Sometimes the truth can hurt, so will these painful truths today.
The main reason we read this is because we need to appreciate things more now than ever. Things are changing every minute, and we might not be able to adapt if we don’t know couple of generally painful truths.
I remind myself of these every day, and I must confess these are some of my personal motivational factors when I usually don’t have a tiny bit of power to work.
Time is limited
Before you say “I know it” you might take a look over your life again. However old you are, looking back on your life experiences you’ll notice that it has no ‘time’ in the formula. Everything seems like it happened yesterday.
So appreciate every minute you spend. Most cancer survivors and people who were tiny step away from losing their life begin to know how important is to live well and appreciate things we already have around us.
You live the life you create
When you go out and see all the vibrant things, cars, people, animals, birds around you, endorse that they have massive impact over our life. That’s why we are together in one world.
And the paradox is, that neither of those things can affect you, as long as you don’t react upon it.
The point is, that every person creates a world on his own derived by his/hers decisions and actions.
Failure is part of success
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
I’ve learned that it seems like life is playing with us sometimes. It gets you to the ground, with your head, in the mud and tells you:
“This is the bottom, it’s the worst it can happen. This is how people feel sometimes, and even worse than this. You can be here your whole life, complaining how life happens to you, or you can go wash your face, and start taking things in your hands.”
Dare to make mistakes, and fail hundreds of times, until there’s no gap in your actions that will give you another fail on the road.
Busy and productive are two different things
Being busy doesn’t necessarily makes you productive.
Success doesn’t come from busyness. It comes from productivity + best use of time. Sometimes it can be 3-4 hours a day.
Over-busy people are scattered everywhere. They have no aim, nor balance in their life. We should never forget that life is not about work, money and burdening ourselves with baloney things and forget that this is actual life.
Thinking and doing are two separate worlds
They are two different worlds because it’s the disparity between success and failure, and living and dying. They are so close, and yet so far. This may be the number one painful truth we forget.
Imagine how many things would be done if you just started doing things, instead of wondering and thinking. The first thing we should do to keep on the thorny road is action. Without action you will create a state where you’ll be mind-shackled.
Without applying the thoughts in the physical words, we create a state of self-prison. We create a person inside our head that doesn’t allow any thoughts to go through the hands and legs.
If you want to do things, you must apply your thoughts in the physical world. It’s not the stupid people are not full of doubts, as Charles Bukowski says; it is the ones that don’tdo.
Some people should be removed and nothing else
People around us, especially the ones we contact with, play crucial role in how we live our life. They can be the biggest blessing or the biggest mistakes we have. Jim Rohn says that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” It looks pretty true to me.
Toxic environment is invisible cage. Even a whole society and circle of people can be toxic.
If you belong to a toxic environment you will spend your life being unproductive, switching from failure to failure. Then you may think “you’re an introvert.” No, you are person who is in the wrong environment. You are individual who still haven’t found his/hers soul mates.
Forgive before you get an apology
Holding grudges rents a place in your head and keeps you busy with something that shouldn’t last a second in your life.
Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. Life is all about experiences, positive or negative. They are all part of the life lessons. When you forgive someone you promise yourself not to hold the irreversible past against your present self.
Namaste. As I’m sure many of you can relate, I tend to go in search of a few chuckles now and then by digging into the comments section on controversial posts that pop up on my grand’ole Facebook feed. Last Tuesday, I found myself a spectator in what I can only describe as a full blown comments war. The insults were flying, man. Memes thrown across the cyber-trenches like grenades. Feelings had been hurt and many a mother insulted. What started such a rage-fueled keyboard free-for-all?
Well, an article was posted by a large online news blog stating that Pope Francis allegedly denied the existence of a literal hell. Now, my research concluded the report was a hoax, but the flames of fury had nonetheless already been lit and the argument had escalated quickly. On one side you had those arguing that heaven and hell exist as real places, and on the other were those who say they are but metaphors. Others argued that they are tools used throughout history by those in power to dissuade the breaking of the rule of law, religious or man-made. There were, literally, thousands of comments from people truly furious at each other, angry at names on a screen that meant nothing to them. Angry to the point of letting their rage ruin their day…..all over over a fake post on heaven and hell.
So, on to my point.
This brought to mind another old zen parable that I would like to share with you, The Samurai and the Monk.
A big, tough samurai once went to see a little monk. “Monk,” he said, in a voice accustomed to instant obedience, “Teach me about heaven and hell!”
The monk looked up at this mighty warrior and replied with disdain, “Teach you about heaven and hell? I couldn’t teach you about anything. You’re dirty. Your blade is rusty. Why you probably couldn’t cut a branch with that sword! You’re a disgrace! An embarrassment to the samurai class!”
The samurai was furious. He got all red in the face and was speechless with rage and anger. He pulled out his sword and raised it above him, preparing to slay the monk in retaliation.
“That is Hell,” said the monk softly.
The samurai was overwhelmed. He slowly put down his sword, and filled with gratitude, bowed to the monk.
“And that”, whispered the monk, “…is Heaven.”
This little story teaches a huge lesson. No matter what you believe, the front lines of “heaven and hell” start deep within us, where the greatest battles are fought between love and hate, anger and joy, fear and hope, happiness and sorrow, self-importance and humility. The ultimate choice as to which we chose to manifest in our everyday lives is our own, and so we must be ever mindful of the power we give our emotions to lash out into the physical world to become reality. While it is healthy to express our feelings to others, there is a difference between a feeling and an emotion. When we give in to our primal emotions like anger or fury, we shift out of focus with the principles of mindfulness practice and become reactive to that which is created around us instead of being active in creating our own circumstances. Next time you’re on the verge of an angry argument with your significant other, your parent, your boss, or even a random troll in cyberspace, remember it is up to you to create more happiness than anger, more communion that division, more heaven than hell.
1. You only lose what you cling to.
2. You cannot lose what is not yours.
3. You have everything you need to be happy.
5. If you carry the bricks of your past with you, you will build the same house.
6. The things that are in your life you have created and attracted. To change your life, choose to change.
You do not have forever to be who you are right now.
8. Not getting what you want is sometimes the best thing that could happen.
9. There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.
10. Stop leaving and you will arrive. Stop searching and you will see. Stop running away and you will be found.
11. It is always darkest before the dawn.
12. When things least seem like they’re going to change, that’s usually when they do.
13. You are as free as you decide to be.
14. The only important things in life are the little things– enjoy them the most.
15. You never arrive at happiness, you just learn to live it.
16. Take caution when you open your heart to people, everyone deserves your love and respect, but not everyone deserves a place inside you.
The only way to find peace is to create it within yourself, regardless of the chaos around you.
18. Change is the only constant in life, might as well get used to it now.
19. We build our own cages.
20. To love yourself means to treat yourself and think of yourself as the love of your life would.
21. Chase drinks and dreams, not people.
22. It’s usually not a matter of understanding the heart, but in toning down the mind.
23. Learn to use the heart and mind in tandem, but always in that order.
24. You can’t keep doing the same things and expect your life to change.
25. The only thing you have to do to erase the darkness is turn on a light.
26. The real way you teach people is by helping them to discover on their own.
27. Great things are usually preceded by chaos.
28. People are looking to love exactly the person you are. Don’t compromise yourself.
29. “Okay” is where we all end up eventually.
30. Feed yourself in every way the human body is supposed to be nourished.
31. There’s nothing wrong with indulging yourself.
32. You deserve wonderful things.
33. The person you are meant to be with will always find their way back to you. Always.
34. Find cause for celebration each day and you’ll never live a boring life.
35. It is absolutely true that people will forget what you said and what you did but will never forget how you made them feel.
36. No life is less valuable or beautiful than any other– not even yours.
37. Perfect is not the enemy of good.
38. If you’re reading this on a computer, on the internet, you have more than most of the world does. And yet, despite this, you find reasons to complain (we all do). The lesson? The more you have does not translate to the happier you are.
39. A simple life is the happiest life.
40. People will come and go as they are scheduled to. Let them. Holding on does not affect them, only you.
41. Nobody will give you permission to start living life.
42. Signs and messages are everywhere if only we start paying attention and stop being skeptical.
43. Hope is never lost, it is just ignored.
44. Do everything with a slow pace and a lot of love.
45. Let yourself be yourself.
46. Negative feelings aren’t inherently bad, we just assign a negative connotation to them.
47. Life itself was meant to be survived. If in the process, we find time to live, we can consider ourselves victorious.
48. Just because you feel something, even if someone else doesn’t does not mean it is illegitimate.
49. Just because someone is unkind to you that does not mean you have to be unkind to them. Their wrongdoings are their issues to deal with. Don’t let them become yours.
50. If you let other people’s negative opinions take weight within you, you’ll burn yourself alive, even though you didn’t start the fire.