Your ability to acquire skills will determine your value in the market and the level of impact you can have in the world.
While learning any skill can be useful, some skills are more valuable than others. When it comes to deciding which skill to learn, you should focus on skills that are transferrable to other skills.
For example, you could learn how to knit but there’s not too many ways you can transfer those skills to your life. However, if you were to learn how to speak Spanish, these skills can help you improve your communication skills, career opportunities, and the ability to speak with people you never could have before.
Here are 7 skills you should learn before you turn 50:
Negotiating is one of the most important skills you can learn, and a skill you can apply in every aspect of your life. Whether you want to grow your business, make more money, or have more control over your life, learning to negotiate effectively can help you get there.
Developing your negotiation skills can also help you develop empathy, listening, and sales skills. The question is, how do you start developing negotiation skills?
Where to learn: The best way to start negotiating is to start small. While reading books can help you, you don’t want to get stuck in “learning mode”, and instead embrace the “learn as you go” mode. You could literally practice negotiating anywhere, from your local flea market to a street vendor, where negotiating is more acceptable.
“The best move you can make in negotiation is to think of an incentive the other person hasn’t even thought of – and then meet it.” – Eli Broad
Learning to play an instrument can not only impress your friends (or your date), but it can help improve your cognitive skills. Playing an instrument has been shown to increase your concentration skills, which is an increasingly important skill in the distracting world we live in.
If you’re new to the music industry, you can check out this article to know which instrument you should play.
Where to learn: You can find a local teacher that can meet up with you in-person on craigslist or Kijiji, and have them come to you. Or if you’re a busy person, you can check out these list of websites to learn different instruments online.
3. Public speaking
Public speaking, according to Warren Buffett, is one of the most important skills you can learn to advance your career.
Being able to communicate effectively can positively impact nearly everything you do in your life, from your career, relationships, business — the list goes on. Not everyone is born a great communicator, and it’s a skill that can be learned and developed by anyone who’s committed.
Where to learn: Join a local Toastmasters organization in your city, and you can start to practice your speaking skills and receive constructive and immediate feedback from a supportive community.
4. Personal finance
This one is quite underestimated by most people, especially recent college graduates. No, it’s not a sexy topic to learn, but none of the dreams and goals you have will come true if you don’t master this skill.
Being able to manage your own finances is the first step to achieving freedom. Instead of ignoring the issue, we have to confront our fears or ignorance, and take control of our budget.
Where to learn: This is one topic where being educated is a great place to start. You can read books on personal finance, check out personal finance bloggers, and even go see your personal accountant.
5. Speed reading
Bill Gates has shared that if he had one superpower, it would be the ability to read faster.
Time is the most important and limited commodity that we have. Learning how to read faster can save you dozens of hours per year, even hundreds if you’re an avid reader.
Where to Learn: You can take a free speed reading course online, or you can use technology such as Spritz to increase your speed.
If you want more success, then you must surround yourself with people that have achieved what you want to achieve. This could be a mentor, coach, or advisor that can guide you to where you want to go and even see blind spots that you may miss.
In order to become a better networker, especially with high-profiled individuals, then you need to learn how to bring value first. The rule of thumb is, the bigger the person you’re targeting, the more value you need to deliver upfront before asking for anything.
Where to learn: The best way to learn how to network is to watch how other successful people network. In order to do this, you need to attend industry conferences, networking events, and get in front of these people in-person.
7. Learn a new language
As the world becomes more globalized, we’re quickly entering a multilingual era. Twenty years ago, you could get away with knowing just one language. But today, with businesses going global, traveling becoming more affordable, and countries becoming more multicultural, it’s not enough to know just English.
Learning a new language can help improve your career, grow your business (especially if you’re targeting non-English speakers), and even build your confidence. If you’ve went your entire life speaking only one language, then learning a popular language like French, Mandarin, or Spanish can open yourself up to a world of over 500M – 1 Billion people.
“Study a foreign language if you have opportunity to do so. You may never be called to a land where that language is spoken, but the study will have given you a better understanding of your own tongue or of another tongue you may be asked to acquire.”– Gordon B. Hinckley
Where to learn: You can take advantage of websites like Rype, offering unlimited one-on-one Spanish lessons online, or if you want to dip your feet into the pool, start off with free mobile apps like Duolingo to get started.
Which of these skills have you yet to learn? How will you learn these skills?We’d love to hear from you below.
Source: Addicted To Success
Many people approach life with the perspective that life is just hard and dreams are for fools. Although there are unavoidable challenges, they don’t have to define your existence. If you embrace these 17 principles, they will actually change your life.
1. Celebrate your victories.
When something positive happens, take some time to celebrate. It could be as simple as dinner with your team or as elaborate as a vacation away with your spouse. Celebration reminds you that effort deserves reward.
2. Embrace change as an agent of growth.
Be the person who looks forward to change. If it’s time for a new career or a move away from home, get excited about the possibilities! Taking advantage of change will put you ahead of the pack. Success comes from being a change initiator.
3. Design the life you want.
What happens this year depends what you plan. Set aside time at the beginning of the year to decide how you want things to look at the end. Look at all major areas: family, career, health, and social relationships. Create small actions to carry out daily, weekly, and monthly to make it happen. Review and adjust regularly as you progress.
4. Live each day with determination.
Setbacks will come. You must determine ahead of time that you will move forward no matter the circumstances. At every point of decision ask yourself, “Will this move me closer to my goals?” If not, then set it aside.
5. Exercise regularly and vigorously.
There is no feeling like the high just after a great workout. In addition, a healthy body makes everything easier. Put together a fitness regimen with physical goals. Maybe you could run your first 5K or join friends in a regular game of basketball. Just get out and move.
6. Make friends with failure.
Success is only reached through failure. Don’t just embrace failure, run toward it. The faster you fail, the faster you succeed! When you get rejected, you learn what doesn’t work and how to adjust your tactics.
7. Have faith that you’re not alone.
Know there is more to this life than you can see. Work to help others have hope.
8. Prioritize your family.
Love your family and be there for them. Give them the best of your time each day. Success is of no value unless it can be shared with those you love. Remember that family can be more than just those related by flesh and blood.
9. Make fear your target.
Fear is often a construct of our own minds and only has the power given by us. Fear feeds on time so move quickly toward your goals and fear will be left behind. Look back on your life. You’ll see every great success came by running through fear.
10. Forgive others and yourself.
Resentment only hurts the person who holds it in their heart. Forgive those who have wronged you and you will be the one to feel freedom. Above all, forgive yourself.
11. Shower the world with grace.
Assume others mean you no harm. Grant them grace when they fail. Follow the Golden Rule and treat them as you would like to be treated.
12. Commit to continual growth.
Most people stop learning when a teacher is no longer making them. Without growth, stagnation is inevitable. Take time every day to feed your mind and soul by reading and listening to positive information. What you accomplish depends on what you’re telling yourself. Growth fuels success by opening your mind to greater possibilities.
13. Choose to be a person of joy.
How much you enjoy life depends on how much you decide to enjoy life. Remove negative influences, whether they’re people or media. Choose to love life. Share your joy with others and your own will increase.
14. Center your life on peace.
Give yourself regular times of peace to rest and reflect. Get enough sleep to renew your mind and body. Allow yourself opportunities to step back from the hard work of building your dream to maintain a healthy balance.
15. Find and live your purpose.
Take time to reflect inward on what gives you the greatest joy. This is likely your purpose. Use it to make the world a better place. Find ways to improve the lives of others and lighten their burdens.
16. Release your past for good.
Let go of anything from your past that is holding you back. Harboring old hurts, abuses, or pain will only slow you down. Don’t let what others say or think slow you down. Release it and know that you can start again and have the success you believe is possible.
17. Take action to change your life.
Nothing else matters if you don’t take action. Determine that 2016 is the year you will do something, every day, that brings you closer to the dream you have for yourself and your family. Take action … and do it now.
In our fast-paced culture, dominated by technology and electronic communication, it’s easy to understand why we’ve lost so much human interaction, and left behind the small gestures that can make people feel loved. We’ve abandoned feelings and emotions for convenience and speed, barely ever leaving thoughtful notes for someone we care about, because texting is so much faster.
A recent AskReddit thread is giving everyone the warm fuzzies, posing the question, “What small gesture makes you feel enormously loved?” The answers span a wide range, from forehead kisses and backrubs, to two strangers exchanging a smile, to addressing someone by their name when you’re talking to them. Some appear seemingly casual, while others signify a momentous shift in someone’s life. It was a slap in the face in the best way possible, reminding me just how important the “little” things are — and how maybe they aren’t so little after all.
This thread reminds me of the times my boyfriend has walked in the apartment with flowers, for no reason at all; or the time he bought me expensive coconut ice cream because I couldn’t have any diary. Then I ate all the coconut ice cream and he was like, “Megan, WTF.” Still, though — worth it.
What small gestures made you feel loved? Here’s what some people had to say.
1. Handwritten Love Letters
Knowing that someone took the time to write you a letter — when they could’ve texted or emailed — is truly heartwarming. Handwritten letters are good for the giver, too! The activity has been shown to increase motivation, decrease stress, and improve your overall mood and well-being.
2. Really Caring About Your Day
What makes this so fascinating is how little we’re actually communicating with words. When someone asks about your day, remember that only seven percent of your answer is delivered to them verbally. The other 93, they get from tuning in to your tone and facial expressions.
3. Totally Relaxing Physical Affection
Not only does it feel incredible, but there is actual research that explains the mental and physical health benefits of physical touch. For example, it has been correlated with decreased violence, increased trust, a stronger immune system, greater learning engagement, and stronger bonds between people.
4. Remembering The Details
Science says that on any given day, the average person hears somewhere between 20,000 and 30,000 words — and of that, they only remember 17 to 25 percent! So when someone remembers something specific about you, you can know that they really do care.
5. Random Surprises
You can really brighten someone’s day with an out-of-the-blue gift or kind act. Additionally, it’s good for you! Research has found that doing random acts of kindness can improve your mood and relationship satisfaction, while decreasing anxiety and social avoidance.
6. Feeling Included, Because You’re Important
Some statistics have the divorce rate at 50 percent, with a whopping 75 percent later remarrying. Additionally, well over 1,000 new stepfamilies are forming every single day. With so many people coming together, it’s touching to know that it’s not just blood that makes you family.
7. Expressing Concern For Someone’s Safety
It’s a true friend who wants to make sure you’re safe and sound; and science has found that solid friendships encourage healthy behavior, boost self-esteem, and help fight off depression.
We’re often told to practice self-love and self-care, but it’s rare that we’re given practical advice on how to actually do it.
I’ve shared the following 13 tools with hundreds of my clients who are looking to transform their relationship with themselves. If you’re open and willing, they really work.
Take what you like and leave what you don’t. See what works for you. I’ve watched all of these tips shift people’s energy and help them shape healthy practices of self-love and self-care.
1. Set an intention for the day.
When you wake up in the morning, write your intention down or say it to yourself first thing. For example, “My intention for today is to do my best for where I am now because I know I’ll feel good about it later.” This will set your day’s tone. (Here are a few more examples of positive intentions to drive your day.)
2. Meditate, just for two minutes.
Spend just two or 10 minutes a day in a calm space, quiet your mind, and notice your breath. The practice of meditation allows you to focus on your present so you can be more mindful in the moment and make the best choices for you.
3. Use mantras and affirmations.
You can recenter yourself with mantras and affirmations during any moment of the day when you start to feel “off,” or like you want to treat yourself unkindly. Make sure that what you’re saying feels true to you — telling yourself a lie in hopes it will make you feel better never works. A few of my favorite mantras are:
“I am open to possibility.”
“I am grateful for my struggles for they have shown me strength.”
“I choose to let love in and fear out,” and “I’m choosing to grow with grace.”
4. Hone a 10-second breathing routine.
Instantly calm, re-center, and ground yourself by breathing in for 10 full seconds, holding your breath for the next 10 seconds, and slowly exhaling for 10 seconds after that. Repeat three to five times.
Always remember: you’re never given more than you can handle.
5. Start gratitude journaling.
Every morning or evening, take the time to simply write down one to five things you’re grateful for that day. A journaling practice will shift your perspective and help you find the good in your routine. (Want some more info on how to make gratitude journaling work for you? Read this.)
6. Write down one thing you love about you.
Once you finish your gratitude post, record a few things you appreciate about yourself and your body that day. Keep this practice simple so you actually do it! It doesn’t require more than a bullet point or two.
7. Set an intention for your meal.
How do you want to show up for your meal? With grace? With the intention to honor your hunger and fullness? With the ability to simply taste your food and stop worrying about calories? Whatever comes up for you, set an intention for it. I promise that when you do, you’ll show up to your food in a newly mindful way that serves you and your health. (Mindful eating is important. Here’s how to make it work for you.)
8. Find ways to move your body that you actually enjoy.
If you’re having a hard time with this, think about what you used to do as a child and brainstorm how you can bring those moves into your life now. When you move your body out of love, you’ll connect with yourself in a more meaningful way and you won’t dread exercise nearly as much. (Here are a few kid-approved exercises that you can try.)
9. Tune into the way you talk to yourself.
If you wouldn’t talk to a friend to speak like that to you, don’t speak like that to yourself. Try and remind yourself to reframe your self-talk so it contains more positive mantras and affirmations. (These mantras will help you soften up your self-talk.)
When you feel like you’ve failed, it’s easy to label yourself a failure.
10. Close your eyes and see yourself living your best life.
Once you do, think about how you feel when you’re there. Let that feeling fill you up with light and warmth, and keep moving forward in a way that serves that ultimate ideal. (Another way to bring your dreams to life? Vision boards.)
11. Change your space.
Whether you’re completing a difficult task, feeling tired and bored with your surroundings, or just need to change your energy, change your space. Go for a walk, call a friend, check your email, read a book, do something that makes you feel good. Only return once you’re in a better state of mine.
12. Practice forgiveness.
Are you directing anger at someone or beating yourself up? Let it go, forgive and move on. Struggle is the only way to learn, so use it as an opportunity for self-love and growth. Choosing to forgive others doesn’t mean you need to agree with their actions, but it means you’re cutting negative cords so you can move on with your own life. Tell yourself that you are forgiving so that you can open up space to travel forward in your own journey.
13. Recall the positive.
When you feel like you’ve failed, it’s easy to label yourself a failure. Recognize that this is just a feeling and it’ll pass. And recall all the amazing things you’ve accomplished and contributed to. Quiet that inner voice, and remember that you’ve felt like this before and you’ll get past it again. Always remember: you’re never given more than you can handle.
This eye-opening video teaches you a simple shortcut to connect with the Universe so you can build a passionate new reality for yourself (without struggle or “hard work”).
It will also debunk the same myth we talked about here starting around the 7 minute mark, so watch it now while it’s fresh in your mind.
Plus it’s got one of the most fascinating and powerful tools for turbo-charing your spiritual gifts and manifesting your desires that I’ve ever seen.
What do you need to find and develop within yourself to be successful? The answer comes from looking at those who have created success in a variety of fields. These traits may sound simple, but they lead to remarkable results.
If you really want to bring success into your life, you should cultivate yourself just as you’d cultivate a garden for the best yield.
Here are the traits that the highly successful cultivate. How many do you have?
You have the determination to work harder than most and make sure things get done. You pride yourself on seeing things getting completed and you take charge when necessary. You drive yourself with purpose and align yourself with excellence.
You can shoulder responsibilities and be accountable. You make hard decisions and stand by them. To think for yourself is to know yourself.
You have the strength to see things through–you don’t vacillate or procrastinate. When you want it, you make it happen. The world’s greatest achievers are those who have stayed focused on their goals and been consistent in their efforts.
You are willing to be patient, and you understand that, in everything, there are failures and frustrations. To take them personally would be a detriment.
This should not have to be said, but it’s seriously one of the most important attributes you can cultivate. Honesty is the best policy for everything you do; integrity creates character and defines who you are.
If you want to succeed, if you want to live, it’s not politeness but rather passion that will get you there. Life is 10 percent what you experience and 90 percent how you respond to it.
You can relate to others, which in turns makes everything reach further and deepen in importance.
You know there is much to achieve and much good in this world, and you know what’s worth fighting for. Optimism is a strategy for making a better future–unless you believe that the future can be better, you’re unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.
You trust yourself. It’s as simple as that. And when you have that unshakeable trust in yourself, you’re already one step closer to success.
You work to communicate and pay attention to the communicators around you. Most important, you hear what isn’t being said. When communication is present, trust and respect follow.
No one plans on being mediocre; mediocrity happens when you don’t plan. If you want to succeed, learn the traits that will make you successful and plan on living them out every day.
Be humble and great. Courageous and determined. Faithful and fearless. That is who you are, and who you have always been.
Are you a weak leader? I know that’s a tough question to answer. I don’t think there is a single leader that will proclaim,“Yes! I am a weak leader!” At least not publicly.
The reality is that you are not as good of a leader as you would like to be. Yes, you are an honest, open, decisive and principled leader, but there is a roadblock to your success. And this roadblock is also adversely affecting the success of your company, the projects you’re running and the team you are building.
The degree of your success has little to do with the lack of resources; the basis is in the context of your habits, fears and the opinions of others. So you run into what John C. Maxwell, leadership authority, calls the lid. It’s an invisible, self-imposed, barrier that prevents you from becoming the leader you are meant to be.
“Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. The lower the individual’s ability to lead, the lower the lid on his potential. The higher the person’s ability to lead the higher the lid on his potential.” – John C. Maxwell
The Mcdonald’s success story that almost wasn’t
McDonald’s operates in 118 countries, serves 68 million customers each day, operates over 35,000 restaurants, and employs more than 1.7 million people.
But back in 1940, McDonald’s was a single restaurant located at 1398 North E Street at West 14th Street in San Bernardino, California. The founders were brothers Richard and Maurice McDonald. They were skilled entrepreneurs who steadily grew revenue and by developing the “Speedee Service System” the brothers arguably revolutionized the restaurant business.
But they were ineffective leaders.
Under the McDonald’s leadership, the brothers wanted to keep the franchise to a small number of restaurants. They had weak leadership that in part was due to their limited thinking patterns of what was possible. It took Ray Crock to envision the potential of McDonald’s. Crock was a strong leader who between 1955 – 1963 grew McDonald’s to 500 restaurants.
How do you become a better leader?
The McDonald’s story is a powerful visual. It paints a picture of what a good leader can build. But how do you become that type of leader? You master influence.
“You need someone who understands the limitations inherent in power and chooses to view his or her leadership role as one of influence. Influence is a derivative of power, and it can be wielded more easily and with greater effect.” – Ray Hennessey
So if leadership has more to do with influence, how do you earn it? John C. Maxwell touches on four techniques:
1. What have you done?
2. What can you do?
We follow a leader, in part, because of what he is capable of doing. We want to feel safe in the knowledge that he can lead us to a better place. If your followers believe that you can deliver, they will follow you.
3. Who are you?
Who you attract is determined by who you are. So the better leader you are, the better people your will attract.
4. Who do you know?
Leadership is a relationship business. So it goes without saying that building deep relationships is important. The deeper the relationship, the more profound your influence you will have over others.
Don’t waste another moment
Which of the four methods do you rely on to influence people? Rate them 1 – 4, with one meaning you are highly dependent on it. Once done, ask yourself how you can better optimize 3 and 4? How you can improve your influence requires a degree of self-awareness that can only be accomplished by evaluating your experiences, your life markers.
These markers usually are associated with a transformation, change or time of transition. So if you ask yourself better questions your ability to optimize your number 3 and 4 increases significantly. Here are some questions that have helped me:
- What is my biggest asset?
- What is my biggest liability?
- What is my best habit?
- What is my worst habit?
- What do I value most?
We are not born great leaders. Leadership is a skill that must be nurtured through consistency, discipline, and evaluated experiences. There is a great deal of hard work in becoming a good leader, which is the reason so many leaders are weak.
I often wonder what would McDonald’s look like today, if Richard and Maurice intentionally developed their leadership potential. Some pundits would argue that a company does better under the guidance of its founders.
What do you think? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below
Source : Addicted To Success
Growing up in a tiny, dot-on-the-map town in rural Missouri, Dale Carnegie was a “skinny, unathletic, and fretful” son of a pig farmer, writes Susan Cain in her book on introverts, Quiet. After observing a charismatic public speaker traveling through his hometown, Carnegie, despite his innate introversion and with much determination, became a speaking champion and leader himself. He eventually launched the Dale Carnegie Institute, devoted to helping businessmen overcome their insecurities. Though published in 1937, his book How to Win Friends and Influence People remains one of the best motivational books in history, addressing a question that’s core to everyone’s existence: How do you get along with people?
Carnegie identified a few major recurring characteristics or habits of highly influential people, from Abraham Lincoln to Thomas Edison to Charles Schwab. Time-tested to this day by current leaders like Oprah Winfrey, these habits are still widely relevant and apply to practically every industry and relationship. Read on below to learn three fundamental traits in people who successfully handle others.
1. They Don’t Criticize, Condemn, or Complain!
“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic,” writes Carnegie. “We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.” Criticism, he advises, can strike people’s emotions, causing them to give up—even driving them to suicide.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain—and most fools do,” writes Carnegie. “It takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” Instead of condemning your children, your direct reports, your teammates, your family, or your friends, Carnegie says, “Let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing—it breeds sympathy, tolerance, and kindness.”
2. They Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation.
The big secret of dealing with people, Carnegie points out, is recognizing that everyone is driven by a desire to be important, to be appreciated, and to be great. This is echoed in the theories of many philosophers, from Sigmund Freud to John Dewey. Even Lincoln recognized this: “Everyone likes a compliment,” the president once began a letter.
How we get our feelings of importance is one significant factor in what distinguishes us—for some it’s driving the latest car, for others it’s making an impact in our children’s’ lives, or it’s being recognized for our philanthropic efforts. Many people will go to great lengths (crime, insanity) to achieve this feeling, so “imagine what you and I can achieve by giving people honest appreciation,” Carnegie poses.
As Charles Schwab, one of the first-ever millionaires in business, put it, “I have yet to find the person, however great or exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than he would ever do under a spirit of criticism.”
3. They Arouse In the Other Person an Eager Want.
As Harry A. Overstreet wrote in his book Influencing Human Behavior, “Action springs out of what we fundamentally desire… and the best piece of advice which can be given to would-be persuaders, whether in business, in the home, in the school, in politics, is: First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him.” For instance, Carnegie tells parents, “If you don’t want your children to smoke, don’t preach at them, and don’t talk about what you want; but show them that cigarettes may keep them from making the basketball team or winning the hundred-yard dash.”
He advises, “The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.” The most influential people are those who can find a way to relate their own goals to another person’s perspective and personal goals, inspiring others to take action in their own self interests.
The Article was first seen on My Domain.