Most Of the time people Give up just because they fail to resolve their own Internal Conflicts..
Once you manage to overcome your Internal Conflicts, you will be able to take Instant Decision.. On your Own!!!
This pattern helps with the very common problem of disagreement between parts.
When you struggle with yourself to do or not do something, when you procrastinate
what you must do now and seem to be arguing with yourself in your mind, this is the pattern to use.
Follow these simple steps to Fight the problem of Internal Conflicts…
Step 1. The Conflict
Select a personal conflict. This can be anything, “Shall I listen to what they say”? or “Should I ignore them” ? It may be something you’ve contradictory feelings about, or some way that you sabotage yourself or cannot accept yourself. Reason can be anything, just take that situation.
Step 2. A Memory
Recall a memory of experiencing this inner conflict. When did you felt it?? View it from the observer position. Analyse it, Observe it.
Step 3. Take a Side
Get into the first perceptual position with one side of the conflict. Step into the experience. Review the OTHER side of the conflict from this position. Notice what comes up during this in all sense modes.
Step 4. Positive Intention
Still on that side, ask the other side to express all of its positive intentions, including any beliefs ( set by your o others for you ) and goals that it can express to your side.
Step 5. Switch
Now step into the other part. From this position, repeat steps three and four.
Repeat this switching and receiving until both sides have a good understanding of each other. Be sure to include beliefs ( including limiting beliefs ), values, and objectives.
Step 7. Meta-Position (Above usual)
Move to a meta-position above both parts. From there, ask the parts to propose solutions or outcomes that they expect to be satisfactory to both sides. Draw out concerns from either side about these ideas, and note any ecological issues. Do as much brain-storming as you need to in order to come up with a good collection of ideas.
Step 8. New Part
Notice how this new collection of ideas is an amalgam of the values and higher intentions of the two parts. It is also an agenda. Experience how it could be considered a part all on its own. Bring this part into your body and accept it as an important part.
Step 9. Future Pace and Test
Imagine a future with this part creating results for you. Redo this process as needed for any ecological concerns or problems. Test it out in real life and come back to this process as needed.
Practice it a few times to get results you always wanted.
Feel free to share this with people you know, so that they can get some benefit as well. !!