“Eleven Hints for Life”
1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.
But what is more painful is to love someone and never
find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who
means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was
never meant to be and you just have to let go.
3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a
porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.
4. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose
it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been
missing until it arrives.
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an
hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it
takes a lifetime to forget someone.
6. Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth,
even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you
smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,
be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and
one chance to do all the things you want to do.
8. Always put yourself in the other’s shoes. If you feel that it
hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck
a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may
heal and bless.
10. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best
of everything they just make the most of everything that comes
along their way.
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with
a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,
you’re the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Most Of the time people Give up just because they fail to resolve their own Internal Conflicts..
Once you manage to overcome your Internal Conflicts, you will be able to take Instant Decision.. On your Own!!!
This pattern helps with the very common problem of disagreement between parts.
When you struggle with yourself to do or not do something, when you procrastinate
what you must do now and seem to be arguing with yourself in your mind, this is the pattern to use.
Follow these simple steps to Fight the problem of Internal Conflicts…
Step 1. The Conflict
Select a personal conflict. This can be anything, “Shall I listen to what they say”? or “Should I ignore them” ? It may be something you’ve contradictory feelings about, or some way that you sabotage yourself or cannot accept yourself. Reason can be anything, just take that situation.
Step 2. A Memory
Recall a memory of experiencing this inner conflict. When did you felt it?? View it from the observer position. Analyse it, Observe it.
Step 3. Take a Side
Get into the first perceptual position with one side of the conflict. Step into the experience. Review the OTHER side of the conflict from this position. Notice what comes up during this in all sense modes.
Step 4. Positive Intention
Still on that side, ask the other side to express all of its positive intentions, including any beliefs ( set by your o others for you ) and goals that it can express to your side.
Step 5. Switch
Now step into the other part. From this position, repeat steps three and four.
Repeat this switching and receiving until both sides have a good understanding of each other. Be sure to include beliefs ( including limiting beliefs ), values, and objectives.
Step 7. Meta-Position (Above usual)
Move to a meta-position above both parts. From there, ask the parts to propose solutions or outcomes that they expect to be satisfactory to both sides. Draw out concerns from either side about these ideas, and note any ecological issues. Do as much brain-storming as you need to in order to come up with a good collection of ideas.
Step 8. New Part
Notice how this new collection of ideas is an amalgam of the values and higher intentions of the two parts. It is also an agenda. Experience how it could be considered a part all on its own. Bring this part into your body and accept it as an important part.
Step 9. Future Pace and Test
Imagine a future with this part creating results for you. Redo this process as needed for any ecological concerns or problems. Test it out in real life and come back to this process as needed.
Practice it a few times to get results you always wanted.
Feel free to share this with people you know, so that they can get some benefit as well. !!
Because Words Can Inspire…1. “No man can succeed in a line of endeavor which he does not like.” – Napoleon Hill 2.“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” – Christian D. Larson 3. “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” – Vince Lombardi 4. “You never stop earning when you do what you love.” – Asha Tyson 5. “Change your story, change your life. Divorce the story of limitation, and marry the story of the truth and everything changes.” – Tony Robbins 6. “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain 7. “Great work is done by people who are not afraid to be great.” – Fernando Flores 8. “Your success depend on your decision today. Ready to associate yourself with Only Quality People or Powerful People is one of the major ways for us to succeed in life. You are a winner not a loser.” – Rohit Kumar 9. “Just because Fate doesn’t deal you the right cards, it doesn’t mean you should give up. It just means you have to play the cards you get to their maximum potential.” – Les Brown 10. “Realize that if you can instantly create a problem, you can just as quickly and easily create a solution.” – Tony Robbins 11. “Life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.” – John Maxwell Share One Quote that has Inspired You.
The Swish is an NLP technique for dealing with unpleasant feelings.
This is a valuable technique for managing negative thoughts and feelings about:
- The past: e.g. feelings from embarrassing or irritating memories
- The present: e.g. feelings provoked by self-undermining thoughts
- The future: e.g. anxiety-provoking thoughts about forthcoming situations.
Credits for the creation of this NLP pattern belong to Richard Bandler and John Grinder. This helps to Break an automatic thought or behavior pattern, and replace it with a resourceful one. Use the Swish pattern for problems such as smoking cessation, anger management, public speaking, nervousness, self-confidence, and self-esteem. The Swish is an NLP technique for dealing with unpleasant feelings. With the help of this amazing technique one can get free from any bad habit, he wants to leave. This Transforms your Negativity into Positivity as you will now be able to replace the Negative thoughts into Positive Ones and All your Limiting Beliefs will now be Destroyed with consistent Practice.
Following Steps will help you to Understand the Working of this Powerful Technique.
Step 1. Recognize the automatic reaction
Recognize the automatic reaction , the thoughts, feelings, or images that occur to you when you think of the challenging situation.
Select a replacement image, something inspiring, such as a really good outcome that helps create a positive state.
Imagine yourself in a dissociated image, the third perceptual position, as if you are watching yourself in a movie.
Enhance the qualities, such as submodalities of the scene until it is as compelling as possible.
*Submodalities refers to the subjective structural subdivisions within a given representational system.
Step 2. Determine the trigger of the negative image
Discover what tells your mind to produce the negative image or behavior.This is the very crucial stage of self analysis and you must be Very Honest to yourself.
Ask yourself, “What occurs just before this negative or unwanted state begins?” This time, you want an associated scene (first position, looking through your own eyes) of what is going on immediately before you engage in the unwanted activity.
Remember to think in terms of sub-modalities to get a detailed sense of the scene. It functions as a trigger for the non-resourceful state.
Step 3. Place the replacement
Put the replacement off in the corner of the negative image. For Example you want to replace the Feeling of Failure with the one of Learning from the event that has happened. Imagine a small, postage-stamp-sized version of your replacement scene in the bottom corner of the negative scene.
Step 4. Swish the two images
You will be making both images change simultaneously and with increasing speed. The bad feeling getting smaller and smaller with an increase in size of the picture of something positive you want to replace it with. When you Swish, have the negative scene become smaller and shoot off into the distance. At the same time, have the positive replacement image zip in closer and larger, rapidly and completely replacing the negative scene.
Imagine it making a strong sound (a sound that you can easily associate with) as it zips into place.
At first, you’ll probably do this slowly, taking a few seconds to complete the Swish.
As you repeat the process, you will be able to do it faster and faster, until you Swish nearly instantaneously.
Step 5. Repeat
Clear your mind after each Swish. This is very important. Do this by thinking of something else, such as your favorite color or what you need to do later. Remember to breathe easily during the Swish and the breaks. Do the Swish five to seven times, repeating steps three to five each time.
You know you have a good outcome when you have some difficulty maintaining the negative image.
Step 6. Test
Now try to use the limiting thought or behavior again. Notice how hard, if not impossible, it is for you to act it out. Notice that you actually have to think about how to do it first; it is not as automatic as it used to be. If you feel that you could relapse, use the Swish again in a day or two, and again after a week.
You Need To Practice on a Regular Basis So that you can have a Grip over It.
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