Most Of the time people Give up just because they fail to resolve their own Internal Conflicts..
Once you manage to overcome your Internal Conflicts, you will be able to take Instant Decision.. On your Own!!!
This pattern helps with the very common problem of disagreement between parts.
When you struggle with yourself to do or not do something, when you procrastinate
what you must do now and seem to be arguing with yourself in your mind, this is the pattern to use.
Follow these simple steps to Fight the problem of Internal Conflicts…
Step 1. The Conflict
Select a personal conflict. This can be anything, “Shall I listen to what they say”? or “Should I ignore them” ? It may be something you’ve contradictory feelings about, or some way that you sabotage yourself or cannot accept yourself. Reason can be anything, just take that situation.
Step 2. A Memory
Recall a memory of experiencing this inner conflict. When did you felt it?? View it from the observer position. Analyse it, Observe it.
Step 3. Take a Side
Get into the first perceptual position with one side of the conflict. Step into the experience. Review the OTHER side of the conflict from this position. Notice what comes up during this in all sense modes.
Step 4. Positive Intention
Still on that side, ask the other side to express all of its positive intentions, including any beliefs ( set by your o others for you ) and goals that it can express to your side.
Step 5. Switch
Now step into the other part. From this position, repeat steps three and four.
Repeat this switching and receiving until both sides have a good understanding of each other. Be sure to include beliefs ( including limiting beliefs ), values, and objectives.
Step 7. Meta-Position (Above usual)
Move to a meta-position above both parts. From there, ask the parts to propose solutions or outcomes that they expect to be satisfactory to both sides. Draw out concerns from either side about these ideas, and note any ecological issues. Do as much brain-storming as you need to in order to come up with a good collection of ideas.
Step 8. New Part
Notice how this new collection of ideas is an amalgam of the values and higher intentions of the two parts. It is also an agenda. Experience how it could be considered a part all on its own. Bring this part into your body and accept it as an important part.
Step 9. Future Pace and Test
Imagine a future with this part creating results for you. Redo this process as needed for any ecological concerns or problems. Test it out in real life and come back to this process as needed.
Practice it a few times to get results you always wanted.
Feel free to share this with people you know, so that they can get some benefit as well. !!
Question : Are there divine preferences, divine injustices and divine irregularities?
Mahatria: It may appear so, but Existential Order is always zero defect. Everything is as it should be. There are no irregularities in Existence. If I may use a metaphor, it doesn’t matter how noble hearted one is, but if he doesn’t know how to drive and yet attempts to drive a vehicle, he is sure to meet with an accident. The suffering of most people is that though they may be good, though they may believe in god, they have failed to develop the competence to live life.
We just believe that worshiping god or the messengers of god or the incarnations of god is sufficient to earn His blessing. We are lost in the ignorance that god will come and save us just as an answer to all our pujas, rituals and offerings. We choose to make various kinds of offerings as kickbacks to please the Lord and expedite matters for us, tilt opportunities in our favour, prolong the life of our loved ones, etc… but we have conveniently chosen to ignore principles like Honesty, Integrity, Karma and so many other virtues, which find common mention across all scriptures.
Think about it. If worshipping the Lord is sufficient, then why the Bible? Why the Koran? Why the Bhagawad Gita? Why any scripture for that matter? In fact, the very basis of every scripture is to teach you and me the components of Existential Order, so that you and I can live our lives in alignment with the Existential Order. Even if you are a maths teacher’s son, if two plus two is written as three, you are wrong. Even if you know nothing about the examiner, if two plus two is written as four, you are right.
Even those who do not know ‘Who is god?’, even those who do not believe in the existence of god, as long as they live in alignment to the Existential Order, which is what every scripture is all about, they will always be blessed by His grace. The more you are aligned to the Existential Order, the more you’ll experience His Grace. Grace is the spiritual reward for aligning yourself to the Existential Order.
Suffering is a spiritual feedback that somewhere you have lost your alignment to the Existential Order. God is not a matter of belief, but a matter of alignment.Why did the incarnate Krishna waste his time preaching eighteen chapters, answering and clarifying every question of Arjuna? Krishna could have simply told Arjuna – go around me thrice, pour some milk and ghee over me, smear sandalwood paste all over your body, fall at my feet four times and just shoot your arrows. Then, why at all the Bhagawad Gita?
If going to church on Sunday mornings and faith in Christ are enough, then why did Christ waste three years of his life sermonising ‘Dos’ and ‘Don’ts’ which became the Bible? If doing Namaz five times a day is enough, then why all those ‘Dos’ and ‘Don’ts’ in the Koran?
The Mahabharata shows that Duryodana took all the resources of Krishna, and that was not enough. Arjuna had Krishna himself, and that too was not enough. Only when Arjuna understood the Dharma (Existential Order) and acted in alignment with it was he able to emerge victorious. The message is clear and simple – god does not work for you; He works with you. His design is such that the only way He can work with you is when you live in alignment with the Existential Order.
If god is the Messenger, the scriptures are his Message. The only way to have the grace of the Messenger is to live by the Message. It is just not enough to value the Master… you must Master the values. Be devoted to the Messenger, but be disciplined by the Message.
Extracts from “Clarity is Power”.