Never assume that you’re stuck with the way things are right now. You aren’t.
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How to Create and Implement Daily Rituals:
This 7-step process is fairly simple and, if you diligently stick to it, basically infallible:
- Focus on one (and only one) positive change at a time. – You can break this rule, and sadly most people do, but don’t be surprised if you fail because of it. If you try to do too much, nothing gets done right. Implement one positive change and make it a ritual for a month before considering adding to it or starting a second. Only build upon your ritual if you were successful, otherwise stick to it until it feels like second nature to you.
- Start small. – I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but again no one ever does it. Start with a daily ritual that lasts 10 minutes or less. If you feel incredible resistance and fail at 10 minutes, drop it to 5 minutes, or 3 minutes, and then stick to it for a full month.
- Create a trigger that automatically initiates your ritual each day. – A mistake lots of people make is trying to complete their ritual at the same exact time each day – like 8am sharp. The problem is life’s scheduling conflicts often get in the way of a rigid schedule, so on many days the ritual ends up being pushed back until tomorrow. To mitigate this, use something you automatically do every day as the trigger to start your ritual. For example, after you eat breakfast, after you brush your teeth, after you arrive at the office, after you turn on your computer, after you return home and walk through the front door, etc. The exact time doesn’t matter.
- Make a sincere verbal commitment to someone (or multiple people). – Make sure it’s with someone whose opinion you respect. For example, I made a commitment to workout for 30 minutes every day to Angel. I’ve also made commitments to my parents, to close friends, to my son, to readers of our blog, to coaching/course students, to companies I’ve done business with, and more.
- Set up an accountability system with an accountability partner. – Taking my workout example with Angel … each day I have to update a shared Google calendar showing how many minutes I’ve worked out, and she can (and does) check this calendar daily to make sure I’m on track. Your accountability tool of choice doesn’t matter – you can post to Facebook, email someone, or have a 5-minute face-to-face accountability meeting. Just make sure someone is holding you accountable each day, not each week, or each month. And make sure the person is actually checking in with you. If they don’t check in with you, you need to find a different accountability partner.
- Create consequences for slacking off. – The most significant consequence of not following through with your daily ritual is losing the respect of those who you have made a commitment to. But you can create other slightly more fun consequences: Recently I made a promise to a group of friends that I would donate $100 to a political campaign I’m not fond of each time I didn’t follow through with my commitment. I haven’t missed my commitment yet. I’ve also made a promise to eat octopus sushi if I slacked off (and I won’t , because eating raw octopus is repulsive to me – like eating a rat). I’ve promised to sing embarrassing karaoke songs in front of strangers if I failed. The consequences can also be positive – a reward each week if you don’t miss a day, for example. Also, make the consequences more severe if you miss two days straight, and even more severe if you miss three, etc.
- Review and enjoy the daily progress you’re making. – Taking two minutes to reflect on your daily accomplishments each evening is a healthy way to raise self-confidence and contentment. It’s also an effective way to motivate yourself. If you don’t do this, you’ll likely lose track of the fact that you’re moving in the right direction. So keep notes and write down at least one thing you made progress on each day and why it mattered. Do this consistently for a month straight and watch how it affects your happiness and productive output.
That’s it. Ritualize these seven steps, and you’ve got a changed life. I challenge you to put them into action today.
Even in uncertain times, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.
True wealth is the ability to fully experience life.
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– Henry David Thoreau
- You are alive.
- You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.
- You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.
- You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.
- You have tasted the sweetness of chocolate cake.
- You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
- You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.
- You had a choice of what clothes to wear.
- You haven’t feared for your life today.
- You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learned and survived.
- You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.
- You live in a country that protects your basic human rights and civil liberties.
- You are reasonably strong and healthy – if you got sick today, you could recover.
- You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.
- You have someone with whom to reminisce about ‘the good old days.’
- You have access to clean drinking water.
- You have access to medical care.
- You have access to the Internet.
- You can read.
The truth is, you’re doing better than a lot of people in this world. So remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.
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I was sitting at this bar, the corner table waiting for my friend for past 15 minutes, as much as I was pissed at him getting late I was constantly being bothered by my phone Buzzing every other second, it was my ex making every effort to get back into my Life. And there I see a Couple sitting right in front of my Corner Seat adding to my melancholically well planned meeting, engrossed in their violent yet so mundane conversation.
I can totally relate this so common act with the scenario today, a Relationship Blunder. What was the first impression that these words create on your mind? Is it that everyone seem to fight and cheat on each other all the time, as if it’s a norm???
“A person must be strong enough to to move on. The past is over. There are so many people who get into relationships fall in love and then get heart broken. When a person breaks your heart it’s best that you move on a leave for the better. Do not allow a person from your past pain come back into your life. If you must be alone for a while be alone. But do not let loneliness be a reason for you to go back to your ex. You must move forward”, says Marcus Gill.
What I think is that most of the Relationships these days are mere an outcome of anxiety, isolation and most importantly to pleasure the physical desires. Teenagers these days are not so involved into family interactions, in fact they prefer not to share even the smallest of their joy or sorrow. Here comes a feeling of loneliness at times, for which relationship seems to be the only way out. Can it be equated with love?
I loved this answer as provided by Marcus during our conversation; he says, “Well most people do rush into relationships because of loneliness. Who wants to be alone for lever? Not many. The hurtful part is the fact that lonely people will tolerate almost anything just to cure themselves. I would encourage people to understand true love. That fact that God is love and God is always with you means that you’re never alone and you’re never without love. Gods love always beats man’s love anyway.”
Another important point to keep in mind is that; a strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life, and vice versa. It can improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others; and it can also affect you adversely. Remember; Relationships are an investment. It requires the your time and there should be a sense of belongingness. The more you put in, the more you can get back. When asked, Marcus gave me some really useful tips that can prove to be of real help. I would like to share a few with you.
Tip 1: Do not commit to a relationship because of good looks. Indeed outward appearance is attractive and in most cases it does matter, but you will make a huge mistake if you do not take the time to get to know who a person is underneath all of their beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? That also counts for the beauty that we should see on the inside of a person. Don’t make a commitment to someone with a mask on. People do a really good job of hiding who they really are.
They may appear to be one way on the outside but deep down inside they are horrible. The mask may look good for now, but the mask will not stay on forever. Ask God to reveal to you what’s wrong that may not be so obvious. It’s a miserable experience to be in a committed relationship with someone who looks amazing but their personality is abominable.
Tip 2: Enjoy your life’s journey. Avoid comparing your life’s journeys to other’s. If all of your friends are in relationships don’t let that be a reason as to way you feel the need to rush into one. Have you ever heard of the phrase keeping up with the Jones’? Thats what so many people end up doing.
Their best friend has a mate so they rush to get a mate. The relationship is all wrong. Be single and satisfied until God send you the right person! You do not have to rush the process just to keep up with others. Wait on God’s perfect timing. In fact, the same people that you may look at and admire may be in a difficult situation and you don’t even know it. Enjoy your privacy and peace. Go out and enjoy your life (even if you have to do it alone, it’s fun!) when the time is right your God sent mate will be revealed! Do not try to match your friends. Enjoy your own God created journey.
Let me now introduce you to this amazing man, Marcus.
Marcus Gill Speaker, author, and pastor are some of the words used to identify Marcus Gill. He is the founder and CEO of Marcus Gill Ministries; a ministry that has been designed to reach lost souls and inspire believers.
With the use of clothing giveaways, food distribution, outdoor evangelistic worship experiences, conferences, television, online broadcasting and literature, Marcus has distributed God’s license for victory that can never be revoked. Known globally for his inspiring presence on social media, Marcus has been able to share God’s love with over 40 million people a week. He is the Founder and Lead Pastor of The Rush Church United in New Haven, Connecticut and New York City.
Connect with him on Facebook: Marcus Gill