Till now everyone had talked about “What distinguish a successful man from others”, “What do they posses” and “what qualities they have”. This time, let’s take a look at 5 habits that are prevalent among unsuccessful people for now, and you’ll have a chance to add your own suggestions at the bottom of this page.
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When something bad happens to an person who is unsuccessful, it’s almost never their fault. Do you ever find yourself blaming someone else when something doesn’t go your way? Maybe it’s So and so’s fault for not fixing the printer on time, or Such and Such’s fault that they forgot to warm you about a traffic jam on the way to work. You can’t control everyone, and other people are going to make mistakes that are going to affect you, it’s just bound to happen, so deal with it and accept responsibility when you fall short rather than thinking of ways to put that blame onto someone else.
They find it easy to procrastinate.
An unsuccessful person is unhappy with where they are in life, yet they don’t take any steps towards improving their position. Distractions and procrastination are the name of the game when you’re an unsuccessful person. Games, TV, movies, they’re all keeping you from reaching your goals. If you dream of starting a business but you already work 8 hours a day, you’re obviously going to have to cut into your free time – that’s just the price you have to pay for success. If it was easy, everyone would do it.
They always feel entitled.
Why should an unsuccessful person have to work harder than anybody else? You’ll often find them complaining about celebrities and rich people who don’t deserve what they have because they didn’t earn it, yet the unsuccessful person feels entitled to everything they want without having to work for it. Quite a paradox. Entitlement is a very unattractive trait to possess, although most people in developed nations feel at least some degree of entitlement.
They beliefs are based on an incorrect interpretation of reality.
The unsuccessful person will hide behind cloak of delusion rather than being honest with themselves about their situation. It can be very challenging to face reality, especially when one has built themselves up so much in their own head. It’s a lot easier to convince yourself that you’re doing better than you are than it is to actually put in the effort to make a change. The brain is a very tricky thing, and it will often work against you. In this case, the brain tries to protect you from feeling upset or disappointed in yourself by telling you that you’re doing just fine – even if you aren’t where you want to be.
They can’t relate to this list.
If you can relate to any of the aforementioned traits, congratulations – you’re human. Nobody is perfect, and even wildly successful people will see parts of themselves on this list. Most people will be able to relate to these traits at least a little bit, but having the self-awareness to recognize your flaws is a step in the right direction. It’s a lot easier to get over procrastination and entitlement than it is to accept full responsibility for your situation and overcome delusion, but the sooner you’re able to take steps towards working on these things, the sooner you’ll be living the life you want.
I started in the business world when I left the Marines in 1968. Since then I’ve learned a lot. Here are three things I wish I had learned sooner.
How to Balance People’s Concerns and Productivity.
The Marines taught me that a leader’s job is to accomplish the mission and care for the people. I got that. What I had to learn was how to do it.
Most of us naturally gravitate to one or the other: people or productivity. For me, it’s productivity. I’ll pay attention to helping the team be productive naturally. But I had to work at giving time and attention to the people and relationships. That’s still a challenge today.
I’ve learned that I need reminders and checklists and developed habits to help me give enough attention to relationships. My advice: figure out which you do naturally and develop systems so you do the other well. I wish I’d learned that sooner.
The Importance of Sleep and Recovery Time.
I’ve been blessed with a strong constitution and relatively high energy levels. I was able to get the job done even when I was tired. I thought that because I could get by on very little rest and sleep, that it was it a good idea. It wasn’t.
I learned that I do more good work more easily when I’m fit and getting enough rest. I learned that it’s a good idea to allow time for recovery after a period of intense work. My advice: get enough sleep and allow time to recover after an intense period of work. I wish I’d learned that sooner.
How to Keep Routine Things from Becoming Emergencies.
I’m good at paying attention to “the important stuff.” But, I often did that by letting routine things slide. Bad idea. For years there were cycles where I let routine things go until they turned into a crisis.
I learned that it’s important to get the routine things done routinely. My advice: set up systems so you do all those recurring and routine things on a regular basis. You can let them slip a little, but not much. I wish I’d learned that sooner.
Now It’s Your Turn
What things have you learned in your life that you wish you had learned sooner?