Never assume that you’re stuck with the way things are right now. You aren’t.
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How to Create and Implement Daily Rituals:
This 7-step process is fairly simple and, if you diligently stick to it, basically infallible:
- Focus on one (and only one) positive change at a time. – You can break this rule, and sadly most people do, but don’t be surprised if you fail because of it. If you try to do too much, nothing gets done right. Implement one positive change and make it a ritual for a month before considering adding to it or starting a second. Only build upon your ritual if you were successful, otherwise stick to it until it feels like second nature to you.
- Start small. – I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but again no one ever does it. Start with a daily ritual that lasts 10 minutes or less. If you feel incredible resistance and fail at 10 minutes, drop it to 5 minutes, or 3 minutes, and then stick to it for a full month.
- Create a trigger that automatically initiates your ritual each day. – A mistake lots of people make is trying to complete their ritual at the same exact time each day – like 8am sharp. The problem is life’s scheduling conflicts often get in the way of a rigid schedule, so on many days the ritual ends up being pushed back until tomorrow. To mitigate this, use something you automatically do every day as the trigger to start your ritual. For example, after you eat breakfast, after you brush your teeth, after you arrive at the office, after you turn on your computer, after you return home and walk through the front door, etc. The exact time doesn’t matter.
- Make a sincere verbal commitment to someone (or multiple people). – Make sure it’s with someone whose opinion you respect. For example, I made a commitment to workout for 30 minutes every day to Angel. I’ve also made commitments to my parents, to close friends, to my son, to readers of our blog, to coaching/course students, to companies I’ve done business with, and more.
- Set up an accountability system with an accountability partner. – Taking my workout example with Angel … each day I have to update a shared Google calendar showing how many minutes I’ve worked out, and she can (and does) check this calendar daily to make sure I’m on track. Your accountability tool of choice doesn’t matter – you can post to Facebook, email someone, or have a 5-minute face-to-face accountability meeting. Just make sure someone is holding you accountable each day, not each week, or each month. And make sure the person is actually checking in with you. If they don’t check in with you, you need to find a different accountability partner.
- Create consequences for slacking off. – The most significant consequence of not following through with your daily ritual is losing the respect of those who you have made a commitment to. But you can create other slightly more fun consequences: Recently I made a promise to a group of friends that I would donate $100 to a political campaign I’m not fond of each time I didn’t follow through with my commitment. I haven’t missed my commitment yet. I’ve also made a promise to eat octopus sushi if I slacked off (and I won’t , because eating raw octopus is repulsive to me – like eating a rat). I’ve promised to sing embarrassing karaoke songs in front of strangers if I failed. The consequences can also be positive – a reward each week if you don’t miss a day, for example. Also, make the consequences more severe if you miss two days straight, and even more severe if you miss three, etc.
- Review and enjoy the daily progress you’re making. – Taking two minutes to reflect on your daily accomplishments each evening is a healthy way to raise self-confidence and contentment. It’s also an effective way to motivate yourself. If you don’t do this, you’ll likely lose track of the fact that you’re moving in the right direction. So keep notes and write down at least one thing you made progress on each day and why it mattered. Do this consistently for a month straight and watch how it affects your happiness and productive output.
That’s it. Ritualize these seven steps, and you’ve got a changed life. I challenge you to put them into action today.
Even in uncertain times, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.
True wealth is the ability to fully experience life.
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– Henry David Thoreau
- You are alive.
- You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.
- You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.
- You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.
- You have tasted the sweetness of chocolate cake.
- You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
- You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.
- You had a choice of what clothes to wear.
- You haven’t feared for your life today.
- You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learned and survived.
- You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.
- You live in a country that protects your basic human rights and civil liberties.
- You are reasonably strong and healthy – if you got sick today, you could recover.
- You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.
- You have someone with whom to reminisce about ‘the good old days.’
- You have access to clean drinking water.
- You have access to medical care.
- You have access to the Internet.
- You can read.
The truth is, you’re doing better than a lot of people in this world. So remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.
Source: http: //www.marcandangel.com/
I was sitting at this bar, the corner table waiting for my friend for past 15 minutes, as much as I was pissed at him getting late I was constantly being bothered by my phone Buzzing every other second, it was my ex making every effort to get back into my Life. And there I see a Couple sitting right in front of my Corner Seat adding to my melancholically well planned meeting, engrossed in their violent yet so mundane conversation.
I can totally relate this so common act with the scenario today, a Relationship Blunder. What was the first impression that these words create on your mind? Is it that everyone seem to fight and cheat on each other all the time, as if it’s a norm???
“A person must be strong enough to to move on. The past is over. There are so many people who get into relationships fall in love and then get heart broken. When a person breaks your heart it’s best that you move on a leave for the better. Do not allow a person from your past pain come back into your life. If you must be alone for a while be alone. But do not let loneliness be a reason for you to go back to your ex. You must move forward”, says Marcus Gill.
What I think is that most of the Relationships these days are mere an outcome of anxiety, isolation and most importantly to pleasure the physical desires. Teenagers these days are not so involved into family interactions, in fact they prefer not to share even the smallest of their joy or sorrow. Here comes a feeling of loneliness at times, for which relationship seems to be the only way out. Can it be equated with love?
I loved this answer as provided by Marcus during our conversation; he says, “Well most people do rush into relationships because of loneliness. Who wants to be alone for lever? Not many. The hurtful part is the fact that lonely people will tolerate almost anything just to cure themselves. I would encourage people to understand true love. That fact that God is love and God is always with you means that you’re never alone and you’re never without love. Gods love always beats man’s love anyway.”
Another important point to keep in mind is that; a strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life, and vice versa. It can improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others; and it can also affect you adversely. Remember; Relationships are an investment. It requires the your time and there should be a sense of belongingness. The more you put in, the more you can get back. When asked, Marcus gave me some really useful tips that can prove to be of real help. I would like to share a few with you.
Tip 1: Do not commit to a relationship because of good looks. Indeed outward appearance is attractive and in most cases it does matter, but you will make a huge mistake if you do not take the time to get to know who a person is underneath all of their beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? That also counts for the beauty that we should see on the inside of a person. Don’t make a commitment to someone with a mask on. People do a really good job of hiding who they really are.
They may appear to be one way on the outside but deep down inside they are horrible. The mask may look good for now, but the mask will not stay on forever. Ask God to reveal to you what’s wrong that may not be so obvious. It’s a miserable experience to be in a committed relationship with someone who looks amazing but their personality is abominable.
Tip 2: Enjoy your life’s journey. Avoid comparing your life’s journeys to other’s. If all of your friends are in relationships don’t let that be a reason as to way you feel the need to rush into one. Have you ever heard of the phrase keeping up with the Jones’? Thats what so many people end up doing.
Their best friend has a mate so they rush to get a mate. The relationship is all wrong. Be single and satisfied until God send you the right person! You do not have to rush the process just to keep up with others. Wait on God’s perfect timing. In fact, the same people that you may look at and admire may be in a difficult situation and you don’t even know it. Enjoy your privacy and peace. Go out and enjoy your life (even if you have to do it alone, it’s fun!) when the time is right your God sent mate will be revealed! Do not try to match your friends. Enjoy your own God created journey.
Let me now introduce you to this amazing man, Marcus.
Marcus Gill Speaker, author, and pastor are some of the words used to identify Marcus Gill. He is the founder and CEO of Marcus Gill Ministries; a ministry that has been designed to reach lost souls and inspire believers.
With the use of clothing giveaways, food distribution, outdoor evangelistic worship experiences, conferences, television, online broadcasting and literature, Marcus has distributed God’s license for victory that can never be revoked. Known globally for his inspiring presence on social media, Marcus has been able to share God’s love with over 40 million people a week. He is the Founder and Lead Pastor of The Rush Church United in New Haven, Connecticut and New York City.
Connect with him on Facebook: Marcus Gill
For centuries people have been reading palms to discover their destinies. However, it is a lesser known fact that various parts of the foot can reveal interesting things about your personality. So put your best foot forward and learn about the interesting world of foot reading.
1 – The Roman Foot
This is the most common type of foot and is well proportioned with all the toes being straight. The big toe should be the largest, with each toe descending at a 45 degree angle from the big toe. People who have a Roman foot are well balanced as well as being outgoing a sociable. This person loves discovering new things, especially places and cultures. Successful business people as well as public speakers are likely to have a Roman foot.
2 – Very Long Toes
People who have very long toes are very expressive. They like to talk about everything, especially their feelings and opinions and tend to make excellent public speakers and politicians.
3 – Little Toe on the Side of the Foot
People who have a little toe slightly on the side of their foot with the nail facing towards the wall tend to be unconventional. They are also rebellious and like to have everything exactly their way.
4 – Narrow Base on the Second Toe
If the second toe has a narrow base that widens as it reaches the top of the toe, you are likely to be a very expressive person. This person is larger than life and tends to amplify everything so that it seems bigger than it really it. when this person is in a good mood it seems as though the world is filled with light. However, if you notice that this person is in a bad mood for any reason it is a good idea to leave them alone until their mood improves.
5 – The Greek Foot
This type of foot is also known as the flame foot and the most distinctive feature is that the second toe is significantly larger than the big toe. People who have a Greek Foot are usually very sporty and creative.
People who have a Greek foot tend to be very enthusiastic and enjoy motivating other people. However, a word of caution: people who have a Greek foot tend to look before they leap, which can lead to stress and problems. Artists and athletes tend to have this type of foot, while the Greek foot could also been seen on public speakers and innovators.
6 – Hard Skin on the Edge of the Heel
This is an indication that the person feels insecure and wants to take steps to change their situation.
7 – Large Toe Pads
Extremely large toe pads are seen as a blessing and this indicates that the person is a deep thinker who likes to consider things very carefully.
8 – Gap Between the Second and Third Toes
Take a close look at your foot and check if there is a gap between your second and third toes. If you see a gap it indicates that you are someone who prefers to keep you emotions separate from anything you are doing.
People who have this gap typically tend to take on jobs where they need to be emotionally detached, such as working as a butcher. This gap also typically indicates that you do not like what you are doing and it is a good idea to reconsider your role in life so that you can be happier.
9 – The Square Foot
When all of the toes on a foot are almost exactly the same length, including the big toe, it can be said that the person has a square foot.
This type of foot is also known as a Peasant foot and can have an almost rectangular appearance. People who have this type of foot have a tendency to weigh their options very carefully before making a decision. As a result they tend to be very reliable and practical.
10 – Tilted Third Toe
The middle toe on the foot is tilted slightly so that the tail points towards the little to.
This indicates that the person very good at planning ahead and likes to be organised and in control of situations.
11 – Ability to Separate the Little Toe
Take the time to stretch your foot so that it becomes more flexible and then spread out all of the toes on the foot.
If you are able to separate the little toe from the fourth toe it is an indication that you need constant change in your life to be happy, hate routine and are very adventurous. You probably find that you get bored easily and if things start to fall into a routine you will most likely do something drastic to switch things up a little.
12 – The Stretched Foot
This type of foot has a long, thin appearance due to the fact that the toes tend to be rather squashed together. The big toe is significantly larger than the other toes and taps slightly as it reaches the top.
People who prefer their privacy and have a tendency to be secretive and hide their emotions are likely to have a stretched foot. These people should be treated with a little caution as their mood can change suddenly and they can also be rather impulsive.
13 – Unable to Separate the Little Toe
The opposite is true if you are unable to separate the little toe from the fourth toe.
This indicates that you are the sort of person who needs routine in your like in order to feel safe and secure. This type of person is extremely reliable and trustworthy as well as being a loyal friend that people can depend on.
In addition to the four main types of foot, there are also special variations that can have an impact on your personality. People who have swollen feet are said to have trouble expressing their emotions, while cracked heels is an indication that the person is a decisive leader who is able to deal with anything that comes into their path. If the toes on the foot lean towards the little tow it indicates that the person is usually in a hurry, while people who have toes that lean towards the big toe tend to hang onto the past.
The Art of Foot Reading
Foot reading can be used to make predictions about the habits of an individual.
It can also indicate strengths and weaknesses and be used to indicate the path that someone should follow when they find themselves at a crossroads.
After learning about the types of foot and their link to personality traits, you may well find that they are very accurate. However, it is worth wondering whether personality is affected by the shape of the foot or whether the shape of the foot is affected by an individual’s personality. It seems that there is no real way to tell for sure, although feet tend to develop earlier than fully formed personalities, so it would seem that the shape of a person’s foot can be very influential on their personality.
If one had to look for a common point of departure amongst many spiritual traditions, I think that it has to be the idea of the embodied spirit. In other words – the idea that we are essentially spiritual beings embodied in a magnificent bio-physical machine on a short experiential trip to the physical third dimensional world. To expand this anecdote a little bit more, I would add that our spiritual Self is also connected to a superb parallel processing computer – the brain – which helps us make sense of our surroundings in this dimension but at the same time overrides the multi-dimensional knowledge coming from the full spectrum of Self (sometimes short bursts of information passes through in moments of intuition and deep insight).
One can take an angle shot of this and see our waking consciousness (our thoughts, self image, desires, etc) as being only a small fragment of the whole spectrum of Self despite the illusion that what we see, think or feel is all there is and it’s the only reality. We forgot who we are. It’s like we were flashed with one of the memory erasers in Men in Black and made to forget a good chunk about ourselves before incarnating in this world. Tragic-comical but true!
The path to spiritual awakening is in fact characterised by a recognition of Self, a remembrance of who we really are. It is the transcending beyond the ego-consciousness and exiting the matrix so to speak. It is bypassing that default override setting of the waking consciousness which filters out the deeper implicit knowledge from our multidimensional consciousness. It is of course also called awakening because we awake from the illusion, the dream and the sleep-walking from years of enculturation and biological constraints.
But what is the awakening Self? As any other metaphysical concept, it is difficult to explain unambiguously in one shot. It is best to describe its effects or manifestations. Sometimes it’s easier to explain what a thing does than what it is. Here are some anecdotes that draws a rounder picture of what it means to have an awakening Self.
1. Feeling your life rekindled with a new found passion
When you start recognising yourself for who you truly are, it becomes more evident how the consensual reality you have shared with others is inauthentic and serves you very little purpose. You no longer need to follow goals or benchmarks set by society and culture – you set your own goals and dreams. You are no longer a fragmented automaton in a pre-programmed social matrix but a free complete individual on the path to self-actualisation. You start aligning to your life purpose and true potential. You start doing things that drive you and which you are passionate about. Your worldview changes together with your values and how you prioritise them.
2. Aware of fresh new opportunities – The Abundance Mindset
Your awakening Self is not longer a victim of misinformation and fear fed by the mass media and regurgitated by people around you. The culturally transmitted fears, ‘values’ and limiting beliefs start becoming a thing of the past. They do not hold you down anymore. You start becoming acquainted with the infinite and the abundant. Your horizons expand by a thousandfold. You see abundance, opportunity and infinite possibilities where before you only saw scarcity and a future closing down on you. You awareness expands and you can now see opportunities pop out at you as shining beacons of light.
3. Start Mastering the energies within and without.
This is probably one of the most powerful manifestations of the awakening Self. We are mostly unaware and unconscious of these energies. Through the awakening of the Self, you become very sensitive of otherwise imperceptible forces and energies such as those coming from thoughts, intentions (yours and others), emotions, the body, your environment and your psyche.
Negative emotions and thoughts or limiting beliefs, for example, create blockages in the flow of energy. Same thing if you surround yourself with negative people. Removing energy blocks and working harmoniously with them is the crucial first step for the awakening of the Self.
The intuitive healer Christie Marie Sheldon, for instance, has worked with thousands of people to help them clear their energies and attune to a higher frequency vibration through her best-selling program Love or Above. It is to my knowledge, the most comprehensive and best produced self-help program on the subject so far.
4. Kickstarting creative ideas.
You are aligned with your true nature, your feelings and intuition. Your mind is in harmony with your heart. Inner conflict subsides. This opens the doors of creativity wide open. You tacitly understand the uselessness of over-analysing problems and tap directly to your source of creativity which nourishes you with ideas, solutions and new perspectives you couldn’t find possible before.
5. You see change with optimism
You start relating to your life differently. Your actions are no longer hindered by your fears and over-thinking. You adapt more freely to life circumstances and you are completely at ease with change. This is also made possible because you do not have a limited self image and identity. The image of your Self becomes constantly refreshed and rejuvenated as you adapt to life’s changing currents.
You embrace the Phoenix spirit as you feel reborn and refreshed through each turning point in your life.
6. You realise your new found energy can make positive changes in your Life
Awakening to who your truly are brings a new sense of confidence. You are empowered by the knowledge that this creative energy you are tapping into is propelling you forward and closer to your self-actualisation everyday. You understand how this creative and positive energy is creating your life and destiny.
You fully embrace this power of self-mastery and you recognise yourself as a creator rather than a mere creature.
7. You start seeing the pieces fitting in together
One of the most rewarding things of awakening to your real Self is the easiness of how everything else falls into place. It becomes progressively easier to follow your life purpose and your goals. Things start becoming more and more effortless because you become whole as opposed to experiencing a fragmented self. You become more aware of your multidimensional consciousness and how you fit perfectly in a congenial and sustaining web of life.
You see the pieces fitting in together and this gives you immense trust, peace and self-empowerment.
This is akin to the Taoist philosophy and the concept of Wu Wei (Action through non-action). Since you have no internal friction and energies blocking you, you become attuned to the workings of a higher order principle – The Tao.
8. Everything feels is energising you
Instead of feeling dragged down by life’s currents, you start feeling energised by whatever is going on in your daily life – new experiences & encounters, spending time with yourself and others, change and opening up to fresh new ideas. Everything becomes a booster an enabler rather than an obstacle to fulfilment. You perceive your life with greater optimism, peace and acceptance. You start seeing synchronicity and things happening and unfolding before you.
9. Your subconscious is working for you and not against you
Simplistically speaking, the subconscious mind has been understood as having a twofold nature. On the one hand it unlocks creative ideas and insights that the conscious mind is blind to. On the other hand it is seen as a raw and untameable psychic energy that wells out strong impulses or repressed emotions that can emerge to sabotage the individual.
The awakening Self is clear of all psychological and psychic blockages manifested through addictions, repressions, complexes, etc. It is open, clear and in balance. There are no bottle necks or blockages. The subconscious mind becomes only a powerful ally. It gives your signs and information at the right time. Its messages are positive and cooperative rather than negative or self-destructive.
10. You feel whole and complete ( and where you should be)
As mentioned earlier, we feel fragmented by default. Our thoughts are fragmented and out of sync with our inner motivations. The goals we follow are influenced or imposed by society and are in conflict with our authentic goals and destiny. This fragmentation creates, inner turbulence, difficulties and blockages. A clear manifestation of an awakening Self is the feeling of completeness. You feel that you are always where you should be and that everything is perfect the way it is. You no longer struggle or run after things and ideas that do not belong to you. You are at one with your purpose and everything you do.
Author: Gilbert Ross
Source: Soul Hiker.
Your Perception will take a new shape by the end of this article. Enjoy reading.
What is Ego?
90% of those reading this have a set perception about this as having Ego is like “Being an Arrogant”. Having an “ego” is usually associated with arrogance and is commonly used to describe someone who thinks they are better than others. By the end of this article you will be able to believe that ego Together, the negative and positive esteem forms our ego.
Psychoanalysis defines ego as the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity. Ego is an intelligent part of our conscious and unconscious mind that connects us to all self-learning functions, be they physical or mental, both simple and complex.
There are endless interpretations regarding what ego is, so I am going to tell you what ego is as per me which is quite easy to understand and useful.
“Ego actually symbolises the origin of consciousness and develops out of the “Id” in fancy, i.e. the early stage in the development of “Id”. But the good thing about “Ego” is that it understands reality and logic. Ego is when you do something consciously with an aim of self realization. Remember, your perception about ego may be different depending on your experiences or people feedback, or some sources.”
Ego is also responsible for the automation of many complex thought functions, for example, when we get into a one to one conversation with another person it’s our ego that take over our responses whenever a quick response is demanded in that ongoing conversation, based on past responses in similar situation. This is how we are able to respond quickly during a conversation otherwise if we ourselves had to think it would have been a slow conversation.
In some situations you can notice your ego taking over control of your mind and the body as well. Remember you rehearsing well before an important meeting on what you would talk or what might be said, this is the reason. You consciously train or programme your ego for that particular important conversation.
The first thing to understand is that ego is quite complex and therefore there is a lot to learn. You will always learn with time. Although I will tell you here the basics there are more advanced aspects of ego that might lead you to think that the training is not working. There are some aspects of ego that are easier to train or programme. We will definitely move on to the next level, i.e programming your ego in our upcoming articles.
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