We need at least one friend who understand what we do not say.
– Dr. Sunwolf
Most people fail to achieve their desired outcome, not because they lack the ability to do so, but rather because they are short on the fortitude to remain intentional in their given pursuit or endeavor.
Being intentional is really as simple as having a clear idea of what you want to accomplish, really knowing why you have deemed it worth your time and effort, and identifying what steps you’re going to take each day that will ultimately move you closer to where you want your life to go. If it sounds simple, that’s because it is.Don’t mistake simple for easy though. It will take effort. And that’s a good thing really, because as you move through the day to day tasks you’re going to be motivated along the way by everything you overcome that’s moving you closer to your intended destination. Simply put, when things are too easy — it’s very easy to become bored and end up not doing those day to day activities which are required to get us to the pinnacle of accomplishment that we are after.
Without a plan, without intentionality, we are like a ship at sea, floating aimlessly, waiting for the waves to move us whichever way they see fit to do so. That’s a pretty grim description isn’t it? Fortunately it doesn’t have to be your reality so long as you are willing to be an active participant in your own success journey.
So that I’m not just spouting off a bunch of theory here for you I’ll share some practical ideas you can put into practice in your daily routine. If you will put them to use you’ll join those that go from wishing things were better, to a person who understands that they have in them the ability to do what’s required to create positive changes in their own lives.
Here are the 6 Steps for Living Intentionally Each Day:
1. Begin each day in gratitude
This one may sound a little rah-rah to you, but it can really make a big difference with regards to how our overall day goes. Beginning each day from a place of gratitude has many benefits. Not the least of which is that we are forced to realize that there are good things happening in our lives. No matter how hectic things might appear, we do in fact have things to be grateful for. That in and of itself can make a big difference when facing the day ahead.
I like to think of it as rebalancing the things that are happening in my life. When we reconnect with the many reasons we have to be grateful, we inevitably come to realize that we have much to be thankful for. Just as we met with success in the past, so too can we expect to overcome whatever current hurdles we might be facing. It really is a great way to set the tone for your day.
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” – Willie Nelson
2. Get some exercise
I’m not suggesting marathons or even anything heavy duty here (unless that’s your thing). As for me, I have found that going for a walk or jog shortly after waking up does wonders and literally pays dividends throughout my entire day. I used to put my earbuds in and listen to music or catch up on podcasts. I still do that sometimes, but recently I’ve begun splitting my exercise time, using the first part to enjoy silence and the second part to listen to some music or a podcast (i.e. learning time).
I find that starting out in silence allows all the thoughts that are running through my mind to germinate and work themselves out. I also like to use that time to strategize my day ahead, or projects I have to work on. I do keep a pad or use the note taking app on my phone to write the important thoughts that come to mind for later recall. Needless to say you want to consult with your doctor before taking on any exercise routine, but assuming you’re able this is one thing that can really be helpful.
This really is a terrific way to reconnect with what success means to you. As I said before, it’s important that you have a clear definition of what achievement looks like to you. It would amaze you just how many people run through their daily lives never fully celebrating their accomplishments along the way. One of the surest ways to avoid that is to track your day to day progress and have a mechanism for tracking your progress. Your journal allows you to do just that.
4. Write down your daily To Do/Actions List
Prioritize the things that when completed will give you the greatest results and outcome. Remember that not all things are created equal when it comes to achievement. For example, let’s say your position in the company or business you work in requires you to do both administrative related tasks, as well as generating revenue, or calling on clients to make sales.
Certainly, it would be important to accomplish everything that was required of you, but you would do well to give the income producing activities priority in just about every instance. To give another example, in my business it would be very easy to get caught up in the day to day tasks that pop up. While things like checking email, replying to requests, editing contributed articles and such are important, and need completing.
It’s much more important that I give priority to activities such as personal writing, scheduling newsletter issues to go out, making contacts with industry colleagues, and working with consulting clients. In short, I don’t neglect the less important items I identify that need doing, I just prioritize things by level of importanceand am careful to delegate the things others can do. Look for opportunities to do the same in your life and you are sure to benefit as a result.
5. Make time for learning
Be intentional (there’s that pesky word again!) about learning and improving your skillsets. We are either learning and open to new things or we’re getting stagnant. I’m not saying you have to fill your mind with worthless facts about things which hold no interest to you. What I’m suggesting is that you commit tolearning something new in your given profession, or an area you’re passionate about. Doing this on a consistent basis can move you into expert territory which can open up all sorts of new life opportunities. Plus, you get to grow your knowledge along the way.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
6. Review your daily progress and rewrite the next day’s To Do / Actions List
This really speaks for itself. It’s one thing to identify what needs to be done, and why, but unless you keep those things front and center as a reminder it will be too easy to get sidetracked. I’m big on the saying, “what gets our attention, gets done, more often than not.”
Remember that being intentional really gets down to making the decision to live your life with the realization that you have the choice to either live in reactionary mode, that is, reacting to things that life throws your way, or you can follow the steps shared above and lead an intentional life.
One that you plan out, take the necessary actions on, adjust to as needed, and ultimately feel a heck of a lot more accomplished for having made the decision to live your life in this way.
Remember, it’s your life, LIVE BIG! Thank you for reading my article!
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I’m not talking about being curious about how fast a car goes on a crowded street, I’m talking about turning your mediocre existence into a stimulating lifestyle.
Being curious means that you are involved in the world around you. It means that you get the most out of life. It’s curiously powerful.
Most new discoveries in life came from someone wanting to know more. Our greatest inventions and groundbreaking cures all come from taking that one extra look into something new, and trying something different because you just want to know if it will work.
So don’t sit idly by as the world around you is waiting to be explored. Tap into your inner child and reignite that desire to explore every corner and turn over every stone.
Here are 5 ways curiosity can save your life by helping you to live it to the fullest:
1. It helps maintain an active and healthy brain
Curious people are always the ones asking questions and searching for solutions. Their minds never rest. The brain is a muscle that can only become stronger when it is being used on a daily basis. By exploring and challenging ideas, you are building one mean fighting machine of a brain.
“I could not, at any age, be content to take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
2. It strengthens your relationships
Being curious about people and the world around you can make your social life blossom. Think about a typical conversation. A person can tell you something, but then typically, you’ll ask more questions to help expand on the topic. That’s curiosity working for you. When you’re able to show interest in another person, they enjoy spending time with you. No one likes talking to the guy who spaces out.
3. It allows you to have new ideas
When you become curious about something, your mind can begin to formulate new ideas around it. Curiosityhelps the mind recognize and focus on new ideas so that you can expand on them. If Thomas Edison lacked curiosity, he never would have been one of the greatest inventors of all time. That light bulb never would have gone off. That’s a dark thought.
4. It creates opportunities
By being curious, you will be able to see a lot of opportunities you may not have been able to see before. There is so much hidden to the naked eye. So much that we have to explore in order to truly see and get a sense of. It takes a curious mind to look beneath the surface and discover these possibilities.
5. It builds excitement
Curious people lead lives that are far from boring. Always remaining curious means your time is never spent being dull. There are always new things that attract curious minds. Instead of being bored, curious people have an adventurous life. Who wouldn’t want to be adventurous?
“If you really want to succeed, you’ll have to go for it every day like I do. The big time isn’t for slackers. Keep up your mental stamina and remain curious. I think that bored people are unintelligent people.” – Donald Trump
So by now you must be thinking, “I’m not sure if I’m curious enough. How do I become more of a curious person?” I’m glad you asked. Because that means you’re curious.
Here are a few quick tips to help you tap into your creativity even more:
- Be open-minded: You cannot learn if you are not willing to.
- Appreciate everything: Try to dig deeper beneath the surface of what is around you.
- Never stop asking questions: A sure way to dig deeper beneath the surface is by asking questions: Who, what, when, where, and how.
- Never consider something boring: Curious people see fun in everything.
- Read more: Reading introduces you to different worlds you may not otherwise spend time in.
Thank you for reading my article! Stay curious and never give up!
When was the last time you spent a day or two being the victim? Was it that you wanted something, and it just didn’t go your way or did someone hurt your feelings?
If that’s you, do not even start feeling bad about it. We are all guilty of playing the victim at some point in our lives.
You like most of us react the same way when our feelings get hurt. You feel insulted, disrespected, abandoned, humiliated just to name a few of the emotions you experience.
You are human, and human beings will feel those emotions but how long do they last? Do you hang on to these emotions for lengthy periods of time? Do you tend to wallow in self-pity for days? Do you think the whole world is against you? Or Do you get yourself together, realize that you made a mistake and that some things are just not under your control and immediately start working to change your future?
“Learn from your past but don’t live in it.” – Steve Maraboli
I hope you choose the latter and work on making positive changes in your life. If you don’t, I have included a few of the tips that I used to become unstuck.
Here are 12 ways to become the victor and not the victim:
1. Recognize the self-loathing stage
When you start thinking that bad things only happen to you, and you are asking yourself why me, then you are in the self-loathing stage.
Change your mindset immediately. Instead of asking yourself those questions, start thinking about what you can do to turn things around. Thoughts like those only make you feel worse about yourself. Remember you will have to fix the situation if you want to make things right, so it is better to do so immediately than to spend time attacking yourself.
Refocus your mind on things that will take you from that low. Think about the things that make you a wonderful human being. Listen to motivational speakers, read positive quotes or find something to do that will take your mind away from your problems.
2. Recognize when you start looking back at the past with regrets
When you begin to focus on the past with regrets, it means you are heading down the wrong path. Grieve for your mistakes and bury them.
You must realize that the past is behind you and never can be retrieved so you must move forward. Looking back will only delay your progress. The past is in the past for a reason, either you must continue to grow, or you need to change your focus. Dwelling on your past mistakes and feeling down and depressed will only increase your suffering and ruin your chances for future successes.
Use the mistakes of the past, not only as a reminder never to go back, but also to see how far you have come. You are over your past at this stage so applaud yourself for moving ahead. You are now stronger and wiser because of those mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Your mistakes are not who you are as a person. Separate yourself from the things you did.
3. Recognize when you are comparing your achievements to others
When you start comparing yourself to others, you view as better off you are playing the victim.
First you have to know who you are as a person. There is no one else like you on this earth, and there will never be. Even if you imitate everything they do, you will never be them, and you must accept that. Start accepting who you are and work on appreciating your gifts. Why would you want to live someone else’s life when you have yours to live?
You will never be happy being someone else so accept yourself and love who you are. Work on building your dreams and achieving your goals. Work to become the best version of yourself.
4. You aren’t happy with your success
When you start looking at your achievements and not seeing much, you are feeling sorry for yourself.
You must start celebrating your achievements no matter how small and insignificant they may seem to you. Someone else would love to be in your shoes. Do not diminish all the things you have achieved thus far as this will prevent you from appreciating anything else in the future. Be happy where you are in your life and celebrate what you have. That is exactly where you should be. Keep working harder to get where you want but in the meantime celebrate your achievements.
Happiness is a choice so choose to be happy. Work hard to achieve your goals, but choose to remain happy while doing so. Don’t delay your happiness to achieve material things because they won’t make you happy.
5. You are becoming withdrawn
If you weren’t someone who liked staying away from others and you find yourself suddenly wanting to be by yourself, then you are playing the victim.
Never abandon the relationships you have and become withdrawn when you are feeling sad. You may be sad and disappointed but remember, we all at different stages of our lives, have been disappointed and heartbroken. Abandoning your friends and family will only make things harder for you.
Make the effort to hang around positive people who will encourage and motivate you. Stay amongst people who know and support you. The ones who see the greatness in you and will encourage you.
6. You start placing blame
When you start blaming someone or something for the state you are in, then you are becoming the victim.
You must realize that you are solely responsible for your life and your achievements. It is no one else’s job to give you the life you want. Blaming others for the position you find yourself in will only prevent you from improving. You must accept responsibility for your life.
Desist from blaming others and work to find solutions to your problems. Blaming others will only create distance between you and others who could help you. Remember you cannot do it alone and placing the blame will only keep people away from you.
Accept that you have erred and work to improve your future. Remember whatever you want, you can achieve if you are prepared to work hard enough. You have your whole life ahead of you to make up for all your mistakes.
“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless.” – Byron Katie
7. You see yourself as a failure
When you start seeing yourself as a failure then you know you are wallowing in being the victim.
You can never be a failure as long as you are prepared to keep fighting. You will sometimes fail like most of us have, but you must realize that failing at something doesn’t mean the end. It might simply mean you need to pause, change your strategy or work harder.
Never think of yourself as a failure because things didn’t work out this time. Keep doing it until you get it right. Remember you only fail when you give up.
8. You are not able to forgive
If you are not able to forgive all those who have hurt or harmed you including yourself, then you are in a victim mentality state.
You must be prepared to forgive those who have caused you harm not for them, but yourself. Most of the people who have done things to you might not even be aware they have caused you pain and even if they are aware, do not care. Letting go of the hurt and pain does more good for you than anyone else.
You must also forgive yourself in the process for allowing others to hurt you. You have given them your power and they have used it to hurt you. You need also to forgive yourself for your past mistakes.
When you forgive, you are giving yourself permission to be free. You are allowing yourself the freedom to grow and succeed. You are allowing yourself to live life to the fullest.
9. You have become angry and bitter
If you find that you are becoming angry and bitter, it means you are still in your victim mentality state.
No matter what happens in your life, you must make a conscious effort never to allow these things to make you angry or bitter. You will be the one to suffer because of it. You won’t enjoy life, relationships or your successes, as you will be too angry and bitter to appreciate the good things in your life.
Life knocks us all down sometimes, but you must understand that is life. You are no different nor are you special when it comes to pain, disappointment and hurt. We all have to go through hardship.
10. You stop caring about your appearance
If you find that you are no longer taking care of yourself, then you are in a self-destructive mode.
Your appearance is very important when you are going through difficult times. You cannot afford to let yourself go. Take care of yourself for you.
Find a gym or dance class if you like indoor activities and if you are more of an outdoors person start jogging or doing other outdoor activities. Choose clothes that fit properly and try not to become an emotional eater. You must make an effort to eat well. Remember you are special and that will not change because you are going through a difficult time. You will remain special through life’s ups and downs.
11. When you take rejections hard
If you find it very difficult to take rejections, it means you consider yourself a victim.
Nobody likes being rejected, but when you find that you take it too personal, then you are allowing the rejection to be who you are. A person might reject you not because they have issues with you, but because they are having problems of their own. People will critique you based on their perception of themselves. Many times that has nothing to do with you and who you are.
You must be able to differentiate between someone critiquing your work and criticizing you. You must also be able to take rejection for what it is.
“I am not a victim. No matter what I have been through, I’m still here. I have a history of victory.” – Steve Maraboli
12. You are no longer taking risks
When you find that you are no longer willing to take the necessary risks to succeed, it means you see yourself as a victim.
To succeed, you must be prepared to take the risk that will enable you to succeed. Without risk, you will not be rewarded. You cannot be afraid or lack confidence in your abilities that you are no longer willing to take the steps to achieve your goals.
Resist becoming a victim of any kind. You must understand that you are special and being a victim will only rob you of the chance to succeed.
Take care of yourself and those you love. Forgive those around you who haven’t been so kind and most of all forgive you.You do not have to become a victim ever in your life if you are prepared to remain the victor.The fact that you are still alive means you have already won. You are a victor and will forever be one so start accepting who you are.
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Fear can be crippling and is the Achilles heel of many would be success stories, if only they could just submit to their abilities. Unfortunately for many, the overwhelming feeling of stepping outside their comfort zone is just too much to bear.
The truth is we all have 24 hours in the day, and we all have opportunities. I am not going to say outside factors cannot affect your chances in life, because collectively research shows if you grow up with negative role models, in a negative environment, you are a lot less likely to be successful.
However just because you are 5 feet tall doesn’t mean you can’t play basketball (this is the true story of the smallest basketball player ever, Tyrone Bogues)
If you can get comfortable with being uncomfortable then half the battle is won!
Here are 5 tips for facing your fears:
1. Do it anyway
I am going to let you in on a little secret, we are all scared. It’s fight or flight in many situations. Some choose to run away and stay in comfort, while others choose to feel the fear and keep on moving forward.
Some of the most historic moments in history are a result of scared men, women and children with their hearts racing, their palms sweating and their adrenaline pumping saying “I’m going to do it anyway.”
Sometimes it’s better to fail at something big, than to never try. So next time you are faced with a challenge, think of your biggest role model and their biggest accomplishment and tell yourself that they felt like this when they accomplished it. The difference; they just did it anyway!
“He who is not every day conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
2. Weigh up the options
In all honesty, sometimes facing your fears will not serve you. Weigh up the options at hand and see if you should proceed.
If you are scared of snakes, but live in London, maybe it wouldn’t make much sense to seek out a 12 foot anaconda just so you can process your irrational fear that you have had since childhood.
However that is only a decision you can make, so weigh up your options and face the fears that are going to wield the best results for your life!
3. Process your fears
Are your fears rational or irrational?
If you are scared of leaving your job and life and investing your savings into living on a desert island, with no future income, no previous survival skills and you will be surrounded by pit vipers and panthers. You can probably file that in the rational fears section.
On the other hand if you are scared of balloons you can put that in the irrational fears section.
If you want success in your life you have to be able to put things into perspective. Examples of irrational fears could be like making trivial phone calls, connecting with people who have similar interests or putting yourself out there in your business. These types of things need to be turned into a habit and just become part of your day to day routine.
Some of the more complex decisions which bring up perfectly normal rational fears that need to be thought through a little more, but make sure you don’t put them off just because you are afraid!
4. Visualise accomplishing your fears
Different things produce different feelings in different people. Even if it’s just little irrational things that fill you with anxiety. Don’t worry you can face it!
One great way to overcome fear is to visualise. Imagine yourself doing it before you do it, and make a deal with yourself that after you have visualised it, you will actually make it happen.
There is a reason why successful people visualise; IT WORKS! so next time you are stuck, take 5 minutes, shut your eyes and imagine yourself completing your task successfully. Then do it!
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela
5. Go on a fear facing spree
This one is not for the faint hearted and only the true personal development bad asses can live up to this challenge, it really comes down to if you are man, woman or child enough to do it!
You need to make 2 lists- Irrational fears and rational fears. You get your list of irrational fears and you tick them off one by one until the whole list is complete.
Your rational fears, you think them through and the ones that make sense to do you go right ahead and do them!
Take as long as you need to do this, but don’t drag it out and take longer than is needed. Get your momentum going and get ticking and soon you will have faced your list of fears!
Life is scary at times, but sometimes you just need to macho up and get yourself back on track! So face a fear today even if it is a small one to get your momentum going!