I am walking outside to the rubbish bin for the third time today. It’s freezing outside, but I have to keep clearing the junk. I can start to see the light at the end of the tunnel and the floor to my bedroom again, hooray!
A few days later I get sucked into buying two more pairs of shoes. Do I really need them or was it the scarcity mindset kicking in to tell me that I may not be able to get the same look or price again, so I better buy them now.
I’m in the car off to buy some camera equipment. Tim, isn’t this the second camera you have brought in two months? It’s easy not to be happy with what you have brought when it comes to technology because there is always something better.
After a long days work, it’s time to relax. Now I’m on gumtree again, but I can’t bring myself to buy second-hand cameras. What if it breaks? Don’t I want something no one else has messed with?
That week I look at my office and wonder why I have three computers, two iPads and three phones. I am only one person and I can’t use all these devices at once. I make a commitment there and then to think before buying any more of these personal electronic devices.
While I can’t resist the temptation right now not to want a new phone, I can, at least, commit to selling my old one first before buying the new one. Too late, I have already got the new phone. Oh, how shiny it is!
Not a problem, I will sell my old phone on eBay when I get a chance. Two months have passed, and I still haven’t sold my iPhone. I will get to it one day.
That day arrives, I have holidays, and I now spend three hours taking photos of the old phone and posting a red hot description so I can get the maximum amount of money to use towards my next holiday.
Maybe it’s time for a new car. I mean my current one has only done 40,000 Km but its petrol. It would be cool to have a hybrid instead so that petrol would be much cheaper. Yes, it would cost a lot up front but think of all the long-term savings!
I’m at the fresh food market. There are people everywhere, and it’s 6 am on a Saturday morning. I have worked a long week, but I have to get up early so I can get lots of fresh food. You don’t want to get sick do you and then not be able to deliver on your vision?
I better get an extra bag of organic apples you just never know if they will have any leftover when I come back.
A few days later, the bag of organic apples has gone off. Better throw them out as they taste yuck when they are off. Next time I won’t buy as many.
It’s been a long week, time to relax and go to a friend’s house. When I get through the door, the floor is covered in shoes and other miscellaneous items. Better help clean up as just the thought of this mess is making me feel stressed. I can rest after all the mess is clear.
I’m back in my office. Time to write something I am feeling inspired about. Hold on, there are business shirts all over the floor. Better iron them and get them off the floor otherwise, I will have nothing to wear next week.
Once I am done, I will get back to my writing. You can’t write in a messy room can you?What you have just read are my own thoughts over a week told as self-talk to my brain. I may sound like a mad man, but these types are thoughts are perfectly normal in most of us. I should add that I am already fairly minimalistic in my ways so imagine how much crazier they would be for the majority who are not minimalist in their ways.
Three benefits of becoming more minimalist
1. More time to work on your vision
One of the points above was me attempting to sit down and write an article just like this one. While I had the motivation and the goal of writing an article that week, all the shirts on the floor distracted me from fulfilling my deepest desire.
It’s something so simple, but what if I got rid of some business shirts so that instead of having sixty, I just had five? Five shirts are more than enough to last me a full workweek and some of the most successful people in the world like Mark Zuckerberg already do something similar.
Many of us don’t consciously think about who we are trying to impress with a new outfit or clothing combination every day.
“People are so caught up in their own lives; they don’t even notice what you are wearing” – Tim Denning
Now we don’t all need to take this extreme approach and just have five shirts, but what if we had 50% fewer clothes than we currently had? I suspect we would have less to iron, plenty to wear and feel much better.
By having to go off and iron, the clutter of my material possessions got in the way of what I really wanted to do. Sometimes all we want to do is just sit down and write something or read a book. Adding some minimalist concepts to your life can really get you back on track and closer to your vision.
2. Less day to day stress
If you reread by self-talk again, you will notice that I sound a bit on edge. This is what not having enough minimalist qualities to your life can do. All of us to some degree want to come home to a clean house of some description before we start doing what it is that fulfils us.
Too many possessions can easily become a roadblock to that way of life. In can become a self-fulfilling pattern of never been happy with the hear and now. Our thoughts get anxious, and we always want tot think of the next best thing.
When we can be comfortable with what we have, and we don’t always need to go out and upgrade everything we already have – which already works fine – we can remove some of the daily stress we experience.
3. More money to compound further
The overarching theme to my self-talk was that I was constantly thinking about how to spend more money. For most, it’s money that we don’t have. This is where crazy credit card debts and lack of cash flow in our personal lives comes from.
By putting a minimalist touch to our life, we can have more money without having to go out and work more hours, or sell more goods and services in our business. The money that we save can then be put towards meaningful things like travel, or even money generating possessions like property or stock for our business that can help us create even more abundance.
The initial shift from your current ways to being slightly more minimalist doesn’t need to be much. Don’t try going straight to a life of two t-shirts, no car or TV, and a one-bedroom apartment; it won’t work. Instead, just try being more conscious of how much you are consuming and whether what you are buying is a necessity.
This small change in thinking will get you well on the road to a more minimalist life with much more money. Don’t forget to use some of these increased resources to give back and help others.
Are you already using some minimalist habits? I would love to know in the comments section below or on Twitter and Facebook.
Source: Addicted to Success
Thomas Edison was an American inventor and businessman, best known for inventing the light bulb, phonograph and motion picture camera which has greatly influenced the whole world.
He is also credited to creating the first industrial research laboratory.
Check out some great quotes by Thomas Edison below:
35 Motivational & Inspirational Thomas Edison Quotes:
1. “If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.” – Thomas Edison
2. “His genius he was quite content in one brief sentence to define; Of inspiration one percent, of perspiration, ninety nine.” – Thomas Edison
3. “Hell, there are no rules here – we’re trying to accomplish something.” – Thomas Edison
4. “The best thinking has been done in solitude. The worst has been done in turmoil.” – Thomas Edison
5. “Nearly every man who develops an idea works it up to the point where it looks impossible, and then he gets discouraged. That’s not the place to become discouraged.” – Thomas Edison
6. “When I have fully decided that a result is worth getting I go ahead of it and make trial after trial until it comes.” – Thomas Edison
7. “The value of an idea lies in the using of it.” – Thomas Edison
8. “To have a great idea, have a lot of them.” – Thomas Edison
9. “To invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.” – Thomas Edison
10. “I know this world is ruled by infinite intelligence. Everything that surrounds us- everything that exists – proves that there are infinite laws behind it. There can be no denying this fact. It is mathematical in its precision.” – Thomas Edison
11. “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison
12. “Just because something doesn’t do what you planned it to do doesn’t mean it’s useless.” – Thomas Edison
13. “The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.” – Thomas Edison
14. “Anything that won’t sell, I don’t want to invent. Its sale is proof of utility, and utility is success.” – Thomas Edison
15. “I start where the last man left off.” – Thomas Edison
16. “Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
17. “The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common sense.” – Thomas Edison
18. “There is far more opportunity than there is ability.” – Thomas Edison
19. “Your worth consists in what you are and not in what you have.” – Thomas Edison
20. “One might think that the money value of an invention constitutes its reward to the man who loves his work. But… I continue to find my greatest pleasure, and so my reward, in the work that precedes what the world calls success.” – Thomas Edison
21. “Be courageous. I have seen many depressions in business. Always America has emerged from these stronger and more prosperous. Be brave as your fathers before you. Have faith! Go forward!” – Thomas Edison
22. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
23. “Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.” – Thomas Edison
24. “Waste is worse than loss. The time is coming when every person who lays claim to ability will keep the question of waste before him constantly. The scope of thrift is limitless.” – Thomas Edison
25. “The chief function of the body is to carry the brain around.”
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” – Thomas Edison
26. “It is astonishing what an effort it seems to be for many people to put their brains definitely and systematically to work.” – Thomas Edison
27. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
28. “Restlessness is discontent and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.” – Thomas Edison
29. “I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.” – Thomas Edison
30. “To my mind the old masters are not art; their value is in their scarcity.” – Thomas Edison
31. “There’s a way to do it better – find it.” – Thomas Edison
32. “There is no substitute for hard work.” – Thomas Edison
33. “I have friends in overalls whose friendship I would not swap for the favor of the kings of the world.” – Thomas Edison
34. “I never did anything by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by work.” – Thomas Edison
35. “Discontent is the first necessity of progress.” – Thomas Edison
What’s your favorite Thomas Edison Quote? Share your favorite quote in the comment section below.
Success needs the support of others. There are things you can do alone and this could take you to where you want to be fast. But there are things you need to do with others, that will take you on the further road to success.
The problem is in your ability to distinguish between those people you really need to help you to further your desires and those who cannot.
Here are 7 types of people who will certainly help you succeed in life:
1. The kindhearted friend
This type of person is willing to offer you anything from kind words, to their network list to even some financial aid for you to go ahead and pursue your dreams. The kindhearted friend is generous and desires to see you progress. If they notice your potential, they feel they owe it to you to give you what you need to be successful.
2. The die-hard optimist
When you are overwhelmed with challenges and obstacles, you need this kind of person to help you see the positive angle from where you are standing. A positive view is one that takes you in the right direction and helps you focus on results rather than your limitations. The die-hard optimist may be a dreamer or a philosopher but they definitely want to know that everything will work out for your own good after all.
3. The mentor
Everyone knows the value of a mentor in becoming successful. The mentor is who has the experience and has sailed through the journey of success. They certainly have made mistakes and have lessons from them which they can impart you with. They are concerned about your growth and are willing to provide advice, guidance and perspective as you go through your journey.
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” – Steven Spielberg
4. The devil’s advocate
As much as you need someone who is willing to dream with you and make such dreams seem effortless, you also need the devil’s advocate. The devil’s advocate is one who looks at a goal logically and critically and identifies any weakness in it. Yes this may not be a pleasurable role for anyone, as they say the truth is always hurting. However you need such person around you since they will help you identify the thorns in the rose.
5. The inspirational figure
What separates this role from that of the mentor is that the inspirational figure could be more of the role model rather than one who simply guides you through the hurdles of success. The inspirational figure can be more distant from you, but they’re solid in deeds and character. Yet they will serve as the ideal model for you to follow.
“I think a role model is a mentor – someone you see on a daily basis, and you learn from them.” – Denzel Washington
6. The loyalist
The loyalist sees you for your strengths and is a full time supporter of your cause. They want you to succeed and to them you can do no wrong on this journey to reach your goals. They have your back at any hour and would go to great lengths to help you succeed. They may not be consistent in your life but when you need them they would always come to the party. The thing about the loyalist is that they are there for you all the way, and they rarely retreat, even in the face of ridicule. They believe in you and your dreams and will always be a loyal companion.
7. The sidekick
This is more like a companion, a buddy, a full time supporter of your cause. They are there for you, not simply because they are loyal, but because they have skills that you can also tap from. They are astute and make opportunities happen. The thing about the sidekick is that they are effective because they know you like no other person does and have always been present in your life.
Do you have these 7 types of people in your inner circle? Please leave you thoughts in the comment section below!
Life is simple with hacks, they get us through the day. We keep searching the internet trying to find new hacks to add to our arsenal. We have a couple that you can add up your sleeve. You can thank us later after you read these Psychological Hacks, that are mind blowing. Let’s get started.
1. If you ask someone a question and they give a short response; Just wait, keep quiet and remain eye contact. They will usually pick up where they off from.
2. Ever in your group of friends and you all share a laugh? And then you catch yourself looking at the person you’re closest to? That ‘s because people by their instinct look at the person they’re closest to.
3. If you make yourself joyful, and excited to see someone, they will return the vibe. Maybe not the first time, but the next for sure.
4. If you get nervous from public speaking or get butterflies before a roller coaster, try chewing some gum. If you’re eating something, it tricks our brain to think “I am not in danger because I wouldn’t be eating right now.”
5. If you’re joining a conversation, look at the person’s feet. If they don’t turn their feet and just turn their torsos, they don’t want you to join in. In the same way, if talking to a coworker, and you think they’re invested in the conversation. If their torso is turned towards you and not their feet, they probably want it to end.
6.If someone is angry at you, just stay calm, it’ll tick them off more, and they’ll ashamed about it after.
7. Take someone on a first date that gets their heart pumping. For example like a roller coaster or a horror movie. This spikes their adrenaline, and tricking them they enjoy spending time with you, but it was probably an adrenaline high from the activity.
8.People will remember you not by your words, but how you made them feel. Also, people love talking about themselves, so just ask lots of question about them.
9. Always tell the truth. when you have to tell a lie, people are more likely to believe you.
10. If you smile big, you’ll instantly feel happier. Just don’t do it while staring at people. You’ll likely come off of as creep.
11.When you just meet someone, refer them by their name, people love hearing their name. It will build up trust, and a friendship right away. If your friend introduces to his friend Mike, when it time to say bye, don’t say just bye, but instead say “Bye Mike”.
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12.If you’re learning a new language or something of that assert. Try to teach a friend, by teaching something you’ll understand it much better.
13. Most guys in a fist fight will try to end it with right hook instinctively.
14. If you want really want something for someone, disguise it as an offer than a request.
Did you know when Teddy Roosevelt was running for president, his campaign team printed out 3 million leaflets with a picture of a Teddy. His team realize that they didn’t retain the rights for the photo. They twisted around as an offer for the photographer by saying the studio will pay 250 for the rights for the photo, and you get a lot of publicity throw the campaign in return. If they had explained their problem. The photographer will have a lot more leverage, and will probably ask for a lot more money.
15. People are extremely in tune with their sense of touch. If someone mistakenly rest their knee on yours, they might pretend it didn’t happen, but they knew it was there the whole time.
16. When you have you have an interview, ask your interviewer as many questions as you can. Ask them about what they do for work, really listen to them. They will walk away from the interview feeling like a million bucks because they got a chance to talk about themselves. They will think the interview went well. It’s a psychological thing.
17. Your chances increase for success in a relationship if your parents and your friends get along with your special someone.
18. Jokes tend to be less funny when it have to be said again. Well, use it to your advantage when a jerk makes a joke at your expense. Play deaf, make them repeat it, by the third time the joke will hearing crickets.
19. You can judge a person characteristics by seeing how they treat people who they don’t know.
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The brain can be a powerful and wonderful tool if you know how to manipulate it. Taking a look at these Top 16 Psychological Life Hacks will certainly help you turn into some type of genius, or you can pretend you are anyway.
Kill With Kindness:
If you are in the midst of a battle with a rude customer or just anyone in general, do not stoop down to their level. Treat them extra nice – sugar coats it, baby. If you are being extra kind to someone who is obviously pissed, it should make them feel even angrier, and then push them to realize how ridiculous they are being. In the end, you’ll end up winning and they should be apologizing.
Silence Is Golden:
When you’re in an argument, make your case, then don’t say anything else. People get uncomfortable with silence and many times will end up caving just to get away from the awkward silence.
If you place a mirror facing the angry customer or person, they tend to act more rational. Although I wouldn’t recommend whipping out a pocket mirror every time someone is upset at you with a minuscule thing.
Keep Your Enemies Closer:
We’ve all heard the say, “Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.” And for good reasons too. Say if you’re heading into a meeting, knowing you’re going to be hassled for something, sit next to that particular person. This takes away the distance between you and the perpetrator and can make them feel uncomfortable. The encounter will become more personal when it’s not hindered by the group setting.
Frame Request As An Offer:
If you present a favor or request as an offer, it will benefit you and it will make the other person think they are getting more out of the situation as well. It’s a win-win.
Notice Eye Color:
Try to make it a habit to notice the eye color of whoever you are talking to at the time. This life hack helps you more likely to remember the name of the person and to have the right amount of eye contact with this person. It also wouldn’t hurt to throw out a compliment.
People will most likely agree to a task or favor if you ask them to do something much smaller and easier first.
If you are trying to broaden your horizons and learn something new, tag your friend along as well, to teach them about it. Have them ask you questions along the way; to be able to fully understand a concept, you have to be able to teach it as well.
Alter Your Pre-Interview Mindset:
Before heading into an interview, don’t stress yourself out so much. Just pretend yourself into thinking that you’re meeting up with some old friends or college buddies. Just keeping telling yourself you can’t wait to see them and to catch up.
Alter Your Pre-Interview Mindset:
Before heading into an interview, don’t stress yourself out so much. Just pretend yourself into thinking that you’re meeting up with some old friends or college buddies. Just keeping telling yourself you can’t wait to see them and to catch up.
Being excited, happy, and smiling when meeting someone for the first time is very beneficial. Usually, the other person will remember you having a smiling face, and they should act the same towards you.
Favors Make You Likeable:
Getting someone to do a small task for you must mean they have larger feelings for you, hence, they are actually going through with the favor.
Use First Names:
If you refer people to their names, it establishes a sense of trust and friendliness. For example, when you’re saying hello to someone, say “Hello Jessica!” instead of just “Hi!” People like hearing their name and being needed.
Avoid Filler Words:
Don’t fill conversations with words like “uh.” “like”, and “um.” This clearly indicates that you are trying to scramble your thoughts together, and trying to put it together for a sentence. But, if you take out those filler words, people won’t be able to tell that you are thinking about what to say next; it gives off that you have more confidence than you actually do.
Courage, Not Stress:
Your body reacts to stress the same way it does to courage, so if you’re feeling drained and feel there is no other way out for your stressful ways, tell yourself that you’re reacting to courage, not stress.
Wake Up Instantly:
Have problems waking up immediately? Try pumping your fists into the air and shouting “YAS!” when you first get awakened by the pesky alarm clock.
Feeling depressed? Start cleaning your home, and you’ll feel accomplished and happy when you’re done.
What is Love? Wikipedia says, “Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that range from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.” The funny thing about loving other people, is that we need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else.
What is Self-Love?
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Simple Tips for Love Yourself:
* Forgive yourself (if you don’t nobody will).
*Stop criticizing yourself.
* Praise and appreciate yourself.
* Find ways to support yourself.
* Appreciate your body and tell yourself you are beautiful. You are more than just your appearance.
* Do something simple that makes you happy.
* Go after your dreams.
* Smile, it creates happiness.
* Celebrate your successes.
* Pamper yourself.
“In order to love yourself, you must behave in ways that you admire.” ~Irving Yalom
Overcome Negative Thoughts About Yourself:
Many people have trouble letting go of negative thoughts that they have about themselves. Focusing only on the negatives in your life is a bad habit we all tend to slip into. It is impossible to love yourself if all you have is negative thoughts about who you are and what you’ve done. Negative thoughts are inevitable at times, but we have to stop supporting those negative thoughts. They have a huge impact on your mindset.
Appreciating yourself is a wonderful thing and is a practice we all should adopt. Start appreciating yourself for who you are and what you have. This allows you to realize your true worth. Once you realize your worth, you won’t settle for anything else. When you start to appreciate your talents, beauty, and brilliance you will be able to love your imperfectly perfect self.
Find Positive Things About Yourself:
Try to find positive things about yourself and make a list of your positive attributes. When you feel down, take a look at the list of your positive attributes. You will realize that you deserve love and respect. Let those positive attributes run through your mind.
Be Confident About Yourself:
What other people think of you doesn’t matter, as long as you are confident about yourself.
Do Things That Make You Feel Good:
Start doing things that make you feel good both physically and emotionally. Do things that you wanted to do in your childhood. Read that book you’ve been meaning to read. Spend more time outside.
Spend Some Time Alone:
Before you can be happy with someone else, you truly need to find happiness within yourself. One of the best things you can do to accomplish that is to spend some time alone, doing things you love. Take action and create a beautiful life for yourself. Trust in yourself, do good work, and you will see results. Spending time with your partner is not the only thing that brings happiness, you have to realize that you can be happy, by spending time alone too.
Source: “The Importance of Loving Yourself,” from iheartintelligence.com
As you sit quietly and immerse yourself in the peace and stillness of your own centred being, you will gradually begin to experience yourself in an undistorted manner. You will sink below or rise above your usual sense of self and instead come upon the undistorted, clear conscious experience of Being–your Being. You will experience yourself as the specific conscious expression of an infinitely expressive Consciousness, Mind, Presence, or God. You will thereby intuitively know that you are more than physical and human, that your spiritual existence is guaranteed, immortal, eternal, and true, and that your Original Nature is absolutely good. You’ll know that you are creative energy, Spirit, a unique expression of God’s infinite Self-Expression, and that at your core is Goodness. This is what you’ll experience because, in some mysterious and uncompromising way, this is what we are. We are all made of God Substance, Consciousness, Love.
As you sit in stillness, experiencing the energetic feeling-tone of “you” (Level One), you will invariably begin to feel exquisite inside. You will begin to feel at ease, deeply relaxed, natural, perhaps for the first time in a long time. And as you relax, and as you feel the energy you are made of, you will begin to feel loved. You’ll find yourself feeling this way, inevitably, eventually, as you relax inside and allow yourself to become increasingly in touch with the loving goodness that is already in you–and it is already in you because that is how you were built. Love is the all-constituting substance of Being. It’s what you are made of. And you did not create yourself.
When you sit quietly and let go of every false self-definition, of everything you think you know about who you are, and then be what’s left, what remains is the untarnished presence of who you’ve always been and still really are. This untarnished presence manifests–shines–as pure, clear awareness and unconditional love. When you experience your essence, you will feel this natural lovingness within yourself without having to do anything!
When you feel the loving goodness inside yourself as yourself–as who or what you really are, you will acquire new self-appreciation. You will realize there is no basis for being self-critical or self-condemnatory, or for harbouring guilt for some known or unknown transgression in the past, and that you have done this until now simply because you have accepted as true certain erroneous ideas about yourself. It’s obvious to you now that when you wipe the slate clean and take a look at yourself for yourself, when you experience yourself as you actually are, you encounter a very different you from the “you” you thought you were. It now makes sense to disbelieve what was never true and embrace the new self-appraisal. You are You; God’s specific Self-Expression.
You will then no longer think of yourself in self-deprecatory terms, and you will, as a natural consequence, loosen and release every remaining tendril of self-condemnation and self-hate. It will be reasonable to do this, though not always easy. It will no longer feel sane, however, or true or realistic, to be self-critical. And since your behaviour has always been a by-product of the way you feel about yourself, you’ll notice in yourself an effortless, behavioural change occurring in response to this new self-evaluation. You will become more loving, more understanding, and more truly compassionate naturally. This is a vital stage of personal maturation and is of utmost social value.
Difficulty arises, however, because we are afraid to let go of what we think we know and be what’s left. We’re reluctant to ease up on the tight sense of control we exercise over ourselves because life is hard enough as it is. We don’t want it any harder. “If I stop controlling myself to be one way rather than another, who knows what might happen! If I let go of every pretense and instead be genuine, things might get worse. Who knows what devil might be lurking in my depths?” But it’s also beginning to dawn on us that we have blindly believed false and inaccurate concepts about who we are, and have been ignorant of our true nature until now simply because we have been taught otherwise, and that maybe we’re different from how we’ve thought ourselves to be, and that it’s time, now, to experience what’s really true once and for all, come what may.
It requires tremendous courage willingly to release all of our firmly held beliefs and face ourselves directly. Courage is required because we don’t know what we’ll find. We’re afraid our worst suspicions will be confirmed, or that we’ll uncover aspects of ourselves we’d rather keep concealed. And we may! But underneath it all, or surrounding it all, embracing it all is the creative energy of Consciousness, Identity, or Presence that we really are grounded in love and goodness.
But at first we don’t know this. We don’t know that goodness is at our core. We don’t know that happiness is the natural state, that this is what we’ll find. So we feel trepidation. We’re suspicious. And we’re likely to think all this talk about love and goodness is nothing but, at best, pure fantasy. But, in actuality we’re not absolutely certain this isn’t what we’ll find. We don’t really know whether it’s true or false. We don’t really know whether goodness or evil is at our core, or if we are some blurry mixture of the two.
Therefore, we need to courageously desire to know the truth, and then we need to go within and experience ourselves directly. Therefore, want to know the truth, once and for all. Want to knowyour truth. Let go of everything you think you know about who you are, suspend every idea you now have about what’s true and what isn’t, and open your mind to what’s actually so–to the living truth of you.
This is the most logical, important, life-affirming thing you can do. You’ll be glad you risked experiencing yourself with clarity. But it can be frightening, unnerving, unsettling. However, if loving goodness is both at your core and is the surrounding all-pervading presence of Consciousness that you are–and this is something you will only ever know by experiencing it within yourself as your deepest truth–then the more clearly you experience yourself as you really are, free of any overlay of conditioning and in spite of your fears, the more love you will experience. If love is what’s in there, then love is what you’ll find when you go within. But you won’t be convinced of this until you go within. Therefore, take the chance. It’s worth the risk. And it’s inevitable. You’re bound to succeed. You will no longer be so afraid to know what else is true about you, which will further encourage you to relax deeper, trust more fully, and genuinely be yourself without inhibition or pretense.
You will discover and know that love, goodness, and creative consciousness are what constitute your being because you will experience these attributes within and as yourself. You will simultaneously realize that you did not put them there because you did not create yourself. You were created by the creative God Force. The inherent creative goodness within you is not a mental construct that you attempt to adopt, not pretense or self-deception, not something you conjure up. It’s something you discover. You go in empty-handed, not knowing, and this is what you find. And when you allow yourself wholeheartedly to experience the core feeling-tone of the love that you are, you will spontaneously feel happy. You won’t have to lift a finger or change yourself in any way. It’s the way you were built. It’s what you are. The emotional feeling-tone of love and goodness is happiness.
There will be an overwhelming sense of authenticity about this experience. You will have no doubt about its truth. You will be convinced. You will also realize that it is not egocentric to be appreciative of the creative energy that you are. Nor is it arrogant, presumptuous, or conceited to feel good inside about yourself, or to be happy for no apparent reason, or to acknowledge that you are a perfect creation of the God Force.
You understand instead that it is egotistical and arrogant to believe anything else, for you are not a self-created separate energy. It is not any more narcissistic (in the pejorative sense) to experience self-love or self-appreciation than it is to appreciate a lovely flower or a spectacular sunset. The wonder and beauty of you is not your doing, and appreciation will be the natural response of anyone who realizes this truth. What a relief! You are not who you thought you were. You are the infinite Oneness in specific Self-Expression. How wonderful to be affiliated with the great God Force.
In order to experience the natural joy of Being–in order to be happy!–we do not have to fulfill any conditions that are contrary to our original nature of loving goodness. We especially do not have to be other than the way we are. In fact, it has been the lifelong attempt to be some way other than our natural being that has made us frustrated and unhappy. You cannot be anything other than you. Therefore, let yourself be yourself–be you!–and live your truth without inhibition. Discover the truth by letting go of old concepts. Make space for the new. Release every idea you have about who you are, and then be the you that remains. Being you is not a substitute for what you can never be. It is the gracious acceptance of what you have always wanted and have never been without.
Think of it like this: The farther you are from knowing your truth and experiencing the love you are, the unhappier you will be; the closer you are, the happier. Keep it simple. It works like this because goodness is at your core and because happiness is the feeling-tone of your original nature. But, really, whether you are “close” or “far,” you are always only a thought away. Your original nature is not, in fact, far away from you. It is not elusive. It is not someplace other than where you are, nor is it something you evolve or transform into or earn. It’s right here, yours, already.
Become your already-existing naturally happy truth by spending quiet time alone every day to meditate. At least once a day sit down for a few minutes by yourself, stop moving, stop thinking, and just be. Deliberately be still. Close your eyes, relax, breathe, be aware, and consciously experience your present moment of conscious awareness. Immerse yourself in your own unique feeling-tone. Feel you. Bask in the exquisite experience of being alive, of conflict-free high-energy peace, and become thoroughly familiar with the core tone of who you are.
This is like dipping cloth into dye. Each dip of the cloth strengthens the cast of the dye and enhances the color. Here, however, you are dipping yourself into you. You are experiencing you. Each time you do so, you become more you; that is, your sense of the authentic you is enriched. Each dip into the silent experience of you washes away more false ideas, which enables the real you to shine forth more clearly to yourself and others. As you do this, something new and very interesting will gradually begin to happen. You’ll find yourself becoming more intuitive. Your mind will seem to expand, and your inner voice will start talking to you more clearly, guiding you, telling you what to say, what to think, where to go, what to do with your life. As you will discover, this is the source of right action. I will say more about this later.
Therefore, as you directly experience the living truth of who you are, two wonderful aspects of being become apparent. First, you come upon the core of goodness. This will promote a new, expanded, and truer sense of self. It will give your life new meaning, and you’ll find yourself feeling happy for no apparent reason. Of course, there is a reason. Happiness and love is the stuff of which you are made. You can obscure your awareness of it, but you cannot get away from it. You cannot actually change it.
Second, the inner feeling–or inner voice–starts speaking to you with more clarity. Or rather, it’s not that the inner voice now speaks with more clarity, but you’ll start hearing it more clearly. It will become more obvious to you, and harder to ignore. This internal communication from the deeper regions of Being can become, if you are willing, your new guide to appropriate action in daily life. You will feel good inside about who you are and be increasingly effective in all your actions.
Let’s move now into a practice mode with regard to all that has been said so far. We’ll continue with three more exercises. These have been specifically designed to help you experience the loving goodness truth inside you.
One of the first things you may notice as you sit in stillness is that your body vibrates or hums. The center of this hum is in the area of your heart and throughout the length of your spine, your core. This is where love vibrates most obviously. The purpose of the next two breathing exercises, then, is to direct your conscious feeling-awareness into the area of your heart and core and thereby increase your sensitivity to the vibratory hum. You’ll feel the love vibration inside yourself that will cause you to feel profoundly loved and profoundly safe, and you will thereby spontaneously become more loving–more of a pleasure to be around. This is good for you, and it’s good for others! These exercises are worth a few minutes of your undivided attention. Enjoy them.
Lie on your back with your eyes closed and palms flat on your chest. Begin by gently breathing in and out, aiming the breath into the chest so that you feel the wishbone at the base of your sternum expanding with each breath. Do this for a minute or two.
Then allow your breathing to flow in and out naturally, effortlessly, without any intervention on your part, and simply station your awareness in the center of your chest at the base of the sternum–where your hands are–and feel what you feel. Feel yourself breathing. As attentively as you can, note the changing sensations in the area of your heart that accompany each breath as it flows in and out.
Breathe in and out of your heart, lie absolutely still, be relaxed, and allow your breathing to flow freely and easily. Make no attempt to regulate your breathing or control it in any way. Some breaths will be deep, others shallow. Every breath will be different. All you do is remain aware of the ever-changing sensations that accompany breathing in the area of your heart.
As you practice this technique, let each breath remind you to stay centred and present in the now. When your attention strays, notice it has done so and then bring it back to the feeling-awareness of the ever-changing sensations in your chest. Do not think about the breath, nor about the meaning of love. Simply experience what’s actually there to be experienced. Stay with what’s happening. Shift from thinking mode to feeling mode, and experience your unique feeling-tone emanating from your heart center. Be especially on the look out for pleasurable sensations of warmth, expansion, or spaciousness, and notice how the movement of breath seems to fan and increase these sensations. Willingly give your undivided attention to this exercise for ten minutes.
Expanded heart breathing
Sit on the floor with your spine straight and eyes closed. If you are unable to sit on the floor, use a chair. Be comfortable. Take a moment to become quiet and prepare yourself.
When you are ready, begin with ten or twenty fairly deep, gentle, continuous breaths, endeavouring to achieve full expansion of your chest and rib cage. Allow the sternum to rise and swell forward as you breathe. Go ahead and exaggerate it, but be very, very gentle.
Then inhale fully, again lifting upward with the sternum and expanding your chest. Hold the breath for a comfortable length of time, somewhere between five and twenty seconds, and as you hold your chest gently open at full expansion, feel the sensations in the area of your heart.
Feel the obvious sensations–the physical sensations of stretch and fullness accompanying chest expansion, the feeling of satisfaction, of air-hunger being satiated, and of air-hunger arising again as the seconds go by, your heart beating, your desire to exhale–but feel the deeper, subtler energy as well. Feel the energy of love in the area of your heart as you hold your chest open. Then exhale quietly, releasing the breath at a comfortable pace and relaxing deeply. Do this twelve times.
With this technique you are increasing your sensitivity to the vibratory feeling-tone in the area of your heart. Think of this as a vortex of energy in the vicinity of your physical heart but not your actual physical heart. You will be able to feel this vortex of energy with increasing clarity with practice. Do not attempt to hold the breath as long as you can. Hold the breath only as long as is comfortable. You should still be able to exhale smoothly, quietly, without panic. There should be no strain whatsoever. Exhale when you receive the inner cue to do so and keep the breath soft, strain-free, and peaceful. This is not a contest. It does not matter how long you hold the breath. Use the technique to increase your sensitivity to the inner feeling.
When you have completed the twelve breaths, sit absolutely still for another minute or two and simply be aware of how you feel. Station your awareness in the area of your heart and core and feel what you feel. Stay aware of the changing sensations that accompany breathing in the area of your heart, the sensations throughout your core and body, the space around your body, and especially the overall energetic feeling-tone of you. Willingly let go of everything you think you know about who you are, and allow yourself to experience you with clarity.
Who am I?
Sit with your spine straight or lie flat on the floor on your back. Close your eyes and take a few moments to become quiet and still. Relax your body and allow yourself to become intimately aware of your breathing. Observe the natural flow of breath in and out of your body.
Then put aside everything you think you know about who you are and ask yourself the question, “Who am I?” Ask the question but do not answer it. Instead, feel the answer. Feel who you are. Feel the energy of you. Answer not in words but in the direct experience of the energy that you are. When your attention wanders from this very personal self-experiencing and you notice yourself thinking other thoughts, ask yourself, “Who is thinking this? Who is having this thought?” The answer will always be “I am.” Then ask yourself again, “But who am I?” Then again immerse yourself in the feeling-tone truth of you.
When you notice yourself suddenly aware of a particular sound or sensation, your attention pulled away from the feeling, ask yourself “Who is hearing this sound? Who is experiencing this sensation?” The answer will always be, “I am.” Then again ask, “But who am I?” And again blend with the feeling-tone truth of you. Find out who you are through direct experience. Keep bringing your conscious awareness back into the conscious experience of you in the now.
There is no adequate mental answer to the question. The vibrant silence is the answer. And so, be still and know.
We can try to figure out the hard parts of life, the challenges, to open the closed doors of life on our own—or we can refer to humankind’s wisdom.
1.”If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room. “
I need to challenge myself to inspire yourself: I need to work with those who know their passion if I want to succeed.
2.”There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” ~ Ernest Hemingway
When I’m mean to others in order to make myself feel better, I make myself smaller. “Do you feel victory when your words cause pain?”
3. “An amateur practices until he can play it correctly, a professional practices until he can’t play it incorrectly.” Or, better, since perfection is not the object: “The master has failed more times than the beginner has tried.”
4. “We judge ourselves by our intentions but others by their actions.”
Boom. Perspective. This one has stuck with me. As VP Biden put it today, we can judge other’s actions, but not their motivation.
5. “If it takes less than five minutes, just do it now.”
Don’t procrastinate. The obstacle will fester, and it will take the same amount of time to do then as now but you will have lived with the festering for longer. As Trungpa Rinpoche puts it, approach the challenge directly.
6. “If you don’t have time to do it right, you must have time to do it over.”
Measure twice. Slow down. Breathe. The Lincoln quote about sharpening the axe comes to mind.
7. “When you are torn between 2 choices, always pick the one that will make the best story – grandpa always said this and once I started following it, life became a lot more interesting.”
Approach your cowardice as if stepping forward will make for an adventure. It will.
8. “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.”
So, work hard. Because some talent out there works hard, too. “90% of talent is interest.” Pick your passion—but that’s not enough. Here’s more on Right Livelihood.
9. Criticism, if constructive, is a greater gift and a surer sign of true friendship than complements.
10. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Or, Buddha: holding onto anger is like holding onto a piece of hot coal preparing to throw it at someone. You’re the one who gets burned.
11. It’s okay if it’s not okay. It’s okay for things to not always be okay.
Listen to some Blues. Be okay with not okay. Practice tonglen.
British actor Alan Rickman has died at the age of 69 from cancer, his family confirmed on Thursday.
The stage and film legend was beloved for his roles in Die Hard, Pride & Prejudice, Robin Hood and Galaxy Quest, but is most famous for his portrayal of potions teacher Severus Snape in the Harry Potter films.
Snape is perhaps the most misunderstood of all JK Rowling’s characters.
His complex relationship with Harry Potter is central to the series and is not fully revealed in its final moments.
Fans of the books and films had the potions professor’s backstory teasingly revealed in flashbacks, but enterprising YouTube user kcawesome13 rearranged them in chronological order to create a fascinating insight into the character that fans will enjoy today more than ever.
Be warned the below clip, which helps to explain why Harry described Snape as “probably the bravest man I ever knew”, contains a lot of feels.
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We’ve seen lots of different advice on meditation and instructions on techniques, and it’s true that a practice is intensely personal, and that everyone has their own methods.
However, we’ve never seen anything like this. Oregon artist and energy worker Sara Mapelli meditates while wearing a ‘blouse’ of bees covering her bare torso. Her intention? To commune with nature and assist others in overcoming their fears. In an interview withNational Geographic, she said:
I’ve danced for people who were really afraid of bees…Many people come to me for deep intense personal issues. When I approached one of my clients with the bees [during the dance] he leaned back so astonished, but then came a huge smile as he realized he was safe. It was like watching someone transform. He was so heartfelt and emotional afterwards.
The dance with honey bees covering much of her body is just one aspect of her alternative medicine practice. She says that it helps people who feel detached from or have a fear of nature.
Mapelli said that her fascination with bees stems from childhood, where a sense of community was instilled in her at an early age.
As I got to know bees, I realized their world is all about community. Each bee has a job, and they take turns doing different things to help the whole. That interconnectedness, the idea that if you take a piece out the group is incomplete and doesn’t function as well—that’s part of the message I want to share.
The idea for the ‘bee blouse’ came to Mapelli in a vision while driving once through the beautiful Columbia Gorge. “I could visualize this bee blouse, but it took me a long time to find people to help me make it happen,” she said. “I finally found an entomologist to work with me, and I’m also connected with beekeepers all over the country. I plan to do a bee-dance tour in Europe next.”
She gets the bees to cover her body using a pheromone derived from the queen bee, after which a beekeeper lifts as frame full of bees from the hive and brings it near. Soon, she is covered in a ‘tornado,’ which soon covers the top part of her body with an 8-inch thick layer of nearly 15,000 bees.
“There is magic and fantasy in what I do, that’s part of my job. Not just to heal and educate, but to inspire magic. The bees help me do that,” she concludes in the interview (read the full transcript here). Check out this fascinating video below of her meditative honeybee dance!
This article was originally posted on Spirit Science.