Happiness and success in your personal and professional life is about making yourself more positive so you can be motivated enough to do what needs to be done to achieve your goals. Super positive people know this and use the power of words to motivate themselves (and others) to reach their goals.
Happy, positive people are their own biggest cheerleaders. Even when things don’t look too good, positive people speak positively and remain hopeful that things will work out in the end. That helps them stay focused, steadfast and joyful on the oft turbulent path to success.
While talking to yourself may sound like an odd thing to do, it’s extremely effective. It can have an outsize effect on yourself and others. That is why we encourage you to speak these statements that super positive people say all the time. Be sincere; don’t just say what positive people say for the sake of saying it. Say what they say and truly mean it.
1. “I’m not perfect—and that’s OK.”
Sometimes we feel like we need to be perfect before we can take our next step in life, such as go into partnership or launch a business. At such times, super positive people remind themselves that they’re not perfect, and being imperfect is perfectly okay. Perfectionism holds many of us back from success. Take a second to admit that you’re not perfect, but that’s ok. Then go forth and start. Take the next step. You will be fine.
2. “I’m a little scared, but I will overcome this fear.”
Fear is responsible for many lost opportunities and foregone dreams. When super positive feel fear crippling their efforts, they admit they are scared but also tell themselves they can beat their fear. This simple act gives them the strength and courage they need to face their fears and overcome. Acknowledge fear can be crippling and make a choice to overcome it. Tell yourself you will prevail. Fear only has the power you give it.
3. “I can do this!”
Right before super positive people take a challenge or step into a difficult situation, they tell themselves they can do it. Because, as Confucius said, “Those who think they can, and those who think they can’t are both usually right.” When Steve Jobs ordered a special kind of glass for the first iPhone, manufacturers were aghast at the stringent request. “Don’t be afraid,” Jobs said. “You can do it. Get your mind around it. You can do it.” And they did it. If you believe you can, you are right. If you believe you can’t, you are also right!
4. “I’m good enough, right now, just like this.”
When super positive people are ready to push harder to reach a goal and/or improve, they steel themselves for the push with the reminder that they’re good enough, right now, today. Say it out loud: “I’m good enough, right now, just like this.” You will feel a sense of power, relief and even self-acceptance, which is good motivation.
5. “Look how far I’ve come!”
The importance of acknowledging your achievements is huge. Super positive people acknowledge their achievements all the time and that helps them face their challenges confidently. It reminds them that they have done it before and they can do it again. Speak these words out loud and acknowledge that your efforts have brought results before. Heck, throw a party if you want to celebrate your achievements. It’s extremely gratifying and empowering to know what your efforts can bring.
6. “You can count on me.”
Super positive people are aware of the importance of being there for people. They know that you cannot reach your peak by ignoring everyone else. As an African proverb says, “One finger cannot kill a louse.” You have to pull together to make a positive difference. And so they say to others, “You can count on me,” and they mean it. Say it and mean it. Be that person standing by to help. You’ll be stronger for it. Nobody achieve anything great all alone.
7. “I believe in you.”
People doubt themselves sometimes. You do, I do, we all do. Even the most confident among us sometimes needs a friend to remind them that they are good enough. Super positive people are these kinds of friends. They say to others, “I believe in you” and guide them to a better way. Say this to others and you will be an inspiration to them. You’ll comfort and foster gratitude and positivity all around you. That’s what life’s about.
8. “I trust you.”
We all need to be pushed at times, especially when we fall short. Super positive people have faith in people. They step up to push and be more of a coach or mentor to others. They trust in the abilities of others and tell them as much to inspire them to be better. Say to people, “I trust you.” It’s a powerful statement that brings out the best in people. As the late, great NFL coach Vince Lombardi rightly said: “Leadership is getting someone to do what they don’t want to do, to achieve what they want to achieve.”
9. “You really impress me.”
When others put a marked effort or demonstrate great skill or knowledge in something, super positive people are quick to recognize these things and commend them for it. People love and appreciate that guesture. If you want to see how effective such sentiments have, just read this short bit of dialogue from the 1997 movie As Good As It Gets in which Jack Nicholson’s character offers Helen Hunt’s character the ultimate compliment: “You make me want to be a better man.” Tell people they impress you sincerely. It shows you see people’s good side and you appreciate them. That is guaranteed to elicit positive responses.
10. “I’m sorry.”
Super positive people are not haughty as to refuse to apologize when they’ve clearly committed a fault or done something worthy of expressing regret. They are also not inconsiderate as to refuse to express their feelings of sympathy to someone who deserves it. They say, “I’m sorry” all the time when it is deserved. Say this too, and mean it. People appreciate these two little words greatly when said sincerely. However, they resent the same words and find them annoying when said insincerely.
11. “Let’s take some time off.”
Super positive people know that true happiness and success is a well-rounded approach. It’s an approach filled with laughter, family, friends, vacations and hours of downtime on the weekends. So when they (or someone else) seems like they could use some time off, and it’s appropriate, they say: “Let’s take some time off!” Workloads vary for everyone, but taking a break or vacation can be the best decision you make for yourself. It will allow you to rest and re-energized for true success and well-being.
12. “You’re welcome.”
Instead of a bland little, “Yep” or “No worries” or “No problem,” truly positive people say, “You are welcome” when people express their gratitude to them. Saying “You are welcome” doesn’t deflate another person’s gratitude, rather it dignifies it. It shows that you not only acknowledge the sentiments, but that you believe that person deserves your act(s) of kindness, help or recognition. Say “You are welcome” to people when they thank you for something positive, worthy or nice you did.
13. “Thank you.”
This is one of the most overlooked but impactful simple phrases in the English language. Super positive people do not underestimate its power. They say “Thank you” all the time when people do positive, kind things to them. Say thanks to people. These two little words pack a heck of a punch and spread a wave of positive energy all around.
Surround yourself with positive people!
If you are ever going to live a satisfying, meaningful and successful life, the kind of people you surround yourself with plays an important role. It is being said that you are who you surround yourself with. If you hang out with positive people, you’ll be a positive person and if you hang out with negative people, you’ll definitely see life from a negative angle.
Try to answer these questions;
Who is on your team?
Who do you hang out with?
Who are those you spend most of your time with?
Are they people that build you up or the ones that pull you down?
Are they feeding the positive side of you or the ones that feeds the negativity?
Birds of a feather flock together. Many friends don’t have anything good to offer. They are with you to only impact you negatively.
If you keep friends that don’t add to you in any way, I bet they are not worthy to be called your friends. Don’t not worry about what they think of you. There will always be those who want to see you fail simply because they can’t succeed.
Beware of toxic and negative relatives, friends or colleagues. Flee from them as fast as you can because they don’t deserve you. It is impossible for negative people to bring forth anything positive out of you. Negative people possess negative mindset.
They see no reason to pursue their dreams because they already saw it as an impossible task even right before they started it. They might not have ever imagined what you must be willing to achieve. They can never let you succeed in such a situation.
Possibility doesn’t exist in their dictionary. When you tell negative people about your dreams, they tell you only about the challenges in order to make you lose focus. They hardly see the goals. For you to achieve success, you need to first imbibe a positive mindset yourself. You need to see possibilities in your dreams. Then surround yourself with positive people that believe in your dreams. People that build you up mentally, physically and spiritually. People that are ready to influence you positively. People that you learn from always. People that their advices you can’t joke with. People that make you believe success is achievable! Because that is why you are here. You deserve success.
You must pursue the greatness you have, you are born with huge potential and you have no right to limit yourself. You have to and you MUST succeed.
Most Of the time people Give up just because they fail to resolve their own Internal Conflicts..
Once you manage to overcome your Internal Conflicts, you will be able to take Instant Decision.. On your Own!!!
This pattern helps with the very common problem of disagreement between parts.
When you struggle with yourself to do or not do something, when you procrastinate
what you must do now and seem to be arguing with yourself in your mind, this is the pattern to use.
Follow these simple steps to Fight the problem of Internal Conflicts…
Step 1. The Conflict
Select a personal conflict. This can be anything, “Shall I listen to what they say”? or “Should I ignore them” ? It may be something you’ve contradictory feelings about, or some way that you sabotage yourself or cannot accept yourself. Reason can be anything, just take that situation.
Step 2. A Memory
Recall a memory of experiencing this inner conflict. When did you felt it?? View it from the observer position. Analyse it, Observe it.
Step 3. Take a Side
Get into the first perceptual position with one side of the conflict. Step into the experience. Review the OTHER side of the conflict from this position. Notice what comes up during this in all sense modes.
Step 4. Positive Intention
Still on that side, ask the other side to express all of its positive intentions, including any beliefs ( set by your o others for you ) and goals that it can express to your side.
Step 5. Switch
Now step into the other part. From this position, repeat steps three and four.
Repeat this switching and receiving until both sides have a good understanding of each other. Be sure to include beliefs ( including limiting beliefs ), values, and objectives.
Step 7. Meta-Position (Above usual)
Move to a meta-position above both parts. From there, ask the parts to propose solutions or outcomes that they expect to be satisfactory to both sides. Draw out concerns from either side about these ideas, and note any ecological issues. Do as much brain-storming as you need to in order to come up with a good collection of ideas.
Step 8. New Part
Notice how this new collection of ideas is an amalgam of the values and higher intentions of the two parts. It is also an agenda. Experience how it could be considered a part all on its own. Bring this part into your body and accept it as an important part.
Step 9. Future Pace and Test
Imagine a future with this part creating results for you. Redo this process as needed for any ecological concerns or problems. Test it out in real life and come back to this process as needed.
Practice it a few times to get results you always wanted.
Feel free to share this with people you know, so that they can get some benefit as well. !!
When Someone Underestimates you, don’t feel bad. Prevent the Negativity to surround you instead use their words to work for you as a Trigger- The Driving force that will Inspire you at every stage and force you to Fight back in any situation. This is what Ferruccio Lamborghini did.
Lamborghini was drawn more to farming machinery rather than the farming lifestyle itself. Following his interest in mechanics, Lamborghini studied at the Fratelli Taddia technical institute near Bologna. In 1940 he was drafted into the Italian Royal Air Force, where he served as a mechanic at the Italian garrison on the island of Rhodes, becoming the supervisor of the vehicle maintenance unit.
Who was Ferruccio Lamborghini?
Ferruccio Elio Arturo Lamborghini (April 28, 1916 – February 20, 1993) was an Italian industrialist. Born to grape farmers from the comune of Renazzo di Cento in the Emilia-Romagna region, his mechanical know-how led him to enter the business of tractor manufacturing in 1948, when he founded Lamborghini Trattori, which quickly became an important manufacturer of agricultural equipment in the midst of Italy’s post-war economic reform. In 1963, he most famously created Automobili Lamborghini, a maker of high-end sports cars in Sant’Agata Bolognese
The sole reason of shifting his business from farm vehicles to super-power cars was Enzo Ferrari’s undermining words, “you stick to tractors and let me build sports cars.”
And Today, we all Know what “Lamborghini’s are Known for !!!!
“If you can change your mind, you can change your life.
What you believe creates the actual fact.
The greatest revolution of my generation is to discover that
Individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change
the outer aspects of their lives.”
– William James
Transform self-sabotage into success. By discovering the positive intent behind a negative behavior or attitude,
you can release tremendous energy and positive commitment. In his outstanding book Sleight Of Mouth:
The Magic Of Conversational Belief Change, master trainer and famous NLP developer Robert Dilts says:
“At some level all behavior is (or at one time was) “positively intended.” It is or was perceived as appropriate given the context in which it was established, from the point of view of the person whose behavior it is. It is easier and more productive to respond to the intention rather than the expression of a problematic behavior. “
Here are the steps to Find Positive Intentions in the whatever you do…
Step #1. Define the problem.
Briefly state the problem with enough detail so that it is clear in your mind. Mind must be clear about what
the exact problem is. It may primarily be a situation, personal problem, or a challenge. Define what meaning you
give to an Unproductive Behavior. Be clear about what behavior is productive. State the reason for the meaning you gave,
why any particular behavior is unproductive as per you. You must be clear about it, with no confusions.
Step #2. Reveal the Underlying Motives
Take a few minutes to relax, breathe deeply and lay back. Now, go inside, imagine your mind has special internal messengers.”
These are parts of your personality, which have characteristic tendencies or habitual behaviors.
Find the part that is responsible for generating the unproductive behavior.
Bring this part into awareness as though it were a complete personality.
Remember that a part is an aspect of you.
A part is like a little personality inside of you. In order to be aligned and successful,
you must not work at cross purposes with yourself. This requires negotiating or working with your parts.
Now imagine that you can do a role playing game with this particular part. Ask the part what it
wanted to have, do or become, through the negative behavior or attitude. What value or benefit it
expects to get from this. Ask directly, “What did you wish for me to accomplish by doing this?”
Take as much time as you need to imagine and listen to the part’s responses.
Step #3. Get to the core motives.
Keep asking “why” and “what” questions to clarify the motives. Recycle each answer into a new question.
Practice questioning until you feel that you have gotten to the core motives. You should identify a
core belief along with the core value and core reasons for the behaviors or attitudes that, at first glance,
seem to be unsupportive of you.