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In our culture, people crying is a sign of weakness. Crying, as it turns out, is actually rather good for you. According to Dr. William H. Frey II, PhD:
“Crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s a healthy one. Crying is a natural way to reduce emotional stress that, left unchecked, has negative physical affects on the body, including increasing the risk of cardiovascular disease and other stress-related disorders.”
So how is it that crying shows our strength?
1. You don’t hide from your emotions.
And that’s an incredible strength in itself. It’s easy to swallow your emotions. It’s the easiest thing to do. What’s hard is facing down your emotions.
2. You don’t care what others think.
3. You know it helps.
You know how it feels. Crying lets out pent up feelings which can bog us down if we let them sit. It helps keep your nervous system in check as well as dispel any thoughts that aren’t useful to you.
4. Crying makes you healthier.
Crying is more than just letting out feelings. It can actually decreasae anxiety and depression by releasing feel-good hormones and lowering your manganese levels.
5. You help others feel more comfortable.
When you’re open about crying, you show that it’s perfectly normal and natural to do. You’re setting a trend. You’re being a leader.
Do you find yourself crying a lot? Let us know in the comments below!
This article was originally posted on Higher Perspective.
How do you discover your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist.[caption id="attachment_1089" align="aligncenter" width="809" class=" "] Image Credit: Stefan Mueller[/caption]
Perhaps you’re a person who believe that you have no purpose at all and that life has no meaning. Doesn’t matter. Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping. Just because you don’t believe in this, it will take longer to discover one. So, for those who are the non believers, I request you to change the number “20” mentioned in the title to “50” or “90” if you’re really stubborn. Since you don’t believe that you have a purpose associated with your life, you won’t believe what I’m saying anyways, but still I would want you to invest an hour, just in case it works.!
Let me start with a short story about Bruce Lee which, this will set the stage for this short exercise.
A master martial artist once asked Bruce to teach him everything Bruce knew about martial arts. Bruce held up two cups, both filled with liquid. “The first cup,” said Bruce, “represents all of your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents all of my knowledge about martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge.”
If you want to discover the true purpose of your life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught. Also, drop the belief that you may have no purpose at all.
There are many ways by which you can discover the purpose of your life, here is one of the simplest that anyone can practice. It will work as faster as you expect it to, the more open you are to this process, the more beneficial it will be. But not being open to it or having doubts about it or thinking it’s an entirely idiotic and meaningless waste of time won’t prevent it from working as long as you stick with it — again, it will just take longer to converge.
Following are the steps you need to take, or practice:
- Take out a blank sheet of paper ( of any size ) or simply open up a word file where you can type.
- Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”
- Write an answer that pops into your head. It can be a short phrase or a complete sentence.
- Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. Something that can make you think! This is your purpose.
That’s it. It doesn’t matter if you’re a counselor or an engineer or a bodybuilder. To some people this exercise will make perfect sense. To others it will seem utterly stupid. Usually it takes 15-20 minutes to clear your head of all the clutter and the social conditioning about what you think your purpose in life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, it will feel like it’s coming to you from a different source entirely.
For those who are very entrenched in low-awareness living, it will take a lot longer to get all the false answers out, possibly more than an hour. But if you persist, after 100 or 200 or maybe even 500 answers, you’ll be struck by the answer that causes you to surge with emotion, the answer that breaks you. If you’ve never done this, it may very well sound silly to you. So let it seem silly, and do it anyway.
As you go through this process, some of your answers will be very similar. You may even re-list previous answers. Then you might head off on a new tangent and generate 10-20 more answers along some other theme. And that’s fine. You can list whatever answer pops into your head as long as you just keep writing.
At some point during the process (typically after about 50-100 answers), you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging. You may feel the urge to get up and make an excuse to do something else. That’s normal. Push past this resistance, and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass.
You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you a mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry — they’re just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back to them to generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose, but individually they aren’t complete. When you start getting these kinds of answers, it just means you’re getting warm. Keep going.
It’s important to do this alone and with no interruptions. If you’re a nihilist, then feel free to start with the answer, “I don’t have a purpose,” or “Life is meaningless,” and take it from there. If you keep at it, you’ll still eventually converge.
When I did this exercise, it took me about 25 minutes, and I reached my final answer at step 106. Partial pieces of the answer (mini-surges) appeared at steps 17, 39, and 53, and then the bulk of it fell into place and was refined through steps 100-106. I felt the feeling of resistance (wanting to get up and do something else, expecting the process to fail, feeling very impatient and even irritated) around steps 55-60. At step 80 I took a 2-minute break to close my eyes, relax, clear my mind, and to focus on the intention for the answer to come to me — this was helpful as the answers I received after this break began to have greater clarity.
Here was my final answer: to live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to awaken the great spirits within others, and to leave this world in peace.
When you find your own unique answer to the question of why you’re here, you will feel it resonate with you deeply. The words will seem to have a special energy to you, and you will feel that energy whenever you read them.
Discovering your purpose is the easy part. The hard part is keeping it with you on a daily basis and working on yourself to the point where you become that purpose.
If you’re inclined to ask why this little process works, just put that question aside until after you’ve successfully completed it. Once you’ve done that, you’ll probably have your own answer to why it works. Most likely if you ask 10 different people why this works (people who’ve successfully completed it), you’ll get 10 different answers, all filtered through their individual belief systems, and each will contain its own reflection of truth.
Obviously, this process won’t work if you quit before convergence. I’d guesstimate that 80-90% of people should achieve convergence in less than an hour. If you’re really entrenched in your beliefs and resistant to the process, maybe it will take you 5 sessions and 3 hours, but I suspect that such people will simply quit early (like within the first 15 minutes) or won’t even attempt it at all. But if you’re drawn to read this blog (and haven’t been inclined to ban it from your life yet), then it’s doubtful you fall into this group.
Give it a shot! At the very least, you’ll learn one of two things: your true purpose in life -or- that you should unsubscribe from this blog.
Author: Steve Pavlina
You can check out his blog here: www.stevepavlina.com
Most of us lives a life decided by the beliefs we are surrounded with, we live a life that others want us to live, think of an employee, what he is doing?? He is living a life his boss wants him to live, even if it’s his life. Most of us are somehow living a life where we are governed by someone else and we, the one who have all rights on our life cannot even take a decision about it, that’s how most of us live and end up dying. I always used to think that what makes an employee work so hard day and night for someone else who cherishes the success actually achieved by him, why? Just because he feeds him? Just because he want to earn his living? But have you ever looked at his face? There is always a sense of insecurity of job, he might have earned enough money but ask him when did he laughed last, ask him when did he spent last weekend with his family.
Yes I may be wrong but this is something that I have seen many times and yes there can be exceptions as well. But they are the one who actually settles for the ordinary. They do smile but are they really happy? They do earn a lot but are they enjoying what they do? They end up doing things they do at a certain point of time.
I was there in a seminar of Les Brown, and there he shared in an ongoing conversation “I was my mama’s little Lessy, born in small town of Miami, mentally retarded at the age of five, thrown out of school in class five again and people used to call me ugly. If i would have settled for that I would be nothing and now you all know who am I today” and honestly the crowd there stood up to welcome a man whom they never have met but they gave him a standing ovation just because he is Les Brown, the same mamma’s Lessy.
All we need to do is to realize our potential and act upon it.
All it takes are the following three things:
Never quit on yourself
It’s your dream, it’s you who want to achieve that dream and its only you whom you should believe. There are only few percent of people who would be there for your support, very few will actually accompany you through the whole journey to success but you will find every second person against you, demotivating you telling that you can’t achieve it, remember what many people says “tujhse nhi hoga yaar” !!! you need to ignore such people and tell them to stay back and watch you doing what they thought is impossible.
In a conversation with Les Brown he told me that on his very first attempt to speak in public he was denied by the organizer nine times, yet he tried again and again asking him to speak and finally after nine attempts of failure, the organizer had to call him up as the main speaker had a pain in throat.
I asked Mr. Les “sir what made you do that even after getting rejected nine times?” and his reply made me think for few minutes. He said “ you may have to listen a NO thousand times but, you need to be Hungry” , these lines impressed me a lot and what I came with a conclusion People who are hungry are unstoppable and they don’t settle for excuses.
So guys start believing in yourselves and you can achieve the unachievable.
Do whatever it takes.
Take enough time to decide and think one more time what exactly you want in your life, once you come up with a mission or a dream to achieve you must not step back. You can’t be casual about your dreams, you could have some rejections or may face some setbacks but all you need is to be determined and passionate about it, you need to stand strong and say loud that yes it’s me who will achieve the heights of success.
As I said earlier, you all have greatness in you and you should believe in your potential, that’s how you can achieve what seems to be impossible to others. You can come across with thousands of people who will never support you, you may have to face as many problems you never thought of, but remember when things go wrong don’t go with them.
Go Big or Go Home.
The legends we talk about or the billionaires we get inspired from are the ones who never settled for anything, they always wanted more, more and more and that’s why they are the ones.
You need to dream big, think out of the box and probably you need to die what you are in order to give a birth to what you want to be. Once you decide to go with what you love you may face failure but you should focus on the happiness you will get once you are there. You need to dominate the failure with every success you get, because once you decide, things will work for you.
Never get demotivated by the failures, take them as lessons and use them in situations to come. Feel the moment when you reach your ultimate goal feel the happiness on your face when you achieve the success you always wanted, this will work as driving force for you.
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The lie of multitasking and why you need to stop
If you think that multitasking is an indicator of efficiency and smartness, then this is the article for you!! Actually, multitasking is a bad idea; rather, frequent multitasking shrinks your brain and lowers your IQ. And wait, there is more….well, far from saving you time, multitasking cuts your productivity by a whopping 40 percent! That’s because as you switch from task to task, your brain reacts to the feeling of newness with a jolt of dopamine – the same brain chemical that causes heroin addiction.
A frightening discovery
You may think you’re taking part in a conference call, writing a report, and texting home all at the same time, but what your brain is actually doing is switching non-stop among these different activities.
That’s costing you both efficiency and brain cells. Multitasking lowers your IQ, shrinks your brain, and cuts your productivity – and it’s addictive.
A few more facts
What multi-taskers do not realise is that they are actually devolving their brain. Rather than following our ancestors’ lead by training the brain to learn and be creative through deep focus, they are actually following the path of the side-sighted animals. By multi-tasking, they are attempting to apply the logic of their limbic system – which can only handle simple problems like 10×5 – to much more complicated tasks. This can be extremely dangerous.
The damages of multi-tasking
Not only will this lead to low-quality work, but it will also strengthen the limbic system, which also motivates us to indulge in unhealthy food, give up on challenging tasks and skip our workouts. Essentially, the more you multi-task, the weaker your willpower becomes.
Multi-tasking is distracting
These days, most of us are our own secretaries. The filter is gone and while we can choose whether or not to answer a particular call, e-mail or text, just making that decision requires multi-tasking. It reduces our attention to whatever our pre-frontal cortex was doing before the interruption, and studies show it can cause us to be as much as 40 percent less productive.
How to stop multitasking and get work done:
The myth persists, however, that multitasking is the best way to work. Peruse any job website and you’ll find literally thousands of descriptions making it clear that those who can’t handle “multitasking” need not apply. There is little to no scientific proof that multitasking enhances performance, and real evidence that dividing one’s attention might actually be detrimental.
Here’s how to get rid of the habit of multitasking
1. Give yourself permission to think and be alone
Your best ideas and deepest insights will come when detached from your everyday routine. Seek alone time and keep it sacred on your calendar. Remember, companies hire employees to help animate and implement their ideas. The real purpose of your employment lies in your intellectual capital: the thoughts you have and the ideas you generate. Multitasking only detracts from this.
2. Do one thing at a time
Contrary to the multi tasker’s creed, you’ll actually get more tasks done by doing them individually. Not just that, you’ll do it quicker and with fewer mistakes and less rework.
3. Be present
Be present with your work and with those you are working with. Stay on your current todo and don’t let your focus float to other tasks. This means not checking email while you are meeting with someone. And it means not working during that meeting on your laptop.
4. Finish before you start
Make sure you finish tasks to closure before starting the next one. There is great productivity momentum in finishing things to done before taking on the next task. Don’t let small tasks interrupt big ones Resist letting small items interrupt big ones. Don’t pick up that 2-minute task just because it’s easy. Don’t answer that email just because you saw it drop into your inbox.
5. Put down the tech
Technology has allowed us to work anywhere. That doesn’t mean you should. Close your email, turn off the phone, and put down the unneeded tech while you are working.
6. Learn how to improve your concentration
Doing this may feel awkward at first if you frequently multitask. But you’ll be surprised at how much you get done just by concentrating on one thing at a time.Designate time to work on one task or project. Go to a meeting room or work location if it helps concentrate on the task at hand.
7. Write down your tasks
You might want to do every item as it arrives on your agenda, but that is not an efficient way to handle your duties. When new ideas pop up, briefly jot down a note or put it on your calendar for future reference. Go back to your original task. Writing it down allows your brain to set it aside and refocus.
8. Group similar tasks
It is easier to write 15 checks at once than it is to write one check 15 times. So, group your bill paying into a single block of time. Check your email at certain times, resisting the temptation to switch windows as soon as you receive a new one. While there are always important items on the agenda, every email can wait for a few minutes before you respond.
9. Commit to your choices
Single-tasking obliges you to do one thing at a time—excluding any other demands at that moment. This means you must stand firm and genuinely commit to your choices. You can manage your next task after working on the existing one. You don’t have to complete every task all at once, just the current period of time dedicated to it.
10. Say No early, and often
Attempting to be all things to all people is more than unrealistic—it’s a recipe for disaster. It’s perfectly fine, even means you’re being responsible, not to respond to every request immediately. “No, I can’t right now” is not equivalent to “No, I won’t ever do it.” By saying no, you’ll be free from the constant frustration of half-finished tasks.
11. Set goals
Know what you’re going to do before you start doing it. If you have no clear path, distractions can come easily. Before starting a new task, take a few minutes to plan out the steps you’ll need to complete and in what order—that way, you’ll be less able to wander. An important step of goal setting? A quality to-do list!
Studies suggest that regular meditation can boost brain function and is associated with better focus and attention. It can also help reduce stress when a massive to-do list is looming.
Want even more tips?
There are plenty of books available that will help you develop strategies for achieving better focus and deeper concentration. It may not be easy to quit, but science tells us that multitasking is not all it’s cracked up to be. Staying focused and concentrating on one task at a time is worth a shot. Do you multitask? Why or why not? Share in the comments below, or get in touch with us on Facebook Thousand Thoughts !
Through not doing too much one has amplitude of reserve power. Through not presuming to be first in the world one can develop one’s talent and let it mature,’ says Lao Tzu’s sutra in Tao Teh King.
When you are not a doer,you have so much energy you become a reservoir,a great lake,full of energy;and that lake becomes a mirror in which the whole is mirrored and reflected.
Ordinarily,if you are a doer — and all are doers — you are always frustrated,your energy is always less,lower than your need.How can you reach the ultimate on such a low level of energy? Energy should be preserved. It should become a deep lake within you,so that you can reflect on the whole.
If you are in competition,trying to be first in the world,you will miss your being totally, because there will be no time to allow it to grow and mature.
If you are not competitive and ambitious, then the whole energy is available for your own being to grow, to mature, to bloom; otherwise, the whole energy moves in so many directions. Somebody has got a beautiful car. Now you cannot tolerate this.You have to have a better car than your neighbour,you have to waste your energy for a better car.Then somebody has got a better bungalow.
Now you have to get a better bungalow, because how can you be defeated by ordinary neighbours? The whole life is wasted.And finally, you find that in competing with your neighbours,you have committed suicide. Remember,you are here to be yourself.Live in the world as if you are alone. Live in the world as if there is nobody who lives by your side;there is no neighbour, just you alone.And then choose your path.There will be no competition.
There will be only inner growth and maturity. And if you can become that which you are already,only then there will be fulfilment.You can become somebody else, but there will be no fulfilment. You can become a Rockefeller,a Ford, you can become anything; but when you have achieved it, you will simply come to realise that this was not your destiny.
You have achieved somebody else’s destiny. How can it fulfil you? Your destiny may have been a small one,a simple one — that you were going to become a flute player.Now you have become President of America. Now what to do with this? The whole life is wasted.And now if you start playing a flute, people will think you are foolish.
And you will be confused.All sense of direction will be lost. Remember you are here to be only you and nobody else.Don’t allow anybody else to manipulate you,and don’t try to manipulate anybody else.You are not here to fulfil anybody else’s expectations,nor is anybody else here to fulfil your expectations.
Each individual is unique, sacred, divine. Imagine the whole world disappears and you are alone on the earth. What will you do? Just think — what will you do if the whole of humanity disappears. Leaving only you on the earth;what will you do? Just close your eyes sometimes and see what you will do. If it comes to you that you will dance,then that is your destiny.Dance, or if you think that you will just relax under a tree and go to sleep — go under a tree and go to sleep.
That is your destiny.Just think of yourself alone — and you are alone really — and then you will feel fulfilled. Small things fulfil if they are in tune with your being. Even great things cannot fulfil if they are not in tune with you.Tao,The Three Treasures.
It’s actually good to be an atheist and not a believer.Atheism has shown me things I would have never thought of as a devout person. I often wonder why people pray to God. I don’t mean people like saints or seers,but just normal people like you and me. Is it for material gain, for someone else or for your own self? Or is it just to vent out your frustrations? Actually,none of them, to be exact. People pray:
1. So God won’t crush them like bugs on plywood.
2.To escape and for psychological relief from problems in their daily life.
This all might sound surprising, but this is the truth.And my change from a believer to an atheist showed me this with stunning clarity: that people pray to get relief, and to escape from the burgeoning problems of their daily, humdrum lives.They desperately want to believe that their problems will be cured by an invisible entity,almost like magic! They look to seek release from the pain and frustration they face through communion with God.To put it very simply: people are cowardly by nature.They can’t face problems on their own and want to depend on an omnipresent entity to solve problems and give them the happy ending of a fairy tale like Snow White and Prince Charming.To complete the metaphor,they liken problems to the evil stepmother who is the queen;the pain caused by problems is the poisoned apple.
I mean,come on.When you can’t respect the person who is washing your dishes and cleaning your floors, how can you actually expect a ‘higher power’ to respect you?
There’s another kick to atheism.Atheism develops your belief in yourself, which is good for people with low self-esteem.You can feel the power you have; the realisation that you don’t have to depend on someone to fix your problems is a powerful one; you are the one who’s in control. Also, atheism lends unbelievable clarity to the mind — it has actually made me better in math than ever before.You can think clearly, abstractly and reason logically, without blaming it all on ‘divine happenings’.
A bit of logical reasoning can take you eons ahead of others; for this is the thing — people want to believe in something, depend on something, which makes them weak.When you don’t depend on anyone or anything for yourself, you are powerful in a unique way. Yes, atheism is empowering.
WHAT SEEKERS HAD TO SAY
■ Work Is Worship
■ There is logic and analytical reasoning in what you say. It is true that a majority of believers pray only when they are in trouble. There are more agnostics in the world than all the theists and atheists put together. Ultimately, work is worship.That is what most hardworking atheists believe and that is exactly what the Gita too says. Devi Prasad
Always Do Your Duty
■What you term atheism is described as karma yoga in our scriptures. So if you are immersed in your work, you are following the true path.You have the right data, but have come to the wrong conclusion.Your actions, are right though.There are many theists and like you,they have the right data but the wrong conclusion and wrong action. Once you progress more spiritually,you will be happier. Krishna Hare
Follow Your Instincts
■ Do whatever your soul tells you is right. That will ensure you do right and are happy. Sunita Gupta
The Right Conclusion
■ This is a great analysis. Keep exploring the path as you traverse through life. Ravi Kiran
God Is Not Man’s Creator
■You are on the right track. God is not man’s creator.Man has created God to serve his own selfish ends. D.P.Sharma