Do you feel stuck in life? Maybe something’s holding you back, but you don’t quite know what it is.
You look at successful people of the world wondering what they did differently. Let’s face it, a lot of us feel held back by our current circumstances and in order to cope we become numb.
But, numb is not the answer. Now is not the time to give up. You’re already going through hell just to get by. Why don’t you channel that pain towards something greater? Once you’re to-the-core hungry, you become an unstoppable force. But first, let’s get real with why you’re still not quite there yet.
Here are 5 reasons you’re still not hungry enough to go all in towards your dreams:
1. You blame everything on others
At times, life will test you beyond your limits. You’ll be left wondering what prompted things to go so far south. And when you’re standing there amidst the ashes, you’ll have the opportunity to either play the victim of your circumstances or rise above.
Whether it be the corruption of a rigged system or the intended evil from others around you, others may in fact be to blame. But, what good does it do to focus all of your attention on the frauds of this world? Instead, decide what’s worth calling out and what’s worth forgetting.
“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.” – J. Michael Straczynski
2. You blame everything on yourself
On the other end of the spectrum, if you fault yourself for everything that’s going wrong, it’ll be slow suicide to your mind. At times, it’s worth it to take a hard look in the mirror and understanding what you could do differently, but give yourself a break.
Sometimes, life is out of your control and you can’t keep beating yourself up. Would you be that cruel to someone else? Why don’t you start treating yourself more like a best friend and less like a punching bag.
3. You ask for permission
So no one gave you permission to do what you really want to do? No one read your mind and decided to hold your hand through the process? Well, so what! If it’s really your dream, you’re not going to sit around waiting for someone to tell you to get started. Once you want it bad enough, you don’t need others’ permission. You’ll just start moving.
“Dream and give yourself permission to envision a You that you choose to be.” – Joy Page
4. You let people get to you
Let’s face it, there will be countless haters, doubters and small-minded individuals that try to deter you from your dreams. When there’s no playbook written out, their opinions might make you think twice. But, they’re often telling you you’re crazy, because they regret not making the sacrifices to work towards something greater themselves.
Nothing hurts more than seeing someone else do what you wish you did. Forget their small minds and focus on becoming the person of your dreams. Trust me, you can laugh at them later.
5. You gave up on what matters most to you
Only you know what really matters to you in this life. Never settle in pursuing just that. You owe it to yourself. Don’t look back knowing that you didn’t listen to your gut when it was telling you to go a different path.
Once you’re truly hungry, you’ll make the sacrifices necessary to pursue your dreams. It won’t matter what others will think, do or say. What will matter is that you’re doing what you were meant to do.
The world needs more people that don’t give up. Will you be one of them? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
The article first appeared on Addictedtosuccess
Namaste. As I’m sure many of you can relate, I tend to go in search of a few chuckles now and then by digging into the comments section on controversial posts that pop up on my grand’ole Facebook feed. Last Tuesday, I found myself a spectator in what I can only describe as a full blown comments war. The insults were flying, man. Memes thrown across the cyber-trenches like grenades. Feelings had been hurt and many a mother insulted. What started such a rage-fueled keyboard free-for-all?
Well, an article was posted by a large online news blog stating that Pope Francis allegedly denied the existence of a literal hell. Now, my research concluded the report was a hoax, but the flames of fury had nonetheless already been lit and the argument had escalated quickly. On one side you had those arguing that heaven and hell exist as real places, and on the other were those who say they are but metaphors. Others argued that they are tools used throughout history by those in power to dissuade the breaking of the rule of law, religious or man-made. There were, literally, thousands of comments from people truly furious at each other, angry at names on a screen that meant nothing to them. Angry to the point of letting their rage ruin their day…..all over over a fake post on heaven and hell.
So, on to my point.
This brought to mind another old zen parable that I would like to share with you, The Samurai and the Monk.
A big, tough samurai once went to see a little monk. “Monk,” he said, in a voice accustomed to instant obedience, “Teach me about heaven and hell!”
The monk looked up at this mighty warrior and replied with disdain, “Teach you about heaven and hell? I couldn’t teach you about anything. You’re dirty. Your blade is rusty. Why you probably couldn’t cut a branch with that sword! You’re a disgrace! An embarrassment to the samurai class!”
The samurai was furious. He got all red in the face and was speechless with rage and anger. He pulled out his sword and raised it above him, preparing to slay the monk in retaliation.
“That is Hell,” said the monk softly.
The samurai was overwhelmed. He slowly put down his sword, and filled with gratitude, bowed to the monk.
“And that”, whispered the monk, “…is Heaven.”
This little story teaches a huge lesson. No matter what you believe, the front lines of “heaven and hell” start deep within us, where the greatest battles are fought between love and hate, anger and joy, fear and hope, happiness and sorrow, self-importance and humility. The ultimate choice as to which we chose to manifest in our everyday lives is our own, and so we must be ever mindful of the power we give our emotions to lash out into the physical world to become reality. While it is healthy to express our feelings to others, there is a difference between a feeling and an emotion. When we give in to our primal emotions like anger or fury, we shift out of focus with the principles of mindfulness practice and become reactive to that which is created around us instead of being active in creating our own circumstances. Next time you’re on the verge of an angry argument with your significant other, your parent, your boss, or even a random troll in cyberspace, remember it is up to you to create more happiness than anger, more communion that division, more heaven than hell.
Subscribe now for more Inspiration from Thousand Thoughts.