Finding someone who is compatible as a mentor or coach can take some time. Don’t overthink it and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t immediately find someone. In terms of actually starting, begin with your online and offline networks.
Ask around – ask those who have mentored and ask those who have been mentored.
Write lists – write down the characteristics and personality type of your ideal mentor.
Attend events – go to events that host people of all ages and business backgrounds.
Get manifesting – start visualizing the mentor you want and stop at nothing until you find him/her.
On an additional note, if you have the means to hire a paid business or results coach (which every professional should do), there are many paid business-coaching services such as Tony Robbins’ Business Mastery, T. Harv Eker Millionaire Mind Intensive Coaching, and etc.
The most important thing about all mentoring is to pay it forward. And allow me to debunk the myth that you are too young to be a mentor for someone else. Paying it forward isn’t about getting things perfect before you can become a guide for someone else. Paying it forward is about giving the best of yourself with what you have right now.
There is a quote that says something along the lines of:
“Always keep moving forward because you never know who you may be inspiring.”
So when it comes to approaching your possible mentor, remember to start from the value-based stance of, “how can I add value to them?” Or if you don’t feel as if you have much to offer, “how can I make our sessions together as easy & efficient as possible?”
The worst thing that can happen is that they say no because they are too busy, but most of the time they will point you in the direction of someone else just as equipped to lead, guide and work with you.
There’s bad news and there’s good news about the entrepreneurial journey.
The bad news: the road is hard, it’s difficult and sometimes, you will want to give up (actually – a lot of the time). The good news: taking control of your future and your dreams is more doable than ever before.
According to a study for the Washington Post by Jena McGregor, only 13% of all people worldwide enjoy going to work and based on simple math of 40 hours a week for 40 years of work (with some overtime thrown in there), most people are projected to spend an average of 90,000 hours of their lives doing work that they don’t care much about.
As millennials and beyond, we are unlike any generations before. We are the change-makers, the rule-breakers, the misfits and the crazy ones.
For the first time in history, 61% of the emerging generation of workers feels personally responsible to make a difference in the world and leave a lasting impact (Nelson). That means that it is becoming less and less acceptable to show up to work simply for a paycheck. Even for the individuals who choose not to pursue entrepreneurial endeavors, they are still looking for more purposeful work than ever before, which is why conscious capitalism, for-benefit organizations and enterprises are on the rise.
In today’s evolved economy – if you have big goals, you do not have to wait to bring them to life. There are more resources, tools, tips and hacks than ever before to help you bring a goal to fruition. But even with that said, some of the oldest and most effective steps for making this happen are commonly overlooked. A few years ago, I left my comfortable corporate job in pursuit of my own entrepreneurial endeavors and just a few years later, I was able to become a #1 best-selling author & full-time entrepreneur.
But it has not happened all because of me.
The truth is: a lot of people played a pivotal role in my journey over the last few years and most importantly, it’s happened because I was taught to follow these 3 simple, but very effective steps:
1. Discover Your Passion(s)…Now
How will you know where you want to go if you first don’t know what you truly like and love? This is something I always think about when university students and young professionals talk to me about the grand plans they have for the rest of their lives.
Just one year prior to entering college, most university students still needed to raise their hands and ask for permission to use the bathroom. So, why are we expected to know what we want to do with the rest of our lives at such a young age?
Let’s take a few steps back and make it simpler.
Find what you love and don’t stop till you discover it. It’s that simple. You can have a full-time job and still have a part-time hustle or search for your passions. With technology allowing almost anything to be at our fingertips, there should be no excuses for not trying new things over and over and over again.
With over 1.4 million iOS and 1.5 million android apps being available for download, minus the fart and belch gags, there are many resources to help individuals discover something they like, which can turn into something they truly love.
With online forums with accompanying offline groups such as MeetUp, Eventbrite or Peoplehunt, it is becoming easier than ever before to try new things.
In your community, your spiritual centers and sports clubs, there are generally notice boards everywhere with postings of different events and opportunities to learn or experience something new.
If you are someone who needs a creative way to discover (or re-discover) your passions, I recommend checking out my social project, Dreams Matter, which focuses on getting individuals to ask better questions in order to get better answers for their lives and passions. On the other hand, if you are looking for a great resource to help you to determine more of your professional skills, I recommend the StrengthsFinder test by Gallup.
The truth about discovering your passions is that the ideas that come from them must also be practical and monetizable if you want to leave your 9-5. You must have viable ideas and you must have a market or an audience who is willing and ready to pay for your products or services, which are linked to your passions.
Without a solid strategy, you will not make any money. And without passion, you will most likely give up. Steve Jobs was once quoted for saying:
“I’m convinced that about half of what separates successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance.”
Perseverance comes from having an invested passion into what you are doing. As an entrepreneur, you will not have much time to feel sorry for yourself. Besides, your audience, customers, clients, family and friends will be able to see right through the sheer veil if you are not congruent.
When you decide on an idea, become very committed to it. Research the best strategy given your circumstances, and stick to your plan. You will be the most successful when you are laser-focused and not easily distracted by the hurdles that come your way…because they will come. Just remember that you have the power to get through anything.
2. Get a Mentor…Now
During my high school years on the south side of Chicago, I was part of a scholastic sponsorship program that used the motto:
“Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, but you teach a man to fish, and he will eat for a lifetime.”
When I first heard these words at the age of 13, I did not fully grasp the meaning of such a powerful phrase. But over time, I began to understand that “teaching someone to fish” is a transferrable metaphor for anything in life.
It comes down to having mentors and guides in life to help us navigate the roads and tides that have been traversed before. Over time, the idea of ‘not re-inventing the wheel’ started to make more and more sense. Why struggle at doing something on our own when literally dozens and dozens of 1,000s of people have probably failed (and some, succeeded) at it before?
Generally, we think that only successful people can teach us meaningful lessons about moving forward, but there is already great success in knowing what not to do – from learning from the failures of another individual.
Michael Jordan, the greatest of all time to play the game of basketball, was once quoted that he is so successful because he has failed over and over again in his life. With his blocking, he had a mentor. With his shooting, he had a mentor. With his crossovers, he had a mentor. With almost every mechanic of his physical game, MJ had a mentor (or a coach, for the lack of better words).
Mentors or business/results coaches are some of the most valuable resources that every entrepreneur and individual can tap into. Today, finding a mentor is becoming easier because more individuals are becoming interested in bartering talents and genius, regardless of age. Take the Internet for example, by 2020 – as many as 5 Billion people will be connected through the interwebs. When we look at the baby boomers’ sector – it becomes apparent that our generation has something to offer them and vice versa.
It’s the idea of adding equal value.
3. Find Your Tribe…Now
There are so many sayings and quotes that come to mind when I think about finding a supportive network:
- You become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
- Only spend time with those who lift you higher.
- The Law of Success is in part based on your ability to apply the law of the ‘Master Mind.’
Indeed, there are so many juicy reasons and emphasizers as to why it is so important to surround yourself with like-minded individuals, who are going to help you progress on your journey.
In his best-selling book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill speaks about the law of the ‘Master Mind,’ as offering a combination of mind-mapping, educating, accountability and peer-support in a group setting, which allows each individual to sharpen their business and personal skills.
I have personally been a part of masterminds for the last 5 years and while I think they are great, I think they can be more effective.
Enter the Tribe
Where masterminds fail, tribes prevail and thrive. The idea of my specific meaning of a ‘tribe’ dates back to the time of the Indigenous Indian tribes when the goal was not only to survive, but also to pass on the lessons and teachings from one generation to the next (remember when we spoke about mentors earlier?) It was not only a tribe’s desire to provide support and pass on lessons – it was their duty.
A few weeks ago, as I sat with a few people from my tribe, a great friend of mine, Ben, said something that I will never forget. In his toast to all our mutual friends, he simply said: “the great thing about each and every one of us is that while we are helping each other succeed with our goals, the thing we want most for each other is simply to have a good life. It’s that simple.”
That’s where Finding Your Tribe is different than just finding a network of individuals who is going to help you get what you want. In your tribe, you will find people telling you the truth even when it hurts.
You will find some of the funniest and most fun days of your life. And most importantly, you will find what it means to have true friends that not only care about you succeeding in business, but that also care that you simply have a good life.
So how do you find your tribe?
Your tribe consists of the people that resonate with the ideal version of yourself. So as you start looking for your tribe, think about the kind of person you want to be.
Imagine: what do you look like when you are at your best physically, intellectually, in your job, and in your personal life? What kind of character do you have? Whose character do you admire a lot? Most importantly, how do you want to feel?
Finding your tribe will come down to what field you are in, what’s most important to you, and perhaps, where you live in the world. These are a few places I’ve called home over the last few years: Awesomeness Fest, TEDx, Burning Man and Summit Series.
You don’t have to join any of these tribes although you can if you want. There are hundreds of other groups and clubs you can look into to help you find a tribe that best suits you. Start talking to others and begin searching the web for tribes with which you can get involved today.
Look for people who share interests with you, who work in your industry, or who have similar values. Ask them who their tribes are and how they got together.
You will know when you find your tribe because you will discover all the things that are more important than just succeeding at business ie. – helping others discover their passions, paying it forward and mentoring others and finally, creating tribes that help other individuals live extraordinary lives.
Today, making your biggest dreams come true is more doable than ever before because we have so many resources available to us. I hope you have the courage to discover them, use them well and pay it forward.
What are you waiting for? Get started…now!
There are days when getting up early is so difficult to do. Even if you have been in the game for quite sometime staying inspired to produce results all the time seems impossible to achieve.
Some people feel stuck doing their job because of various circumstances. Sadly, those who are unmotivated in their business end up slacking off and not delivering their best performance on their projects.
To prevent you from being idle or discouraged, be reminded of Confucius’ words:
“Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
If this message is not enough to get you on your feet, here’s a collection of powerful quotes from great minds that will help you maximize your daily potential.
20 Inspirational Quotes To Maximize Your Potential
1. “It’s not what you achieve, it’s what you overcome. That’s what defines your career.” –Carlton Fisk
2. “Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.” – Robert H. Schuller
3. “Think big and don’t listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. Life’s too short to think small.” – Tim Ferriss
4. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” – Maya Angelou
5. “If you don’t build your dream. Someone will hire you to help build theirs.” – Tony Gaskins
6. “Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” – Christian D. Larson
7. “If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” – Nora Roberts
8. “No man can succeed in a line of endeavor which he does not like.” – Napoleon Hill
9. “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” – Vince Lombardi
10. “You never stop earning when you do what you love.” – Asha Tyson
11. “Communication–the human connection–is the key to personal and career success.” – Paul J. Meyer
12. “What is the recipe for successful achievement? To my mind there are just four essential ingredients: Choose a career you love, give it the best there is in you, seize your opportunities, and be a member of the team.” – Benjamin F. Fairless
13. “I think everyone should experience defeat at least once during their career. You learn a lot from it.” – Lou Holtz
14. “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain
15. “Don’t set compensation as a goal. Find work you like, and the compensation will follow.” – Harding Lawrence
16. “Great work is done by people who are not afraid to be great.” – Fernando Flores
17. “The only way to get people to like working hard is to motivate them. Today, people must understand why they’re working hard. Every individual in an organization is motivated by something different.” – Rick Pitino
18. “Find out what you like doing best and get someone to pay you for doing it.” – Katherine Whitehorn
19. “The only person you are destined become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
20. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
Which one of these career quotes struck you the most? Share your favorite in the comments below.