Empaths require private downtime to regroup. Even a brief escape prevents emotional overload. Retreat for five minutes into the bathroom with the door shut. Take a stroll around the block. Read in a separate room.
In my medical practice, I’ve seen this creative approach to relationships save marriages and make ongoing intimacies feel safe, even for emotional empaths (of all ages) who’ve been lonely and haven’t had a long-term partner before. Once you’re able to articulate your needs, emotional freedom in your relationships is possible.
Author: Judith Orloff MD
Judith Orloff MD is author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life(link is external) now available in paperback and upon which this article is based. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness.
What exactly is the “Law of Attraction”? What’s all the buzz about?
From watching movies like The Secret, people may falsely assume the Law of Attraction is just a series of techniques you can use when you want to manifest something. You use the technique, you manifest what you want.
Though it is true that there are techniques you can use to manifest the life of your dreams, it’s important to remember that everything you do is manifesting. It’s not just about the things you do on purpose, it’s about the way you think, talk, and live your entire life.
When you realize this, it becomes much more apparent that using the Law of Attraction isn’t just about “techniques” or “tricks.” It’s a lifestyle – an empowered way of living your life.
It is my hope that these 7 simple hacks will help you easily and effectively manifest the dreams and goals that you have for yourself.
1. Start Your Day with Positivity
The morning, right when you are waking up, is a magical time for your mind. As you are waking up and putting yourself together for the day, your mind is making a big transition from the unconscious, abstract world of sleeping and dreaming to the more rational, concrete reality of day-to-day life. What you are thinking, feeling, and believing during this time has a profound rippling effect on your entire day.
Starting the day with a positive affirmation is one of the absolute best things you can do for yourself!
As soon as you wake up, declare positivity into the day! Bless it. Find something to be grateful for and focus on it. Instill your intention (for peace, positivity, abundance – whatever it may be) into your subconscious mind to instantly start finding reasons for the day to be fantastic!
The morning is also a great time to do spiritual practices like yoga or meditation, or to at least give yourself a little dose of something you love, whether it’s music, creative writing, that cup of coffee or tea, or some extra snuggle time with your cat.
2. Balancing the Scale
No matter who you are or what you do, you are always going to encounter a certain degree of negativity throughout your day as you interact with the world and feel it interacting with you.
Understand that you do not become a master of the Law of Attraction by avoiding negativity to the point that you are in denial. Yes, we always do what we can do to stay in a positive environment and think positive thoughts, but sometimes we must also jump into the mud and get some work done. No mud, no lotus.
Fortunately for us, positive thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are much, much stronger than negative ones. What this means is that you can help balance the scale of what you are manifesting throughout your day-to-day life by taking just a few minutes (ideally around 10) each day to intentionally think only positive thoughts.
By taking the time to do this every day, whether by writing it down on paper, or visualizing happy thoughts, events, and memories in your mind, you will rapidly begin to notice a turning of the scale in how many positive things and events find their way into your life. You attract what you emit, so be consciously aware of the type of thoughts you are emitting.
3. Give Yourself the Present Moment
Take a break from the constant stream of thoughts running through the mind (in yoga this is called “chitta vritti” – mind chatter, or the “monkey mind”) by bringing yourself back to the present moment. Being fully present drastically accelerates the progression of the manifestation process. In the present moment one can truly find peace, and deeply authentic joy. And it is this that will truly manifest the happiness, fulfillment and abundance that we crave at the depth of our being – and not the objects, money, events, or other external things that we tend to latch onto. True happiness is a STATE, not an external object, event, or circumstance.
To begin practicing presence, simply take 1-2 minute breaks several times throughout your day to just stop, breathe, let go of the mind for a second, and enjoy the richness of what is going on now. The more often you do this, the more you will grow accustomed to the acquired taste of “nowness,” and the more you will begin to realize how pleasurable your life really is.
4. The Magical Question
Before you lay down to go to sleep, there is one very simple and magical question that you can ask yourself that has the potential to refocus your mind, both at the conscious and subconscious level, on gratitude, blessings, and goodness.
By asking ourselves the right questions, we elicit responses in the deeper parts of our mind that make a HUGE difference in what we manifest in our day-to-day lives.
The question is this: What was the best thing that happened to me today?
The fact that it is a question is powerful in and of itself, because a question encourages the subconscious mind to answer it. By asking ourselves the right questions, we elicit responses in the deeper parts of our mind that make a HUGE difference in what we manifest in our day-to-day lives.
That’s it. I often times find that when I ask myself this question, my mind goes to situations and events that I may have completely forgotten about throughout the day. Little things that have meaning pop up out of the mental noise, and what was right and happy and good becomes the primary focus again.
5. Learn to Access the Slower Brainwave States
The secret of accessing slower brainwave states has been known and utilized by sages, mystics, and shamans across all time periods, disciplines, and parts of the world. I personally believe that this is the key ingredient in manifesting what you want into the world. This secret is “the secret behind the secret.”
The modern theory is that these slower brainwave states (alpha, theta, delta) enable the conscious mind to more clearly communicate with the subconscious mind. This means that when you are in these states, what you consciously think, visualize, and feel will more quickly and powerfully program the subconscious to manifest these things into being. The slower the brainwave state, the faster the mind has the ability to act upon the subconscious to create in the physical realm.
The most effective way to give yourself unlimited, effortless access to these states is through the use of brainwave entrainment technology. Brainwave Entrainment is the process of synchronizing the brain to specific frequencies and patterns embedded in audio tracks. These frequencies correlate to specific emotions, feelings, and even energy levels. If you are looking to master this skill, I’d recommend trying a full-fledged brainwave entrainment meditation program. You can check out my bio below, or visit my website at brainwavelove.com to learn more.
6. Ask Yourself Positive “What If?” Questions to Improve Your Mood
Positive questions greatly help you leverage your emotional state, and often times work much better than positive affirmations in the form of a statement. Questions open the door to possibility. When you are feeling terrible, just try asking yourself “what if?” questions that end on a positive note.
Here are some examples:
What if this all works out exactly how I want it to, or better?
What if the reason things are the way they are is because this is what needs to happen for me to achieve my goals?
What if this is all a misunderstanding and everything is actually completely ok?
What if I go home and forget all about this, and it solves itself?
What if that attractive person over there is fantasizing about me right now?
What if I come by that money I need in the most unexpected way?
7. Learn How to Breathe
“What?! But I’ve been breathing my whole life! I think I know how to do that…”
The breath is one of the strangest bodily functions because it can be completely operated by the conscious mind, or handed over to the unconscious mind and forgotten about. Learning to play with your breath consciously is a HUGE key to becoming more conscious of everything else in both your body and mind. The breathing patterns we unconsciously use from moment to moment, day to day, directly affect our physical health, our thoughts, and our emotions. These patterns also affect our subtle energy flow that can further affect every aspect of our physical, mental, and spiritual reality.
All of this can be “upgraded” and used to your advantage by learning yogic breathing techniques (Pranayama) and practicing throughout the day. Even taking a moment each day to bring your attention to the breath and take full, deep belly breaths will create a powerful change in your life. If you don’t believe me, I challenge you to try it for yourself.
If you don’t know where to start with this, begin just by committing to taking 3 breaks each day to simply breathe deeply for a few minutes. You may be amazed at the results!
You know what the best thing about all of these tips is? They all take minimal effort, yet they yield a high return in results. Remember that you can pick any of these hacks to help get the Law of Attraction results you want in your life. But whichever practice you choose, it is important that you practice it consistently!
One last tip about all of this is that it takes approximately 20-30 days of daily practice for the brain to build a new neural pathway. Why not take these tips and turn them into habits, rather than things you do occasionally? Using the Law of Attraction is much more akin to the way water carves its way into rock. It’s the consistency or frequency of the practice, and the accumulation of this consistency that will get you what you want.
I encourage you again to be consistent! And in so doing, watch your full potential manifest the life of your dreams.
All of us dream of having a life that is impactful and forms a story that may one day be turned into a book or movie. The story of your life is made up of many elements that are also the fundamentals of success.
Unless your life is impactful, no one is ever going to care greatly about your story. Your story is owned by you, and only you can create and determine how much impact it will have. Ask yourself the question right now, does your life have a significant impact? If it doesn’t, then it’s time to change it.
It’s time for you to create something that everyone will remember you for. It’s time to turn that dream that you have always had into a reality. This all starts with a decision and often you need some major, painful event to trigger this desire.
Think about the emotions you would feel if the majority of people respected you and were inspired by you. You would be on top of the world, and your life would have meant something. Your name will forever live on, and generations of people will live their lives in dedication to what you stood for.
That sounds like a real vision, and that sounds like a common goal that we should all strive for.
Below are the six ways to make the story of your life impactful.
1. Do something outstanding
Life stories that have a major impact all involve someone doing something outstanding; something that no one thought was possible or that would ever be done. Have you done something outstanding already?
If you haven’t, that’s okay, but start thinking about what major task you could achieve that would be outstanding. Start thinking about what you’re great at or what you could be great at.
This first step is the most crucial and you need to decide on it before you proceed.
There are so many people that never realise that they need to do something outstanding, so just this realisation alone can be empowering in itself. Given the size of this task, it’s not going to happen overnight.
When you come to terms with what you are going to do, it will begin to manifest itself in your life. Doing something outstanding ties together passion, giving back, purpose, fulfillment, and many more success attributes that we have all heard before.
The fact that doing something outstanding covers so many of these attributes is the reason why you should dedicate your life to this one task. Once you achieve it, then you have the very rare task of doing it all over again with a new task.
2. Teach Others
Any great story involves some form of learning. Before you can teach other people something, though, you need to teach yourself first. I like to begin with lots of reading across a broad range of topics. This will give you the foundations of what you can teach others.
For me, what I want to teach other people is all about self-development, entrepreneurship and how to reach success. This is no easy task for me but I have devoted a large amount of time to it, and I can see progress every week now.
In the beginning, I didn’t see any progress but my mentors told me that eventually I would, and they were right. At the start, I was the student, but now I am becoming the teacher. Each day I get to teach people ideas I have learned myself and translate it into my own language.
Google has meant that education and information is easy to find, but the real task now is for someone to curate and translate the information.
It’s this translation of the learning I have done that allows me to create value. The language I speak in is unique, and the ideas are curated by my own mind. When you can begin to do the same thing, then you two can teach others (if you’re not already).
I recently got the opportunity to work with a graduate. Initially, I wasn’t that excited about the task, but as things progressed, I realised that I had the chance to completely shape his career, which in turn, would shape his life. Anyone can do this and even if it starts with just one graduate, you have the chance to begin to make an impact.
3. Share your story
Once you establish your story and start to create an impact, it’s time to share it with others. This doesn’t just mean that you share the good moments with some happy Instagram photos – there is much more to it.
The key to sharing your story is that it’s about being vulnerable, and sharing the negative moments and failures, and then balancing these out with the positive successes. As you share your story in this way, you will begin to compound the impact your story has on the world.
There are many ways to share your story and I have found the easiest way is online first. As you become more comfortable in sharing your story, you can then start sharing it through video, and then later in person.
With my own story, I am about to start sharing it on video, and then the next step will be through public speaking. I am happy to tell you though that I am not great at public speaking so expect to see me at a local Toastmasters shortly. If you are an expert in public speaking and can help, then feel free to reach out to me.
4. Live your dream at all costs
The only way your story will have any impact is if it is directly hardwired to your dream. You will need to move every obstacle out of the pathway of your life and agree to live this dream no matter what.
Even when all your close friends are out having dinner, there will be times when you will be required to not take the easy route, and not attend so that you can work on your dream. The temptation in these situations will be great which is why your own individual dream needs to be something you have thought about and truly care about.
Your dream is linked to your passion, and when you are in a state of mind where you are doing something you love, you experience high levels of happiness. Happiness then becomes a fuel for your mind, and you subconsciously start to create your story and make an impact without even thinking about it.
5. Show some emotion
To make the story of your life impactful, it needs to contain some emotion. Emotion is what draws people in, and it’s what makes it your story. When it comes to the story of your life, the word impact really just means emotion.
You can’t fake emotion in your own story. The more real and the rawer the emotion is, the more people will be drawn to it. If your story is full of made up elements, then people can spot the fakeness a mile away.
As I have said before, your pain becomes your success, and your success is often determined by the impact you are having. There is nothing like seeing someone give it all they have got and sharing every amount of emotion they have with you.
You get tingles down your spine; you feel unstoppable, and you want to spend more time with them. These are all things that our brains think about subconsciously all the time. If a thought pops into your head about something you are going to do, and you start thinking about what people will think of that action, just do it and don’t think twice.
The chances are that if that action is something that you are worried what others will say about it, it’s probably because it has some form of emotion attached to it that requires you to be vulnerable. It’s these actions that you should commit to doing if you want to have an impact.
6. Learn to control your mind
The one element you have 100% control over when it comes to the impact of your life story is your mind (assuming you learn to control it). This is no easy task and so many people never master this art. It requires you to study some basic elements of psychology and really understand yourself.
You need to work out what you love, what you hate, what motivates you and what stops you. If you practice this art form every single day, your brain becomes like a muscle and starts to grow. Your ability to make tough decisions becomes easier, and you’re drawn closer to your purpose.
“Once the human mind is understood and put to proper use, your impact can become more widespread. You can begin to move closer to the things that you care about most and stay clear of the things you have no interest in” – Tim Denning
The people who have controlled their mind the best usually go on to become leaders in their field. From Warren Buffett, to Tony Robbins to the Dalai Lama; all of them live their life at the highest level.
People from the outside will observe the way you control your mind and begin to be drawn to you because it’s such a rarity to have your mind under control and working for you, instead of against you.
Everything I have just mentioned starts with a decision: a decision to be great, a decision to be the example for others rather than let your life waste away to something that no one will remember.
Will you be the person who has the funeral that the whole world stops for, or the person whose funeral has less than twenty close family members there to see you off?
How are you going to make the story of your life impactful? Let me know in the comments section below.
Author: Tim Denning
Source: Addicted to Success
In a world where everyone is in a hurry to get everything done, the fine art of putting off until tomorrow what you can do today just doesn’t get enough respect. It’s true that being the first, the fastest, and the most productive can be a wonderful thing most of the time.
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Here are five useful tips for making conscious procrastination work to your advantage:
1. Choose which tasks to procrastinate with
Author of Wait, Frank Portnoy, defines procrastination as the art of managing delay. His take on procrastination is that everyone should use it to help achieve greater success by using a structured approach. You see, not every task or job should be given the same priority. Any task that is critical or necessary to your job or your well-being should be given a higher priority than tasks that are merely pastimes or time wasters.
The idea is that if you procrastinate by doing other high priority tasks, rather than allowing yourself to lounge in front of the Xbox all day playing Call of Duty, the net effect is that you are still getting important things done.
This novel approach to procrastinating actually makes it possible to be more productive than ever before. It also has the one very important added benefit: the nonessential and low priority tasks naturally go away because they keep getting put off until they are no longer necessary.
“Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.” – Victor Klam
2. Overloaded schedules must be prioritized
It is human nature to fill our schedules to the breaking point with every task imaginable. Everyone optimistically tends to overestimate how much they can get done when they are building a schedule.But if we are honest with ourselves, we can sort between those things that are non-negotiable and must be done and those things that are just wishful thinking – the stuff we would love to do if we had the time, but that won’t really matter if it doesn’t get done. You might be surprised to find out just how much of your schedule is filled with wishful thinking type of tasks.
3. Leaving it until the last minute can lead to better decisions
If you notice yourself putting off making a difficult decision, feel free to use this delay to do any necessary research. You can be sure that the new information you acquire will eventually help you to make a better decision. Moreover, the looming deadline will force you to stop any waffling or dithering which happens most often when you’ve got too much time on your hands to constantly second guess yourself.
Sometimes making a decision right before a deadline is the right thing to do – even if it seems rash or premature. Trust yourself and follow your instinct. If you feel that you’re not prepared to make the decision, do everything to delay it. If you approach the deadline with a clear and calm attitude, it doesn’t matter how long it took you to ponder upon the decision, you’ve simply made up your mind.
4. Procrastination can tell you about who you are
John Perry, the author of The Art of Procrastination: A Guide to Effective Dawdling, Lollygagging, and Postponingtells us that procrastination is often our subconscious’ way of sending us a message.
“If you’re a productive person,” according to Perry, “the desire to procrastinate on a task can mean that the task isn’t important or valuable to you. Pay attention to that and ask yourself if you should be doing it at all.”
What it essentially means is that you should never blindly push yourself to accomplish one task after the other. Perhaps sometimes sacrificing your time to things which you feel aren’t really worth the effort.
Listen to your instinct and if you find yourself procrastinating on a task, don’t get irritated, but consciously ask yourself where this feeling comes from. Perhaps it’s your mind’s way of telling you that what you are trying to do is worth neither your time nor your effort.
“Procrastination is the thief of time.” – Edward Young
5. Procrastination can make you more creative
For many people, thinking is a large part of procrastinating. This can be particularly helpful when given a task that at first seems too difficult for you to do. When this happens, the thinking you do while you are procrastinating can lead you to come up with better or more creative ways to finish the job.
Perry advises that, “If you go back through history of human culture and take away every invention that was made by someone who was supposed to be doing something else, I’m willing to bet there wouldn’t be a lot left.”
In short, don’t get angry or irritated at yourself for procrastinating. If your mind needs a breath of fresh air and a moment of relaxation, just succumb to it and you’ll learn that it’s simply worth it. Once your procrastination phase is over, you’ll emerge with an active and fresh mind, ready to tackle any problem in the most creative ways possible.
As you can see, if done consciously, procrastination might actually bring you great results in both your professional and your personal life, allowing you to learn, gain and do more. Just remember to be smart and focus on those tasks that can truly benefit you.
How do you use procrastination in a positive way? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Author: Simone Smith
Source: Addicted to Success.
Looking for some fast, easy (and yes, lazy) ways to get fit and stay fit? Then look no further. YouQueen is proud to announce the arrival of the simple and results-driven ‘Lazy Girl’s Guide to Working Out’!
We all want to look great and feel great. But it’s not easy to fit in hours and hours of exercise each day in order to achieve the bikini model look. Luckily, there is a solution.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that you need to slog yourself through grueling daily workouts to get the body you’ve always wanted. There is an easier, simpler and less time-intensive solution: the Lazy Girl’s Guide to Working Out. Join us as we walk you through the how-to guide to get the body of your dreams, without the hard labor.
Change the way you think about exercise
So you think fitness can only be achieved through religious gym attendance? Pfft, hardly. As cliché as this sounds, fitness isn’t just a daily habit, it’s part of your lifestyle.
So transforming your perception of fitness to be less about a single habit and more about how you live your life is crucial. Now, before you panic and think that this philosophy goes against the premise of the lazy girl’s guide to working out, relax. Because it doesn’t. In fact, it supports it even more.
Because this means you don’t have to do marathon runs every day to stay fit. You don’t need to cycle 100 miles or swim 10 miles. You just have to sprinkle in some complementary physical activity – not exercise – into your day.
For example, I know you’ve heard this before, but there are really easy things you can do and incorporate into your day to make it more fitness savvy. Things like taking the stairs up to your workplace instead of the elevator. Getting off the train or bus a stop earlier so you can get some extra walking in. Going outside at lunch time and taking a walk around the park. These things are easy, fuss-free and best of all, lazy girl suitable.
Changing the way you think about exercise will help you identify potential fitness blocks in your day where you can easily and effectively stay fit.
Get a pedometer
Our ancestors (the hunting and gathering ones, not our cute grandparents in the old people’s homes) took 10,000 steps a day. To put that in real terms, that’s close to five miles, or eight km.
It doesn’t sound like a lot, but most people in office jobs take only 500 to 1,000 steps a day. If you’re cringing right now, you should be. 1,000 steps a day is deplorable.
A good way to check out your daily steps is to pick up a pedometer. There’s a brand called FitBit that syncs with your iPhone so you can track your daily movements. It also sends you little inspirations when you’re close to achieving your goal.
We recommend trialing the pedometer for a few days to see what your average daily steps looks like. From there, you can start planning how to get your steps up to 10,000.
To get to 10,000 steps, it’s going to take around two hours of walking, depending on how fast you move. The lazy aspect of this is that you can add in small bursts of walking to get to that target throughout the day. You don’t need to set out to walk for two hours straight a day, just make sure that your accumulated step total adds up to 10,000.
And besides, you can’t get much lazier than walking. Unless of course, you just flopped down on the couch. Speaking of which …
Watch more TV
One of the best parts of the lazy girl’s guide to working out is that it encourages you, no requiresyou, to watch more TV. Hallelujah, right? Now before you get too excited, there is a small catch: ad breaks.
It’s a bit of swap really. Ten or so minutes of lounging bliss for a two to three minute work out. Sounds easy though, doesn’t it? Because it is.
All you have to do is get off your butt during the ad breaks and do some form of physical activity. It could be lunges, squats, push-ups, sit-ups or even jogging around the house. You can jump rope, do ballet plies or use dumbbells.
You can even make a game of it and turn it into a time trial. So you did 20 sit-ups during an ad break yesterday. What can you do today? Make it fun, interactive and more to the point interesting. Don’t just do the same old thing during every ad break. Not only will it limit the workout you get, but it’s dull too.
So mix it up, change it up and turn ad time into exercise time.
Note: Don’t think you can work around this one by fast-forwarding through the ad breaks if you have cable. Clever thinking, but it’s not going to get you any fitter.
Have more sex
Yep, you heard correctly: a key component of keeping lazy girl’s fit is that you make time for lots and lots of sex. Having sex burns 144 calories per half hour. It also boosts your flexibility (grin), develops muscle tone and increases cardiovascular fitness if you’re especially vigorous. Sex also gives you a healthy glow and boosts the endorphins in your body to add in the ‘feel great’ aspect.
Oh, and it’s not just sex that will melt the calories either. Kissing burns 68 calories an hour (just be careful of beard rash), making out burns 238 calories an hour, undressing burns 8 calories, oral sex burns 100 calories an hour and massaging burns 80 calories an hour. Add it all together, and that’s one pleasurably effective work out!
And if you’re sexily single, don’t worry – you can benefit from this one too. Masturbation burns up to 150 calories and leaves you with a happy grin on your face.
So for maximum fitness effectiveness, indulge in at least one of these sexy calorie burners per day.
This article is making you very happy, isn’t it? After all, you’ve been told to watch more TV, have more sex and now to go shopping. Isn’t this just the coolest work out plan ever? You can thank me later.
For now, I want you to grab some sneakers and head off to your local mall. Whether it’s grocery shopping, shoe shopping or clothes shopping, it doesn’t matter. Whatever you’re passionate about or what needs to be done is fine.
Then, I want you to shop. Easy, right?
It’s estimated that if you spend three hours shopping, you’ll burn at least 400 calories (if you weigh just 100 pounds, if you weigh more you burn more). Pretty neat, huh? And the best part is that if you buy stuff, you have to carry it around. Which means, wait for it … weight lifting! Yay!
So for a weekly dose of cardiovascular activity and weight training – go shopping.
Hire an expert
If you’re reading this article, then you probably suffer from a little something called ‘lack of motivation’. Lack of motivation is the little sucker responsible for the regular snoozing of your alarm clock when you were meant to go jogging. It encourages you to have a movie marathon rather than go rock climbing and to skip that weekly spin class. Lack of motivation is essentially responsible for at least part of our laziness.
And that’s fine. Some of us just aren’t as naturally motivated as others (although I do think that motivation is a bit of a myth, but more on that another day). But how are you meant to exercise when you’re unmotivated? Exercise is hard enough when you are motivated.
Well you could force yourself (or your partner) to pull on some joggers and get outside. But even then, the chances are high that your work out will be sub-par at best.
Or, you could hire an expert. Someone that handles the motivation piece for you. Someone who knows how to get the maximum results in the minimum time. Someone who has no qualms about kicking your ass.
Now sure, this isn’t exactly the lazy way out. The lazy way out would be to ignore this advice completely.
But if you’re looking for an easy way to stay fit and lose weight, then you might want to look at hiring a personal trainer. Having a regular weekly timeslot with a personal trainer will ensure that at least one day of the week, you’re working towards your fitness. Your trainer will be able to guide you on the right things to do and when to do them and ensure that you stay injury free.
It’s a great, no-fuss way to boost your results. Sure, for half an hour or so you’ll work your little tush off. But wouldn’t you like your tush to be little? Invest in a trainer and invest in your overall health and wellbeing.
There you go, the lazy girl’s guide to working out. What do you think? Do you have any lazy girl tips for staying fit?
Author: Cassandra Lane