“If you can change your mind, you can change your life.
What you believe creates the actual fact.
The greatest revolution of my generation is to discover that
Individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change
the outer aspects of their lives.”
– William James
Transform self-sabotage into success. By discovering the positive intent behind a negative behavior or attitude,
you can release tremendous energy and positive commitment. In his outstanding book Sleight Of Mouth:
The Magic Of Conversational Belief Change, master trainer and famous NLP developer Robert Dilts says:
“At some level all behavior is (or at one time was) “positively intended.” It is or was perceived as appropriate given the context in which it was established, from the point of view of the person whose behavior it is. It is easier and more productive to respond to the intention rather than the expression of a problematic behavior. “
Here are the steps to Find Positive Intentions in the whatever you do…
Step #1. Define the problem.
Briefly state the problem with enough detail so that it is clear in your mind. Mind must be clear about what
the exact problem is. It may primarily be a situation, personal problem, or a challenge. Define what meaning you
give to an Unproductive Behavior. Be clear about what behavior is productive. State the reason for the meaning you gave,
why any particular behavior is unproductive as per you. You must be clear about it, with no confusions.
Step #2. Reveal the Underlying Motives
Take a few minutes to relax, breathe deeply and lay back. Now, go inside, imagine your mind has special internal messengers.”
These are parts of your personality, which have characteristic tendencies or habitual behaviors.
Find the part that is responsible for generating the unproductive behavior.
Bring this part into awareness as though it were a complete personality.
Remember that a part is an aspect of you.
A part is like a little personality inside of you. In order to be aligned and successful,
you must not work at cross purposes with yourself. This requires negotiating or working with your parts.
Now imagine that you can do a role playing game with this particular part. Ask the part what it
wanted to have, do or become, through the negative behavior or attitude. What value or benefit it
expects to get from this. Ask directly, “What did you wish for me to accomplish by doing this?”
Take as much time as you need to imagine and listen to the part’s responses.
Step #3. Get to the core motives.
Keep asking “why” and “what” questions to clarify the motives. Recycle each answer into a new question.
Practice questioning until you feel that you have gotten to the core motives. You should identify a
core belief along with the core value and core reasons for the behaviors or attitudes that, at first glance,
seem to be unsupportive of you.
Anchoring is how we get into the right state for what we want to do.
You connect a symbol with the desired state, or resource state. It’s called a resource state, because
you are more resourceful when you are in that state. This is the state when you can
make the best use of the resources you have. Of course, the state must be a good resource state
for what you have in mind. It must be congruent to what you wished to accomplish. If you have
intense confidence and desire for opportunity as a resource state, it would be very
good for a job interview, and maybe not so good for being a grief counselor.
Here’s a Short yet Useful Script that will surely help you to practice Anchoring on your own-self.
Decide what state you want to create an anchor for. For example, perhaps you would like
to anchor a good state for meeting and negotiating. Whatever it is chose one … Move into
third position, as if you are watching your life in a movie. Recall all the times that you felt
some aspect of that state.
Every time you feel some aspect of the desired state, amplify it and expand it.
See yourself in the movie experiencing that state, and let yourself as the observer
feel it as well. (That’s a little different from the usual third position experience.)
Keep doing that until you feel the state intensely …
Each time you think of a time in which you felt some aspect of that state, see what
is most visually positive and compelling. Emphasize those visual elements in the
movie. Hear what is most audibly positive and compelling … Hear any words that
others said or that you could say that are most mentally positive and compelling …
Feel what is most palpably positive and compelling … Feel whatever internal
sensations are most positive and compelling, like feeling very up or expansive … See
yourself now, standing in a nice place,fully feeling that state, and see how you look
in that state–your facial expression, your posture, you can even add cosmic energy
of just the right color streaming into your aura.
Now create a sign with your hand such as an OK sign, one that you would not
do very often, or interlace your fingers in the opposite way from normal, and hold
that position while you imagine moving into first position (directly in the feelings)
with your eyes closed (so there are no distractions from the feeling), and savor the
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About a hundred years ago, a man looked at the morning newspaper and to his surprise and horror, read his name in the obituary column. The news papers had reported the death of the wrong person by mistake. His first response was shock. Am I here or there? When he regained his composure, his second thought was to find out what people had said about him.
The obituary read, “Dynamite King Dies.” And also “He was the merchant of death.” This man was the inventor of dynamite and when he read the words “merchant of death,” he asked himself a question, “Is this how I am going to be remembered?” He got in touch with his feelings and decided that this was not the way he wanted to be remembered.
From that day on, he started working toward peace. His name was Alfred Nobel and he is remembered today by the great Nobel Prize. Alfred Nobel 1833-1896 Since 1901, the Nobel Prize has been honoring men and women from all corners of the globe for outstanding achievements in physics, chemistry, medicine, literature, and for work in peace.
The foundations for the prize were laid in 1895 when Alfred Nobel wrote his last will, leaving much of his wealth to the establishment of the Nobel Prize Just as Alfred Nobel got in touch with his feelings and redefined his values, we should step back and do the same.
What is your legacy?
How would you like to be remembered?
Will you be spoken well of?
Will you be remembered with love and respect?
Will you be missed? !!!
#Remember:- Your Life is a your message to the world, make sure its Inspiring.