We all know those type of people around us calling themselves a go-getter. I have realized that the true success dwells in giving, not getting. I know it sounds corny, but it is true.
Being ambitious and going after your dreams is an important thing but to help others get what they want is more important. It doesn’t help only them, but it moves us forward as well.
Here are seven reasons why being a go-giver will create a better quality of your life and attract what you desire:
1. You will grow
You will grow emotionally, spiritually, mentally. You will understand the real meaning of life, which resides in giving. And you will enjoy it. It will change your perspective on life and success itself. If you want more abundance in your life, the number one rule is to give without expecting getting anything back.
Don’t help others only because you expect them to help you right after. Be real with people and don’t make them feel like they owe you something. You are helping others to grow and live the positive life, not to benefit from them.
2. You will help others
Do you remember the time in the past when you were starting something and someone helped you? How did it make you feel? Can you imagine that you make someone else feel the same way? Your support can change someone’s life forever or give them the right start.
We all have been there. We all were trying to accomplish something and struggled at first. Don’t forget how it feels and the next time, be there for others and show your support.
“Heroes represent the best of ourselves, respecting that we are human beings. A hero can be anyone from Gandhi to your classroom teacher, anyone who can show courage when faced with a problem. A hero is someone who is willing to help others in his or her best capacity.” – Ricky Martin
3. You will attract positive things into your life
Everything good you have ever done will come back to you. There are no exceptions. You will attract more wealth into your life, better people and circumstances. On one hand you will be getting more because you are giving (let’s call it karma).
On another hand, you will be getting more because you feel fulfilled and satisfied with yourself. Positivity will come to you from outside as well as inside.
4. You will create compelling relationships
By helping others, you will be changing their lives and become unforgettable to them. Remember that sometimes you are the only hope the person may have. You’ll have the opportunity to create healthy relationships with people who you have helped, or even people who helped you.
Don’t forget that these favorable connections will be useful to you one day, and they can change your life in return. Many people appreciate the help, and they keep you in mind. Creating honest relationships will make your life easier. People will know you as the thoughtful person, and they will always be there for you as well.
5. You will attract success
Have you ever heard that the most successful people are the ones who first give and then get? There is a reason behind it. They become successful because of using their inner potential. They are getting more from life because at first, they decided to give. Becoming a go-giver will bring into your life people and events that can change the course of your destiny.
The universe works in a miraculous way. By giving, you will attract the things you desire. Maybe you need the right business partner, or the money, or the right connection. Everything will fall into place once you understand the meaning of being a go-giver.
6.You will create a change
It will change you. It will change others and also your community. Making a change in people’s lives is an incredible privilege. You cannot make a difference in the world within one day, but you can change yourself and others around you to live and fulfill life with higher meaning.
7. You will help yourself
Whether you like it or not there is always going to be a benefit to you. Even when you genuinely help others and don’t expect anything back, you will feel satisfied and happier. And this is what makes you grow, what attracts better things into your life, what creates the real change around you. This quiet little voice saying, “You just did the right thing, keep doing it, be the change.”
“Help others and give something back. I guarantee you will discover that while public service improves the lives and the world around you, its greatest reward is the enrichment and new meaning it will bring your own life.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger
Commit yourself to do something for others at least once a week. Give others your hand and be there if they need you. Become a go-giver instead of a go-getter. By doing this, you will motivate your surroundings to do the same.
You can create a better environment for yourself and for those who you love. Most of the time, giving doesn’t cost you anything. You have kindness inside, share it with the world.
How will you transform your life? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Are you a weak leader? I know that’s a tough question to answer. I don’t think there is a single leader that will proclaim,“Yes! I am a weak leader!” At least not publicly.
The reality is that you are not as good of a leader as you would like to be. Yes, you are an honest, open, decisive and principled leader, but there is a roadblock to your success. And this roadblock is also adversely affecting the success of your company, the projects you’re running and the team you are building.
The degree of your success has little to do with the lack of resources; the basis is in the context of your habits, fears and the opinions of others. So you run into what John C. Maxwell, leadership authority, calls the lid. It’s an invisible, self-imposed, barrier that prevents you from becoming the leader you are meant to be.
“Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. The lower the individual’s ability to lead, the lower the lid on his potential. The higher the person’s ability to lead the higher the lid on his potential.” – John C. Maxwell
The Mcdonald’s success story that almost wasn’t
McDonald’s operates in 118 countries, serves 68 million customers each day, operates over 35,000 restaurants, and employs more than 1.7 million people.
But back in 1940, McDonald’s was a single restaurant located at 1398 North E Street at West 14th Street in San Bernardino, California. The founders were brothers Richard and Maurice McDonald. They were skilled entrepreneurs who steadily grew revenue and by developing the “Speedee Service System” the brothers arguably revolutionized the restaurant business.
But they were ineffective leaders.
Under the McDonald’s leadership, the brothers wanted to keep the franchise to a small number of restaurants. They had weak leadership that in part was due to their limited thinking patterns of what was possible. It took Ray Crock to envision the potential of McDonald’s. Crock was a strong leader who between 1955 – 1963 grew McDonald’s to 500 restaurants.
How do you become a better leader?
The McDonald’s story is a powerful visual. It paints a picture of what a good leader can build. But how do you become that type of leader? You master influence.
“You need someone who understands the limitations inherent in power and chooses to view his or her leadership role as one of influence. Influence is a derivative of power, and it can be wielded more easily and with greater effect.” – Ray Hennessey
So if leadership has more to do with influence, how do you earn it? John C. Maxwell touches on four techniques:
1. What have you done?
2. What can you do?
We follow a leader, in part, because of what he is capable of doing. We want to feel safe in the knowledge that he can lead us to a better place. If your followers believe that you can deliver, they will follow you.
3. Who are you?
Who you attract is determined by who you are. So the better leader you are, the better people your will attract.
4. Who do you know?
Leadership is a relationship business. So it goes without saying that building deep relationships is important. The deeper the relationship, the more profound your influence you will have over others.
Don’t waste another moment
Which of the four methods do you rely on to influence people? Rate them 1 – 4, with one meaning you are highly dependent on it. Once done, ask yourself how you can better optimize 3 and 4? How you can improve your influence requires a degree of self-awareness that can only be accomplished by evaluating your experiences, your life markers.
These markers usually are associated with a transformation, change or time of transition. So if you ask yourself better questions your ability to optimize your number 3 and 4 increases significantly. Here are some questions that have helped me:
- What is my biggest asset?
- What is my biggest liability?
- What is my best habit?
- What is my worst habit?
- What do I value most?
We are not born great leaders. Leadership is a skill that must be nurtured through consistency, discipline, and evaluated experiences. There is a great deal of hard work in becoming a good leader, which is the reason so many leaders are weak.
I often wonder what would McDonald’s look like today, if Richard and Maurice intentionally developed their leadership potential. Some pundits would argue that a company does better under the guidance of its founders.
What do you think? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below
Source : Addicted To Success
The long and winding road to success is a life-long journey. On this path, we have many habits and actions that help move us toward our vision of success.
However, we also have habits and actions that hinder and hurt our chances of reaching the destination that we have in our heart, mind, and soul.
To help you on your journey make sure that these five traps are avoided or at least mitigated:
1. Consumer debt
The more debt payments you have, the more you need a paycheck. The need for more money coming in can keep you running a business you hate or sticking with a job after you have lost your passion. Consumer debt can kill dreams before they even start because the more that you stress about the financial piece, the less creative energy you have to build your dream. Keep consumer debt low or nonexistent to reach success faster.
“When you get in debt you become a slave.” -Andrew Jackson
2. Unhealthy relationships
Relationships either add to your energy level or rob from you. There is nothing more draining than unhealthy relationships. As Jim Rohn states, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Make sure that this average serves you well. Be honest about which people you need to distance yourself from or remove from your life to reach success.
3. Lack of boundaries
Worrying about concerns instead of responsibilities will sidetrack your success. Responsibilities are the things that you are responsible for. Concerns are things that may way on you but are not up to you. Without boundaries, you will spend much of your time and energy on things that are not up to you. Return to a life of proper boundaries and success while be much more attainable.
4. Poor health
Improper health steals your confidence, robs your energy, and shortens your life. It can be tempting not to prioritize health but in doing so, you are making everything harder. Poor health can be changed but the longer you don’t prioritize your health the more negative consequences will happen. Keep health as your focus to help you mentally and physically on your way to a life of success in all areas.
“To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.” – Buddha
Doubt kills so much of our success and whispers into our ears to not even start. You can end up wasting so much time worrying about your doubts that you never reach for the stars. Frozen in fear is what makes doubt so negative it puts you in inaction sitting on the sidelines and out of the game. Some level of doubt will always be there, but you must get in the habit of moving in spite of how you feel. Move to silence doubt and achieve success for you.
The journey of success will not come easy, but it can be easier if you work at removing or reducing these five success robbing traps. Focused energy in time will lead to a life that you could never have pictured.