Myth #1: All of us are gifted with only one passion.
While it’s true that there are people on the planet who are born with one passion that lasts an entire lifetime, this doesn’t hold true for everyone. In fact, there are many who start out with one passion, only to discover that they are passionate about something else later on in life.
Myth #2: You Cannot Get Your Passion Wrong.
When we think that there is only one purpose for our lives, this can cause anxiety from fear of “getting it wrong.” But, life can be a thrilling rollercoaster ride full of twists, turns, and loop-di-loops. Some people will indeed find that one passion that takes all of their focus but, there are others that will find that they have a passion for several different things. Simply trust in what you love and you will be divinely guided to your passion. But take note; sometimes the way that your passion manifests may be different from what you have envisioned. In other words, the road that we think is easiest isn’t always the one that we end up taking.
Myth #3: Saying Negative Things Will Attract Negativity into Your Life.
While positive psychology does have its benefits; however, the above concept is misleading. We are on this planet to experience our humanity, and all of the emotions that come with it, fully and honestly. If we tell ourselves that it’s wrong to feel negative emotion, we are preventing ourselves from reveling in the present moment. In fact, when we resist the truth of our emotions, they tend to stick around longer and get buried in the miasma of our other hidden emotions.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be positive and attracting good things into our lives. But there’s no need to censor our true emotions. When we allow the truth of our emotions to manifest, it allows the emotion to be released fully and gives us the freedom to move forward in life.
Myth #4: You Must Detach From the Material World In Order to Be Spiritual.
There are benefits in letting go; after all, surrender is a sacred journey. However, detachment can also be seen as a form of “Spiritual Bypassing;” in other words, we hiding our honest emotions in order to maintain a false sense of spiritual serenity. In our desire to be loving and pure, we are actually creating a barrier that prevents us from accepting the present moment.
When we bypass the truth of our emotions and bury them under the banner of spiritually, it doesn’t make reality any less true. Instead, the emotions that we are attempting to suppress begin to fester until they manifest in unbecoming ways. Needless to say, this isn’t a healthy coping strategy.When we accept the truth of the moment and make peace with every aspect of our humanity, it is then that we are living in spiritual authenticity.
Myth #5: Spiritual people don’t eat meat, cuss, or drink.
It is time that we release our judgments concerning what is “spiritual” or “righteous.” You are spirit; you are just wearing a human body. The word spiritual simply means that you want to create a connection between these two halves. Just because you eat steak, drink wine, or cuss, doesn’t mean that you have lost your connection to spirit.
1. There is a single definition of success.
And it involves an established career, large house, acceptable body shape, marriage and annual holidays.
Everyone has their own path to walk in this life, and what brings true meaning and deep fulfillment differs for all of us.
Let go of your need to fit to the status quo. Live, work, date, play, create, travel, eat, drink, move, laugh and sing in ways that feel right with your soul. That is true success.
2. Life is meant to be hard work.
Life is meant to be easy, beautiful and overflowing with moments of joy and bliss.
The more you listen to your soul and build a life that’s true to you, the more your actions will feel completely natural and effortless.
If life is a constant struggle, you’re running on empty and you dread Mondays, it’s time to take an honest look at your life — in a loving way.
3. Life happens to us.
Where you are now is a result of the choices you made in the past. Where you will be in the future is a result of the choices you are making right now.
You are an active participant in the creation of your life. So embrace your power as a creator, and start choosing thoughts, words and actions that make a positive impact and will come back to you in a million magnificent, beautiful, jaw-dropping ways.
4. There is such a thing as normal, and we should measure ourselves against it.
There is no such thing as a normal human, but there is such a thing as a “normal” you — where you’re completely yourself, you love yourself deeply and you think and act in ways that feel aligned with your soul.
Let your internal compass be your only point of reference.
5. There is an “us” and a “them.”
We draw a line around our social and family circles, keeping out everyone who doesn’t fit neatly within our definition of normal, interesting or worthwhile.
While everyone has vastly different aptitudes, passions and quirks, everyone also has the same light within them. The light within you is the same light within me, within the stranger on the bus, and within anyone you consider your enemy.
6. We have to compete for limited resources.
Life is meant to be abundant and limitless. We create scarcity by believing in it, instead of focusing our efforts on creating, giving and contributing our gift to help humankind reach its highest potential.
Relax and feel it deep within your heart that you will always be provided for.
7. Happiness comes from external things.
We pin our happiness on external things like our appearance, bank balance, job title, travel plans, possessions and the opinions of others — and then suffer as a result.
True, sustainable happiness comes from within — by cultivating a mindset based on gratitude, mindfulness and acceptance.
8. Holding grudges is a natural part of life.
When we feel that someone has “wronged” us, we cling to the memory and carry it around with us for weeks or sometimes years. What we fail to realize is that we are holding ourselves hostage, not just the perceived wrong-doer.
The Buddha once said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
Make forgiveness your new motto and see how much freer and lighter your soul feels.
9. There is something wrong with us.
We are plagued by feelings of inadequateness and worthlessness, postponing self-acceptance and self-love until a day in the future when we’re thinner, wealthier, more confident and more popular.
You are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are striving to improve and grow, you are complete. As the Buddhist saying goes, “We are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work.”
10. It matters what other people think of us.
We give away so much of our energy, power and inner peace by worrying about what others think of us.
The truth is we can’t ever know for certain what other people are thinking about us. So when your ego starts to fill you with doubt and fear, remember it’s a fictional story.
11. We see things how they really are.
How we experience the world is heavily influenced by our beliefs and past experiences.
Our subconscious mind chooses pieces of information to serve to our conscious mind based on what we’ve programmed it to look for. Identify your dominant beliefs and replace the ones that aren’t serving you.
12. Meditation is something people do on a cushion at sunrise.
You can meditate and be mindful all throughout the day as you go about your life.
Pause and feel the weight of your body in your seat, the feeling of the fabric against your skin, and the slight sensation of the air on your face.
Take a few deep breaths and let your whole being relax. Scan your body up and down for sensations, simply observing, without making any judgments.
13. When we give something, we lose something.
Giving and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no strings attached — whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or your time — you are nourished as well as the receiver.
Not only do you experience sensations of satisfaction and joy, but your karma will bring more blessings and gifts back into your life.
14. We have to logically figure everything out.
We’ve been taught to trust our minds but not our intuition or inner voice of guidance.
When you’re grappling with a problem or lacking clarity, learn to lean into your soul and trust the wisdom it provides to you — often in the form of a gut feeling, serendipitous sign or a spontaneous “aha!” moment.
15. We need to be more realistic.
Many people think that daily happiness and joy is an unrealistic goal, and we should be more realistic.
Happiness is THE ultimate goal of our lives, and it is both worthwhile and attainable.
Understand your purpose is to blossom into the highest, happiest version of you and let go of any guilt you feel for making your happiness a priority.
This article was originally posted on chopra.com.
1. Listen to Your Body’s Wisdom
Our body expresses itself through signals of comfort and discomfort. When choosing a certain behavior, ask your body, “How do you feel about this?” If your body sends a signal of physical or emotional distress, watch out. If your body sends a signal of comfort and eagerness, proceed.
2. Live in the Present
The present is the only moment you have. Keep your attention on what is here and now; look for the fullness in every moment. Accept what comes to you totally and completely so that you can appreciate it, learn from it, and then let it go. The present is as it should be. It reflects infinite laws of Nature that have brought you this exact thought, this exact physical response. This moment is as it is because the universe is as it is. Don’t struggle against the infinite scheme of things; instead, be at one with it.
3. Take Time to Be Silent …
… to meditate, to quiet the internal dialogue. In moments of silence, realize that you are re-contacting your source of pure awareness. Pay attention to your inner life so that you can be guided by intuition rather than externally imposed interpretations of what is or isn’t good for you.
4. Relinquish Your Need for External Approval
You alone are the judge of your worth, and your goal is to discover infinite worth in yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks. There is great freedom in this realization. When you find yourself reacting with anger or opposition to any person or circumstance, realize that you are only struggling with yourself. Putting up resistance is the response of defenses created by old hurts.
5. When You Find Yourself Reacting With Anger …
… or opposition to any person or circumstance, realize that you are only struggling with yourself. Putting up resistance is the response of defenses created by old hurts. When you relinquish this anger, you will be healing yourself and cooperating with the flow of the universe.
6. Know That the World “Out There” Reflects Your Reality “in Here”
The people you react to most strongly, whether with love or hate, are projections of your inner world. What you most hate is what you most deny in yourself. What you most love is what you most wish for in yourself. Use the mirror of relationships to guide your evolution. The goal is total self-knowledge. When you achieve that, what you most want will automatically be there, and what you most dislike will disappear.
7. Shed the Burden of Judgment
You will feel much lighter. Judgment imposes right and wrong on situations that just are. Everything can be understood and forgiven, but when you judge, you cut off understanding and shut down the process of learning to love. In judging others, you reflect your lack of self-acceptance. Remember that every person you forgive adds to your self-love.
8. Don’t Contaminate Your Body With Toxins
Either through food, drink, or toxic emotions. Your body is more than a life-support system. It is the vehicle that will carry you on the journey of your evolution. The health of every cell directly contributes to your state of well being, because every cell is a point of awareness within the field of awareness that is you.
9. Replace Fear-Motivated Behavior With Love-Motivated Behavior
Fear is the product of memory, which dwells in the past. Remembering what hurt us before, we direct our energies toward making certain that an old hurt will not repeat itself. But trying to impose the past on the present will never wipe out the threat of being hurt. That happens only when you find the security of your own being, which is love. Motivated by the truth inside you, you can face any threat because your inner strength is invulnerable to fear.
10. Understand That the Physical World Is Just a Mirror of a Deeper Intelligence.
Intelligence is the invisible organizer of all matter and energy, and since a portion of this intelligence resides in you, you share in the organizing power of the cosmos. Because you are inseparably linked to everything, you cannot afford to foul the planet’s air and water. But at a deeper level, you cannot afford to live with a toxic mind, because every thought makes an impression on the whole field of intelligence. Living in balance and purity is the highest good for you and the Earth.
Sharing is caring. Can you share this and help us reach more hearts and minds. – Thousand thoughts
Most people fail to achieve their desired outcome, not because they lack the ability to do so, but rather because they are short on the fortitude to remain intentional in their given pursuit or endeavor.
Being intentional is really as simple as having a clear idea of what you want to accomplish, really knowing why you have deemed it worth your time and effort, and identifying what steps you’re going to take each day that will ultimately move you closer to where you want your life to go. If it sounds simple, that’s because it is.Don’t mistake simple for easy though. It will take effort. And that’s a good thing really, because as you move through the day to day tasks you’re going to be motivated along the way by everything you overcome that’s moving you closer to your intended destination. Simply put, when things are too easy — it’s very easy to become bored and end up not doing those day to day activities which are required to get us to the pinnacle of accomplishment that we are after.
Without a plan, without intentionality, we are like a ship at sea, floating aimlessly, waiting for the waves to move us whichever way they see fit to do so. That’s a pretty grim description isn’t it? Fortunately it doesn’t have to be your reality so long as you are willing to be an active participant in your own success journey.
So that I’m not just spouting off a bunch of theory here for you I’ll share some practical ideas you can put into practice in your daily routine. If you will put them to use you’ll join those that go from wishing things were better, to a person who understands that they have in them the ability to do what’s required to create positive changes in their own lives.
Here are the 6 Steps for Living Intentionally Each Day:
1. Begin each day in gratitude
This one may sound a little rah-rah to you, but it can really make a big difference with regards to how our overall day goes. Beginning each day from a place of gratitude has many benefits. Not the least of which is that we are forced to realize that there are good things happening in our lives. No matter how hectic things might appear, we do in fact have things to be grateful for. That in and of itself can make a big difference when facing the day ahead.
I like to think of it as rebalancing the things that are happening in my life. When we reconnect with the many reasons we have to be grateful, we inevitably come to realize that we have much to be thankful for. Just as we met with success in the past, so too can we expect to overcome whatever current hurdles we might be facing. It really is a great way to set the tone for your day.
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” – Willie Nelson
2. Get some exercise
I’m not suggesting marathons or even anything heavy duty here (unless that’s your thing). As for me, I have found that going for a walk or jog shortly after waking up does wonders and literally pays dividends throughout my entire day. I used to put my earbuds in and listen to music or catch up on podcasts. I still do that sometimes, but recently I’ve begun splitting my exercise time, using the first part to enjoy silence and the second part to listen to some music or a podcast (i.e. learning time).
I find that starting out in silence allows all the thoughts that are running through my mind to germinate and work themselves out. I also like to use that time to strategize my day ahead, or projects I have to work on. I do keep a pad or use the note taking app on my phone to write the important thoughts that come to mind for later recall. Needless to say you want to consult with your doctor before taking on any exercise routine, but assuming you’re able this is one thing that can really be helpful.
This really is a terrific way to reconnect with what success means to you. As I said before, it’s important that you have a clear definition of what achievement looks like to you. It would amaze you just how many people run through their daily lives never fully celebrating their accomplishments along the way. One of the surest ways to avoid that is to track your day to day progress and have a mechanism for tracking your progress. Your journal allows you to do just that.
4. Write down your daily To Do/Actions List
Prioritize the things that when completed will give you the greatest results and outcome. Remember that not all things are created equal when it comes to achievement. For example, let’s say your position in the company or business you work in requires you to do both administrative related tasks, as well as generating revenue, or calling on clients to make sales.
Certainly, it would be important to accomplish everything that was required of you, but you would do well to give the income producing activities priority in just about every instance. To give another example, in my business it would be very easy to get caught up in the day to day tasks that pop up. While things like checking email, replying to requests, editing contributed articles and such are important, and need completing.
It’s much more important that I give priority to activities such as personal writing, scheduling newsletter issues to go out, making contacts with industry colleagues, and working with consulting clients. In short, I don’t neglect the less important items I identify that need doing, I just prioritize things by level of importanceand am careful to delegate the things others can do. Look for opportunities to do the same in your life and you are sure to benefit as a result.
5. Make time for learning
Be intentional (there’s that pesky word again!) about learning and improving your skillsets. We are either learning and open to new things or we’re getting stagnant. I’m not saying you have to fill your mind with worthless facts about things which hold no interest to you. What I’m suggesting is that you commit tolearning something new in your given profession, or an area you’re passionate about. Doing this on a consistent basis can move you into expert territory which can open up all sorts of new life opportunities. Plus, you get to grow your knowledge along the way.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
6. Review your daily progress and rewrite the next day’s To Do / Actions List
This really speaks for itself. It’s one thing to identify what needs to be done, and why, but unless you keep those things front and center as a reminder it will be too easy to get sidetracked. I’m big on the saying, “what gets our attention, gets done, more often than not.”
Remember that being intentional really gets down to making the decision to live your life with the realization that you have the choice to either live in reactionary mode, that is, reacting to things that life throws your way, or you can follow the steps shared above and lead an intentional life.
One that you plan out, take the necessary actions on, adjust to as needed, and ultimately feel a heck of a lot more accomplished for having made the decision to live your life in this way.
Remember, it’s your life, LIVE BIG! Thank you for reading my article!
Ever since Mark Zuckerberg changed his Facebook profile picture to a tricolor shade to show support to the Digital India campaign by the Modi government, we Indians have been following suit. Our timelines are flooded with tricolor profile pictures created from fb.com/supportdigitalindia. Now like everybody, you may think this is a gesture to support digital India. But it is not.
Changing Your Profile Picture Means You Have Automatically Voted Against Net Neutrality
For every profile picture that is changed, a vote goes in support of internet.org. Yes, it means you’ve automatically voted against net neutrality.
Now it may sound like a great philanthropic idea, one that would help digitalize even remote villages, it actually is a blow to internet freedom and net neutrality. Facebook is piggyback riding the digital India movement (which is a great ) to position itself as a benefactor that will provide free internet in India. Fact is that internet.org, if implemented, will do everything except benefit a developing country like India. Here’s why:
The free internet service will be available only to Reliance users, since the partnership is with Reliance. And the “free access” that is being much talked about will only be to Facebook and its 50 partner sites, which is nothing but manipulating internet users with a carrot-stick tactic. Everyone loves free internet, which is why users will limit their internet usage to sites that are free. Now this is giving unprecedented monoply to Facebook and its 50 partner sites to manipulate what we see on the internet.
Death Of Startups
And this will mean the death of startups, a culture that is booming in India. No small company or website can possibly compete with a biggie like Facebook that is providing free internet. The mushrooming of a zillion new businesses, especially indigenous, will simply be impossible. Imagine what would have happened if the British had priced English goods at dirt-cheap rates; yes, death of indigenous business. Clasicc case of big fish eliminating small fish.
Some time back, when the country had risen in support of net neutrality signing petitions to save it, big players like The Times of India and NDTV had pulled out of internet.org citing the violation of net neutrality.
So, if you think that by changing your profile picture you are supporting the cause of a digitalized India, don’t. You are unconsciously helping Facebook kill net neutrality. This Facebook post sums it all too well.
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So you’re really angry and about to Hulk out when you stop yourself and bottle up the rage, shoving it way down deep; you know you’ll still feel angry and unsatisfied, but getting angry is bad. Or maybe you just want to be alone, but you’re afraid people will think you’re antisocial and weird, so you force yourself to go out with a huge crowd, because it’s not healthy to spend much time alone. Right? Or… wrong?
As it turns out, a lot of things that we traditionally consider negative behaviors are actually good for you, so if you feel like doing or feeling any of the seven things on this list, go right ahead — you might be doing yourself a favor.
Crying is part of the healing process; as explained on PBS’s This Emotional Life, the act of crying can both elevate your mood and reduce stress. It’s also cathartic. Instead of viewing tears as something embarrassing or a sign of weakness that should be avoided or suppressed, consider them a healthy part of the grieving process.
Anger helps us protect our own interests and identify the weaknesses and strengths in relationships. According to How Stuff Works, people who use anger to address issues that are bothering them tend to make positive changes, while those who hold their anger in may be more depressed than those who release it. In addition, studies have shown that women who suppress their anger may be more likely to die than those who don’t. So the next time you feel like you should bottle up your rage, think about how you can improve your situation by using that anger to your advantage (as long as you’re not planning on murdering anyone).
3. Being Alone
Loners are often viewed with suspicion, but solitude is often essential for stimulating creativity and self-reflection. Taking the time to be alone, away from constant outside stimulation, helps us process our thoughts and reflect on the experiences we’ve had; being alone can also be a way for some people to recharge. Embrace your fortress of solitude!
4. Not Fitting In
Not everyone needs to be exactly the same — and not everyone is the same. Embracing your individuality will increase your self-confidence and make you proud of your uniqueness; instead of worrying about whether you’re not doing the right things and getting bogged down in all the things you think are “wrong” with you, you’ll be able to move through life with the confidence to step outside the box and do things your way.
Sadness is a critical part of life. Emotions like sadness help us make sense of life’s ups and downs, according to Scientific American, and allow us to grow and understand ourselves better by confronting adversities. Ignoring sadness will not make it go away, nor will it make you better able to deal with future sadness — in fact, forcing yourself to be positive may have an adverse effect, causing us to ignore certain dangers or become complacent and unrealistic. By acknowledging emotions like sadness, we learn to cope with those emotions.
6. Lack Of Direction
“When we are lost, it makes us pay attention to the moment and to our instincts,” says Lifehack. “If you have ever been lost in a big city or a foreign land, you likely also made some wonderful discoveries while trying to find your way.” Being lost — in life as well as literally — allows us to discover things about ourselves we might not have otherwise discovered, and it leads us down different paths than the ones we might have expected to take.
We’re always told to ignore our cravings, to bottle them up and pretend that they don’t exist. But a 2009 study conducted by psychologist David J. Kavanagh of Queensland University of Technology in Australia found that suppressing cravings might actually lead to more. During the study, Kavangh and his colleagues asked people in treatment for alcohol abuse and addiction to complete a questionnaire that assessed their “drinking-related urges and cravings,” as well as any attempts to suppress thoughts related to alcohol over the previous 24 hours. The result? They found that those who often fought against intrusive alcohol-related thoughts actually had more of them. So if you’re trying to push those food cravings aside, for example, you may actually end up doing even more stress eating than if you had just acknowledged that had a craving in the first place.
How do you discover your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist.[caption id="attachment_1089" align="aligncenter" width="809" class=" "] Image Credit: Stefan Mueller[/caption]
Perhaps you’re a person who believe that you have no purpose at all and that life has no meaning. Doesn’t matter. Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping. Just because you don’t believe in this, it will take longer to discover one. So, for those who are the non believers, I request you to change the number “20” mentioned in the title to “50” or “90” if you’re really stubborn. Since you don’t believe that you have a purpose associated with your life, you won’t believe what I’m saying anyways, but still I would want you to invest an hour, just in case it works.!
Let me start with a short story about Bruce Lee which, this will set the stage for this short exercise.
A master martial artist once asked Bruce to teach him everything Bruce knew about martial arts. Bruce held up two cups, both filled with liquid. “The first cup,” said Bruce, “represents all of your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents all of my knowledge about martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge.”
If you want to discover the true purpose of your life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught. Also, drop the belief that you may have no purpose at all.
There are many ways by which you can discover the purpose of your life, here is one of the simplest that anyone can practice. It will work as faster as you expect it to, the more open you are to this process, the more beneficial it will be. But not being open to it or having doubts about it or thinking it’s an entirely idiotic and meaningless waste of time won’t prevent it from working as long as you stick with it — again, it will just take longer to converge.
Following are the steps you need to take, or practice:
- Take out a blank sheet of paper ( of any size ) or simply open up a word file where you can type.
- Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”
- Write an answer that pops into your head. It can be a short phrase or a complete sentence.
- Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. Something that can make you think! This is your purpose.
That’s it. It doesn’t matter if you’re a counselor or an engineer or a bodybuilder. To some people this exercise will make perfect sense. To others it will seem utterly stupid. Usually it takes 15-20 minutes to clear your head of all the clutter and the social conditioning about what you think your purpose in life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, it will feel like it’s coming to you from a different source entirely.
For those who are very entrenched in low-awareness living, it will take a lot longer to get all the false answers out, possibly more than an hour. But if you persist, after 100 or 200 or maybe even 500 answers, you’ll be struck by the answer that causes you to surge with emotion, the answer that breaks you. If you’ve never done this, it may very well sound silly to you. So let it seem silly, and do it anyway.
As you go through this process, some of your answers will be very similar. You may even re-list previous answers. Then you might head off on a new tangent and generate 10-20 more answers along some other theme. And that’s fine. You can list whatever answer pops into your head as long as you just keep writing.
At some point during the process (typically after about 50-100 answers), you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging. You may feel the urge to get up and make an excuse to do something else. That’s normal. Push past this resistance, and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass.
You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you a mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry — they’re just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back to them to generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose, but individually they aren’t complete. When you start getting these kinds of answers, it just means you’re getting warm. Keep going.
It’s important to do this alone and with no interruptions. If you’re a nihilist, then feel free to start with the answer, “I don’t have a purpose,” or “Life is meaningless,” and take it from there. If you keep at it, you’ll still eventually converge.
When I did this exercise, it took me about 25 minutes, and I reached my final answer at step 106. Partial pieces of the answer (mini-surges) appeared at steps 17, 39, and 53, and then the bulk of it fell into place and was refined through steps 100-106. I felt the feeling of resistance (wanting to get up and do something else, expecting the process to fail, feeling very impatient and even irritated) around steps 55-60. At step 80 I took a 2-minute break to close my eyes, relax, clear my mind, and to focus on the intention for the answer to come to me — this was helpful as the answers I received after this break began to have greater clarity.
Here was my final answer: to live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to awaken the great spirits within others, and to leave this world in peace.
When you find your own unique answer to the question of why you’re here, you will feel it resonate with you deeply. The words will seem to have a special energy to you, and you will feel that energy whenever you read them.
Discovering your purpose is the easy part. The hard part is keeping it with you on a daily basis and working on yourself to the point where you become that purpose.
If you’re inclined to ask why this little process works, just put that question aside until after you’ve successfully completed it. Once you’ve done that, you’ll probably have your own answer to why it works. Most likely if you ask 10 different people why this works (people who’ve successfully completed it), you’ll get 10 different answers, all filtered through their individual belief systems, and each will contain its own reflection of truth.
Obviously, this process won’t work if you quit before convergence. I’d guesstimate that 80-90% of people should achieve convergence in less than an hour. If you’re really entrenched in your beliefs and resistant to the process, maybe it will take you 5 sessions and 3 hours, but I suspect that such people will simply quit early (like within the first 15 minutes) or won’t even attempt it at all. But if you’re drawn to read this blog (and haven’t been inclined to ban it from your life yet), then it’s doubtful you fall into this group.
Give it a shot! At the very least, you’ll learn one of two things: your true purpose in life -or- that you should unsubscribe from this blog.
Author: Steve Pavlina
You can check out his blog here: www.stevepavlina.com
The lie of multitasking and why you need to stop
If you think that multitasking is an indicator of efficiency and smartness, then this is the article for you!! Actually, multitasking is a bad idea; rather, frequent multitasking shrinks your brain and lowers your IQ. And wait, there is more….well, far from saving you time, multitasking cuts your productivity by a whopping 40 percent! That’s because as you switch from task to task, your brain reacts to the feeling of newness with a jolt of dopamine – the same brain chemical that causes heroin addiction.
A frightening discovery
You may think you’re taking part in a conference call, writing a report, and texting home all at the same time, but what your brain is actually doing is switching non-stop among these different activities.
That’s costing you both efficiency and brain cells. Multitasking lowers your IQ, shrinks your brain, and cuts your productivity – and it’s addictive.
A few more facts
What multi-taskers do not realise is that they are actually devolving their brain. Rather than following our ancestors’ lead by training the brain to learn and be creative through deep focus, they are actually following the path of the side-sighted animals. By multi-tasking, they are attempting to apply the logic of their limbic system – which can only handle simple problems like 10×5 – to much more complicated tasks. This can be extremely dangerous.
The damages of multi-tasking
Not only will this lead to low-quality work, but it will also strengthen the limbic system, which also motivates us to indulge in unhealthy food, give up on challenging tasks and skip our workouts. Essentially, the more you multi-task, the weaker your willpower becomes.
Multi-tasking is distracting
These days, most of us are our own secretaries. The filter is gone and while we can choose whether or not to answer a particular call, e-mail or text, just making that decision requires multi-tasking. It reduces our attention to whatever our pre-frontal cortex was doing before the interruption, and studies show it can cause us to be as much as 40 percent less productive.
How to stop multitasking and get work done:
The myth persists, however, that multitasking is the best way to work. Peruse any job website and you’ll find literally thousands of descriptions making it clear that those who can’t handle “multitasking” need not apply. There is little to no scientific proof that multitasking enhances performance, and real evidence that dividing one’s attention might actually be detrimental.
Here’s how to get rid of the habit of multitasking
1. Give yourself permission to think and be alone
Your best ideas and deepest insights will come when detached from your everyday routine. Seek alone time and keep it sacred on your calendar. Remember, companies hire employees to help animate and implement their ideas. The real purpose of your employment lies in your intellectual capital: the thoughts you have and the ideas you generate. Multitasking only detracts from this.
2. Do one thing at a time
Contrary to the multi tasker’s creed, you’ll actually get more tasks done by doing them individually. Not just that, you’ll do it quicker and with fewer mistakes and less rework.
3. Be present
Be present with your work and with those you are working with. Stay on your current todo and don’t let your focus float to other tasks. This means not checking email while you are meeting with someone. And it means not working during that meeting on your laptop.
4. Finish before you start
Make sure you finish tasks to closure before starting the next one. There is great productivity momentum in finishing things to done before taking on the next task. Don’t let small tasks interrupt big ones Resist letting small items interrupt big ones. Don’t pick up that 2-minute task just because it’s easy. Don’t answer that email just because you saw it drop into your inbox.
5. Put down the tech
Technology has allowed us to work anywhere. That doesn’t mean you should. Close your email, turn off the phone, and put down the unneeded tech while you are working.
6. Learn how to improve your concentration
Doing this may feel awkward at first if you frequently multitask. But you’ll be surprised at how much you get done just by concentrating on one thing at a time.Designate time to work on one task or project. Go to a meeting room or work location if it helps concentrate on the task at hand.
7. Write down your tasks
You might want to do every item as it arrives on your agenda, but that is not an efficient way to handle your duties. When new ideas pop up, briefly jot down a note or put it on your calendar for future reference. Go back to your original task. Writing it down allows your brain to set it aside and refocus.
8. Group similar tasks
It is easier to write 15 checks at once than it is to write one check 15 times. So, group your bill paying into a single block of time. Check your email at certain times, resisting the temptation to switch windows as soon as you receive a new one. While there are always important items on the agenda, every email can wait for a few minutes before you respond.
9. Commit to your choices
Single-tasking obliges you to do one thing at a time—excluding any other demands at that moment. This means you must stand firm and genuinely commit to your choices. You can manage your next task after working on the existing one. You don’t have to complete every task all at once, just the current period of time dedicated to it.
10. Say No early, and often
Attempting to be all things to all people is more than unrealistic—it’s a recipe for disaster. It’s perfectly fine, even means you’re being responsible, not to respond to every request immediately. “No, I can’t right now” is not equivalent to “No, I won’t ever do it.” By saying no, you’ll be free from the constant frustration of half-finished tasks.
11. Set goals
Know what you’re going to do before you start doing it. If you have no clear path, distractions can come easily. Before starting a new task, take a few minutes to plan out the steps you’ll need to complete and in what order—that way, you’ll be less able to wander. An important step of goal setting? A quality to-do list!
Studies suggest that regular meditation can boost brain function and is associated with better focus and attention. It can also help reduce stress when a massive to-do list is looming.
Want even more tips?
There are plenty of books available that will help you develop strategies for achieving better focus and deeper concentration. It may not be easy to quit, but science tells us that multitasking is not all it’s cracked up to be. Staying focused and concentrating on one task at a time is worth a shot. Do you multitask? Why or why not? Share in the comments below, or get in touch with us on Facebook Thousand Thoughts !
Sometimes the truth can hurt, so will these painful truths today.
The main reason we read this is because we need to appreciate things more now than ever. Things are changing every minute, and we might not be able to adapt if we don’t know couple of generally painful truths.
I remind myself of these every day, and I must confess these are some of my personal motivational factors when I usually don’t have a tiny bit of power to work.
Time is limited
Before you say “I know it” you might take a look over your life again. However old you are, looking back on your life experiences you’ll notice that it has no ‘time’ in the formula. Everything seems like it happened yesterday.
So appreciate every minute you spend. Most cancer survivors and people who were tiny step away from losing their life begin to know how important is to live well and appreciate things we already have around us.
You live the life you create
When you go out and see all the vibrant things, cars, people, animals, birds around you, endorse that they have massive impact over our life. That’s why we are together in one world.
And the paradox is, that neither of those things can affect you, as long as you don’t react upon it.
The point is, that every person creates a world on his own derived by his/hers decisions and actions.
Failure is part of success
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
I’ve learned that it seems like life is playing with us sometimes. It gets you to the ground, with your head, in the mud and tells you:
“This is the bottom, it’s the worst it can happen. This is how people feel sometimes, and even worse than this. You can be here your whole life, complaining how life happens to you, or you can go wash your face, and start taking things in your hands.”
Dare to make mistakes, and fail hundreds of times, until there’s no gap in your actions that will give you another fail on the road.
Busy and productive are two different things
Being busy doesn’t necessarily makes you productive.
Success doesn’t come from busyness. It comes from productivity + best use of time. Sometimes it can be 3-4 hours a day.
Over-busy people are scattered everywhere. They have no aim, nor balance in their life. We should never forget that life is not about work, money and burdening ourselves with baloney things and forget that this is actual life.
Thinking and doing are two separate worlds
They are two different worlds because it’s the disparity between success and failure, and living and dying. They are so close, and yet so far. This may be the number one painful truth we forget.
Imagine how many things would be done if you just started doing things, instead of wondering and thinking. The first thing we should do to keep on the thorny road is action. Without action you will create a state where you’ll be mind-shackled.
Without applying the thoughts in the physical words, we create a state of self-prison. We create a person inside our head that doesn’t allow any thoughts to go through the hands and legs.
If you want to do things, you must apply your thoughts in the physical world. It’s not the stupid people are not full of doubts, as Charles Bukowski says; it is the ones that don’tdo.
Some people should be removed and nothing else
People around us, especially the ones we contact with, play crucial role in how we live our life. They can be the biggest blessing or the biggest mistakes we have. Jim Rohn says that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” It looks pretty true to me.
Toxic environment is invisible cage. Even a whole society and circle of people can be toxic.
If you belong to a toxic environment you will spend your life being unproductive, switching from failure to failure. Then you may think “you’re an introvert.” No, you are person who is in the wrong environment. You are individual who still haven’t found his/hers soul mates.
Forgive before you get an apology
Holding grudges rents a place in your head and keeps you busy with something that shouldn’t last a second in your life.
Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. Life is all about experiences, positive or negative. They are all part of the life lessons. When you forgive someone you promise yourself not to hold the irreversible past against your present self.
Till now everyone had talked about “What distinguish a successful man from others”, “What do they posses” and “what qualities they have”. This time, let’s take a look at 5 habits that are prevalent among unsuccessful people for now, and you’ll have a chance to add your own suggestions at the bottom of this page.
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When something bad happens to an person who is unsuccessful, it’s almost never their fault. Do you ever find yourself blaming someone else when something doesn’t go your way? Maybe it’s So and so’s fault for not fixing the printer on time, or Such and Such’s fault that they forgot to warm you about a traffic jam on the way to work. You can’t control everyone, and other people are going to make mistakes that are going to affect you, it’s just bound to happen, so deal with it and accept responsibility when you fall short rather than thinking of ways to put that blame onto someone else.
They find it easy to procrastinate.
An unsuccessful person is unhappy with where they are in life, yet they don’t take any steps towards improving their position. Distractions and procrastination are the name of the game when you’re an unsuccessful person. Games, TV, movies, they’re all keeping you from reaching your goals. If you dream of starting a business but you already work 8 hours a day, you’re obviously going to have to cut into your free time – that’s just the price you have to pay for success. If it was easy, everyone would do it.
They always feel entitled.
Why should an unsuccessful person have to work harder than anybody else? You’ll often find them complaining about celebrities and rich people who don’t deserve what they have because they didn’t earn it, yet the unsuccessful person feels entitled to everything they want without having to work for it. Quite a paradox. Entitlement is a very unattractive trait to possess, although most people in developed nations feel at least some degree of entitlement.
They beliefs are based on an incorrect interpretation of reality.
The unsuccessful person will hide behind cloak of delusion rather than being honest with themselves about their situation. It can be very challenging to face reality, especially when one has built themselves up so much in their own head. It’s a lot easier to convince yourself that you’re doing better than you are than it is to actually put in the effort to make a change. The brain is a very tricky thing, and it will often work against you. In this case, the brain tries to protect you from feeling upset or disappointed in yourself by telling you that you’re doing just fine – even if you aren’t where you want to be.
They can’t relate to this list.
If you can relate to any of the aforementioned traits, congratulations – you’re human. Nobody is perfect, and even wildly successful people will see parts of themselves on this list. Most people will be able to relate to these traits at least a little bit, but having the self-awareness to recognize your flaws is a step in the right direction. It’s a lot easier to get over procrastination and entitlement than it is to accept full responsibility for your situation and overcome delusion, but the sooner you’re able to take steps towards working on these things, the sooner you’ll be living the life you want.