It’s never a “one rule fits all” when it comes to living your life, especially not for millennials. For some reason, millennials are the generation people love to hate.[caption id="attachment_1595" align="alignnone" width="826"] Image Credit: Huffingpost[/caption]
Some say millennials are too entitled, selfish, impatient, and narcissistic. Knowing millennials, they won’t waste time proving people otherwise. They have better things to do.
Here are the 12 life rules that millennials should keep in mind:
1. Simplify, simplify, simplify
Live simply is perhaps the best life rule for millennials. Declutter, throw out excess baggage, cut back, and simplify your life. Here’s the thing: you will never run out of things to do. You always have to wash the dishes and do the laundry.
So take it easy. If you have a gazillion chores waiting for you, try not to get overwhelmed by simplifying how to get things done. Make a list and get organized. You need to create some space in your life, relationships, and environment to clear your mind. Stop making life even more complicated than it already is.
“The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.” – Hans Hofmann
2. If you don’t have control over it, stop stressing about it
There are many things that you don’t have control over—natural disasters, illness in the family, retrenchment, parents’ divorce, what others think of you, or even a really slow internet connection. These are life’s realities that most people love to torment themselves with. But what’s the point when they can’t be altered and changed?
A 2015 study by the American Psychological Association found that millennials are the most stressed-out generation. The top stressors are money, work, family, and health. While you have no control over a lot of life’s events, you have control over your attitude towards them. You can choose to fix them or deal with them, but please, stop whining about them.
3. Stop having fun and start being happy
Friday nights are fun, but do they make you happy? Going on perennial first dates could be fun, but do they make you happy? At one point in your fun-filled life, step back and think what really makes you happy and do it. If staying home and just watching TV makes you happy, then stay home and quit pretending you are the ultimate partygoer on Friday nights. Being happy requires being honest to oneself.
4. Be passionate about something
It could be baking, playing the guitar, collecting stamps, or basketball—have at least one thing that you are passionate about. Be that person who bursts with energy when talking about the things they love. If you are deeply passionate over something, it would be easier to look forward to each day.
Dr. Carol Bernstein, associate professor of psychiatry at New York University School of Medicine, said that finding meaning in whatever it is that you love increases resilience and decreases burnout. Anything that can divert people from everyday tasks and routines are good for them in many ways, she adds.
5. Be kind to one another
We hear Ellen DeGeneres say this exact line at the end of her talk show, and it’s a good reminder for millennials and the generations before them. In the end, only kindness matters. Some people say Generation X is selfish and basically a generation that people love to hate.
There is no study to prove or disprove that millennials are less kind than others, but this is among the golden rules of life that millennials can live by. Be kind, always.
6. Love what you do and work hard
By 2025, 3 out of every 4 workers globally will be millennials, according to a report by Time magazine. Millennials want flexibility, training, and feedback over a high pay. But just like any other generation, they also want to be managers and leaders. According to a research by services firm Ernst & Young, 87% of millennials took on management roles over the last five years. This shows just how much millennials value their career.
No matter how millennials are changing the corporate landscape, the number one rule at work remains the same: work hard, even if others don’t. Find a job that you love, such as customer service jobs, that you can invest in. Work with all your heart and never shortchange your outputs.
7. Never stop learning
No, you don’t know everything, and stop telling yourself otherwise. It’s a good thing that millennials are passionate about learning and making themselves better. A research entitled “The Millennial Leadership Study,” found that a majority of millennials want to be coached and trained, and they acknowledge that being a leader requires the desire to keep learning.
The one thing that they want to improve on is their communication skills. According to the study, 58% of millennials think the most important leadership skill is communication.
8. Save up and invest
A study by the Investment Company Institute found that millennials are investing at a younger age compared to earlier generations. Yes, you deserve to treat yourself with new shoes or a new toy collection every now and then.
But be careful where you put your hard-earned money. Instead of thinking that you are spending money, think that you are spending hours of your life. It’s true, you earn by the hour. So next time you buy that bag you don’t really need, think how many hours you spent just be able to make that purchase. Save up and invest as early as possible.
9. Eat healthy and stay fit
Set a goal for how you want to look. For example, before you turn 35, get the body you want and maintain it. It’s really more than what you see on the surface. You need to be healthy to drive your kids to school, play basketball with your boys, travel, and live a happier life. You owe it to yourself to be comfortable in your own skin.
10. Go out there and travel more
Money, or lack thereof, is always the excuse for not traveling as much we’d like to. There’s also lack of time and work concerns. Please find the time and the resources to go out there and see the world. It doesn’t have to be a cruise along the Caribbean or a really expensive European tour. Just take a break from your routine, discover new places, and meet new people. You’ll never appreciate “home” as much as you would after going away.
“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” – Henry Miller
11. Take a break from social media
There’s a recent study by the Happiness Research Institute that says 88% of people that are not on Facebook lead happier lives. Every once in a while, disconnect yourself and get out of the virtual world. Go to a coffee shop that doesn’t have wi-fi and just talk to a friend.
12. Always be grateful
No matter how superficial (and humble bragging) #blessed is, it is the law of life to be always grateful. Whenever you are feeling low or when nothing seems to be going your way, focus on the things that you are thankful for such as family, friends, coffee, warm bath, or the unexpected cash in your jeans. Always be grateful. You owe it to yourself to make room for gratitude and happiness.
It always helps to see things from a different perspective. Life rules are there to keep you sane and make things less complicated. There are times when you feel like there’s too much on your plate and you can no longer keep up. Rules will help you become more positive and a proper perspective will make you happy again.
Which one of these life rules do you have the most trouble with and why?Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Author: Emily Harper
Source: Addicted to Success.
All of us dream of having a life that is impactful and forms a story that may one day be turned into a book or movie. The story of your life is made up of many elements that are also the fundamentals of success.
Unless your life is impactful, no one is ever going to care greatly about your story. Your story is owned by you, and only you can create and determine how much impact it will have. Ask yourself the question right now, does your life have a significant impact? If it doesn’t, then it’s time to change it.
It’s time for you to create something that everyone will remember you for. It’s time to turn that dream that you have always had into a reality. This all starts with a decision and often you need some major, painful event to trigger this desire.
Think about the emotions you would feel if the majority of people respected you and were inspired by you. You would be on top of the world, and your life would have meant something. Your name will forever live on, and generations of people will live their lives in dedication to what you stood for.
That sounds like a real vision, and that sounds like a common goal that we should all strive for.
Below are the six ways to make the story of your life impactful.
1. Do something outstanding
Life stories that have a major impact all involve someone doing something outstanding; something that no one thought was possible or that would ever be done. Have you done something outstanding already?
If you haven’t, that’s okay, but start thinking about what major task you could achieve that would be outstanding. Start thinking about what you’re great at or what you could be great at.
This first step is the most crucial and you need to decide on it before you proceed.
There are so many people that never realise that they need to do something outstanding, so just this realisation alone can be empowering in itself. Given the size of this task, it’s not going to happen overnight.
When you come to terms with what you are going to do, it will begin to manifest itself in your life. Doing something outstanding ties together passion, giving back, purpose, fulfillment, and many more success attributes that we have all heard before.
The fact that doing something outstanding covers so many of these attributes is the reason why you should dedicate your life to this one task. Once you achieve it, then you have the very rare task of doing it all over again with a new task.
2. Teach Others
Any great story involves some form of learning. Before you can teach other people something, though, you need to teach yourself first. I like to begin with lots of reading across a broad range of topics. This will give you the foundations of what you can teach others.
For me, what I want to teach other people is all about self-development, entrepreneurship and how to reach success. This is no easy task for me but I have devoted a large amount of time to it, and I can see progress every week now.
In the beginning, I didn’t see any progress but my mentors told me that eventually I would, and they were right. At the start, I was the student, but now I am becoming the teacher. Each day I get to teach people ideas I have learned myself and translate it into my own language.
Google has meant that education and information is easy to find, but the real task now is for someone to curate and translate the information.
It’s this translation of the learning I have done that allows me to create value. The language I speak in is unique, and the ideas are curated by my own mind. When you can begin to do the same thing, then you two can teach others (if you’re not already).
I recently got the opportunity to work with a graduate. Initially, I wasn’t that excited about the task, but as things progressed, I realised that I had the chance to completely shape his career, which in turn, would shape his life. Anyone can do this and even if it starts with just one graduate, you have the chance to begin to make an impact.
3. Share your story
Once you establish your story and start to create an impact, it’s time to share it with others. This doesn’t just mean that you share the good moments with some happy Instagram photos – there is much more to it.
The key to sharing your story is that it’s about being vulnerable, and sharing the negative moments and failures, and then balancing these out with the positive successes. As you share your story in this way, you will begin to compound the impact your story has on the world.
There are many ways to share your story and I have found the easiest way is online first. As you become more comfortable in sharing your story, you can then start sharing it through video, and then later in person.
With my own story, I am about to start sharing it on video, and then the next step will be through public speaking. I am happy to tell you though that I am not great at public speaking so expect to see me at a local Toastmasters shortly. If you are an expert in public speaking and can help, then feel free to reach out to me.
4. Live your dream at all costs
The only way your story will have any impact is if it is directly hardwired to your dream. You will need to move every obstacle out of the pathway of your life and agree to live this dream no matter what.
Even when all your close friends are out having dinner, there will be times when you will be required to not take the easy route, and not attend so that you can work on your dream. The temptation in these situations will be great which is why your own individual dream needs to be something you have thought about and truly care about.
Your dream is linked to your passion, and when you are in a state of mind where you are doing something you love, you experience high levels of happiness. Happiness then becomes a fuel for your mind, and you subconsciously start to create your story and make an impact without even thinking about it.
5. Show some emotion
To make the story of your life impactful, it needs to contain some emotion. Emotion is what draws people in, and it’s what makes it your story. When it comes to the story of your life, the word impact really just means emotion.
You can’t fake emotion in your own story. The more real and the rawer the emotion is, the more people will be drawn to it. If your story is full of made up elements, then people can spot the fakeness a mile away.
As I have said before, your pain becomes your success, and your success is often determined by the impact you are having. There is nothing like seeing someone give it all they have got and sharing every amount of emotion they have with you.
You get tingles down your spine; you feel unstoppable, and you want to spend more time with them. These are all things that our brains think about subconsciously all the time. If a thought pops into your head about something you are going to do, and you start thinking about what people will think of that action, just do it and don’t think twice.
The chances are that if that action is something that you are worried what others will say about it, it’s probably because it has some form of emotion attached to it that requires you to be vulnerable. It’s these actions that you should commit to doing if you want to have an impact.
6. Learn to control your mind
The one element you have 100% control over when it comes to the impact of your life story is your mind (assuming you learn to control it). This is no easy task and so many people never master this art. It requires you to study some basic elements of psychology and really understand yourself.
You need to work out what you love, what you hate, what motivates you and what stops you. If you practice this art form every single day, your brain becomes like a muscle and starts to grow. Your ability to make tough decisions becomes easier, and you’re drawn closer to your purpose.
“Once the human mind is understood and put to proper use, your impact can become more widespread. You can begin to move closer to the things that you care about most and stay clear of the things you have no interest in” – Tim Denning
The people who have controlled their mind the best usually go on to become leaders in their field. From Warren Buffett, to Tony Robbins to the Dalai Lama; all of them live their life at the highest level.
People from the outside will observe the way you control your mind and begin to be drawn to you because it’s such a rarity to have your mind under control and working for you, instead of against you.
Everything I have just mentioned starts with a decision: a decision to be great, a decision to be the example for others rather than let your life waste away to something that no one will remember.
Will you be the person who has the funeral that the whole world stops for, or the person whose funeral has less than twenty close family members there to see you off?
How are you going to make the story of your life impactful? Let me know in the comments section below.
Author: Tim Denning
Source: Addicted to Success
In a world where everyone is in a hurry to get everything done, the fine art of putting off until tomorrow what you can do today just doesn’t get enough respect. It’s true that being the first, the fastest, and the most productive can be a wonderful thing most of the time.
However, there are a few positive aspects to procrastination that can actually help you achieve and get important things done as well.[caption id="attachment_1585" align="alignnone" width="824"] Image Credit: http://www.businessinsider.in/[/caption]
Here are five useful tips for making conscious procrastination work to your advantage:
1. Choose which tasks to procrastinate with
Author of Wait, Frank Portnoy, defines procrastination as the art of managing delay. His take on procrastination is that everyone should use it to help achieve greater success by using a structured approach. You see, not every task or job should be given the same priority. Any task that is critical or necessary to your job or your well-being should be given a higher priority than tasks that are merely pastimes or time wasters.
The idea is that if you procrastinate by doing other high priority tasks, rather than allowing yourself to lounge in front of the Xbox all day playing Call of Duty, the net effect is that you are still getting important things done.
This novel approach to procrastinating actually makes it possible to be more productive than ever before. It also has the one very important added benefit: the nonessential and low priority tasks naturally go away because they keep getting put off until they are no longer necessary.
“Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.” – Victor Klam
2. Overloaded schedules must be prioritized
It is human nature to fill our schedules to the breaking point with every task imaginable. Everyone optimistically tends to overestimate how much they can get done when they are building a schedule.But if we are honest with ourselves, we can sort between those things that are non-negotiable and must be done and those things that are just wishful thinking – the stuff we would love to do if we had the time, but that won’t really matter if it doesn’t get done. You might be surprised to find out just how much of your schedule is filled with wishful thinking type of tasks.
3. Leaving it until the last minute can lead to better decisions
If you notice yourself putting off making a difficult decision, feel free to use this delay to do any necessary research. You can be sure that the new information you acquire will eventually help you to make a better decision. Moreover, the looming deadline will force you to stop any waffling or dithering which happens most often when you’ve got too much time on your hands to constantly second guess yourself.
Sometimes making a decision right before a deadline is the right thing to do – even if it seems rash or premature. Trust yourself and follow your instinct. If you feel that you’re not prepared to make the decision, do everything to delay it. If you approach the deadline with a clear and calm attitude, it doesn’t matter how long it took you to ponder upon the decision, you’ve simply made up your mind.
4. Procrastination can tell you about who you are
John Perry, the author of The Art of Procrastination: A Guide to Effective Dawdling, Lollygagging, and Postponingtells us that procrastination is often our subconscious’ way of sending us a message.
“If you’re a productive person,” according to Perry, “the desire to procrastinate on a task can mean that the task isn’t important or valuable to you. Pay attention to that and ask yourself if you should be doing it at all.”
What it essentially means is that you should never blindly push yourself to accomplish one task after the other. Perhaps sometimes sacrificing your time to things which you feel aren’t really worth the effort.
Listen to your instinct and if you find yourself procrastinating on a task, don’t get irritated, but consciously ask yourself where this feeling comes from. Perhaps it’s your mind’s way of telling you that what you are trying to do is worth neither your time nor your effort.
“Procrastination is the thief of time.” – Edward Young
5. Procrastination can make you more creative
For many people, thinking is a large part of procrastinating. This can be particularly helpful when given a task that at first seems too difficult for you to do. When this happens, the thinking you do while you are procrastinating can lead you to come up with better or more creative ways to finish the job.
Perry advises that, “If you go back through history of human culture and take away every invention that was made by someone who was supposed to be doing something else, I’m willing to bet there wouldn’t be a lot left.”
In short, don’t get angry or irritated at yourself for procrastinating. If your mind needs a breath of fresh air and a moment of relaxation, just succumb to it and you’ll learn that it’s simply worth it. Once your procrastination phase is over, you’ll emerge with an active and fresh mind, ready to tackle any problem in the most creative ways possible.
As you can see, if done consciously, procrastination might actually bring you great results in both your professional and your personal life, allowing you to learn, gain and do more. Just remember to be smart and focus on those tasks that can truly benefit you.
How do you use procrastination in a positive way? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Author: Simone Smith
Source: Addicted to Success.
Carl Jung or C.G .Jung was a psychiatrist and psychotherapist from Switzerland who was the founder of analytical psychology. Carl Jung was an early supporter of Freud because of their shared interest in the unconscious. He was an active member of the the Vienna Psychoanalytic Society.
Other major influences of Carl Jung consists of anthropology, religious studies, archaeology, philosophy, and literature.
Here are some of Carl Jung’s inspiring quotes!
1. “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Jung
2. “We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.” – Carl Jung
3. “There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” – Carl Jung
4. “The debt we owe to the play of imagination is incalculable.” – Carl Jung
5. “Knowledge rests not upon truth alone, but upon error also.” – Carl Jung
6. “Often the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain.” – Carl Jung
7. “It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves.” – Carl Jung
8. “Great talents are the most lovely and often the most dangerous fruits on the tree of humanity. They hang upon the most slender twigs that are easily snapped off.” – Carl Jung
9. “A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.” – Carl Jung
10. “An understanding heart is everything in a teacher, and cannot be esteemed highly enough. One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feeling. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.” – Carl Jung
11. “Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.” – Carl Jung
12. “The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the objects it loves.” – Carl Jung
13. “Shame is a soul eating emotion.” – Carl Jung
14. “The rational attitude which permits us to declare objective values as valid at all is not the work of the individual subject, but the product of human history.” – Carl Jung
15. “Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” – Carl Jung
16. “The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life than the greatest of things without it.” – Carl Jung
17. “To ask the right question is already half the solution of a problem.” – Carl Jung
18. “I have always been impressed by the fact that there are a surprising number of individuals who never use their minds if they can avoid it, and an equal number who do use their minds, but in an amazingly stupid way.” – Carl Jung
19. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
20. “Creative powers can just as easily turn out to be destructive. It rests solely with the moral personality.” – Carl Jung
21. “whether they apply themselves to good things or to bad. And if this is lacking, no teacher can supply it or take its place.” – Carl Jung
22. “That which compels us to create a substitute for ourselves is not the external lack of objects, but our incapacity to lovingly include a thing outside of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
23. “A dream that is not understood remains a mere occurrence; understood it becomes a living experience.” – Carl Jung
24. “A special ability means a heavy expenditure of energy in a particular direction, with a consequent drain from some other side of life.” – Carl Jung
25. “We should not pretend to understand the world only by the intellect; we apprehend it just as much by feeling. Therefore, the judgment of the intellect is, at best, only the half of truth, and must, if it be honest, also come to an understanding of its inadequacy.” – Carl Jung
26. “If a man knows more than others, he becomes lonely.” – Carl Jung
27. “I regret many follies which sprang from my obstinacy; but without that trait I would not have reached my goal.” – Carl Jung